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Mother going on luxury holiday alone

52 replies

zeezeek · 16/07/2014 20:36

Ok, I have a huge confession....whilst waiting for an outpatients appt today I looked through the DM.

I am sorry. If it is any consolation my DH has warned me that such behaviour will not be tolerated again and that it is indeed grounds for divorce and him seeking sole custody of the DDs!!

Anyway, saw this story about the women who spent thousands on a holiday to some exotic island for herself, whilst her DH and DC spent a week or so in a caravan in wet Dorset.

Now, I have worked away from my family for 3 months, I've gone to conferences and meetings in naice places on my own and had a great time....BUT they are all work related. I would never dream of taking a holiday on my own whilst my family slummed it in a caravan....or am I missing something here?

PS have nothing against caravans btw....

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zeezeek · 16/07/2014 21:17

I was being ironic re DM but guess it is typical of DM readers to take it seriously.

Think it's time to bow out now.

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Shakey1500 · 16/07/2014 21:21

Another one who says live and let live.

I would jump at the chance and, as a pp says, nobody is or should be joined at the hip.

DH, I and DS are off to Greece in 4 weeks (yay!) with some extended family and a close friend. DS (7) wants to visit a place which will last the whole day. Everyone is going except me Grin THIS is what I will be doing-

Intermittently lying on sunbed
Listening to Sondheim on earphones
Lunching at my favourite beachside taverna
Reading To Kill A Mockingbird (twas free on Amazon Kindle)
Sipping ice cold white wine
People watching

Utter, uninterrupted, well deserved BLISS.

Edenviolet · 16/07/2014 21:23

I'd love to go on a holiday alone. A few years ago I'd have thought her selfish but not now. Perhaps she really needed a break, I know I do and would jump at the chance!

Cantbelievethisishappening · 16/07/2014 21:25

Zee Typical of DM readers to take it seriously? Really? I call bullshit on that comment

Maisyblue · 16/07/2014 21:27

I read it and apparently she's used up their 5 grand life savings. Couldn't believe how selfish and entitled.

Plateofcrumbs · 16/07/2014 21:27

My mum and dad used to go on separate ( expensive) holidays to exotic destinations - my mum was into history/archeology, my dad into mountains/landscapes. Then we would have UK-based cheap family holiday (usually staying in a youth hostel or something).

We used to enjoy the family holidays (and I doubt we would have enjoyed trekking through the Gobi desert or whatever it was my parents were up to that year), and never felt we were missing out. Seemed to work out OK for everyone.

ICanSeeTheSun · 16/07/2014 21:27

I take it you are bowing out because it wasn't the replys you was expecting.

Back2Two · 16/07/2014 21:29

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NoArmaniNoPunani · 16/07/2014 21:30

If my DH didn't like holidays I'd rather go alone than not go

QueenTilly · 16/07/2014 21:30

Is it an arrangement which is approved by all the family?

If dad and kids want a caravan holiday and she wants an island holiday, then now all are happy.

If dad and kids themselves feel a caravan is 'slumming it' and would have preferred a more expensive destination, then familial discord may follow.

gamerchick · 16/07/2014 21:33

Wasn't that article written by that brick woman? It's a total none story even in print.. I would like to hear the proper story just out of curiosity.

gamerchick · 16/07/2014 21:35

And caravan holidays are the shizzle.. I wouldn't call it slumming it either.

ThatBloodyWoman · 16/07/2014 22:11

Perhaps it was something she had always dreamed off, she inherited some money, but her dh either didn't want her to take the kids so far, or someone was afraid of flying.

I long to go to Goa.I would take the opportunity if I got it and the rest were ok with it!

drudgetrudy · 16/07/2014 22:22

Saw DM today when visiting my Mum-it really excelled itself today.

Article judging the new female cabinet ministers on their appearance and dress sense-
scaremongering article suggesting women who have suffered from anxiety or depression won't cope if they have a baby.

Above article

Photo of prince Harry's ex-scantily clad -"don't you miss her now,Harry or something.
Oh and the mother who spent her benefits on cannabis for her daughter
AND an article suggesting family life was better in the 1950s

Don't know why women read it-but they do.

Galvanized · 16/07/2014 22:25

Yes you are missing something, that is that you are a hypocrite. Presumably she doesn't get a break like you by going away with work? So why not have a holiday on her own?

Anyway you know the DM has spun the story to be as woman-bashing as possible, well done for getting sucked into that.

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zeezeek · 17/07/2014 20:04

Yeah, maybe I am a hypocrite and extremely lucky that I get to travel a lot. So yes, I suppose that has influenced my beliefs.

I did also see the story about the reshuffle - but decided to not even read it for fear of what it would do to my BP.

In future, however, I will ensure that I have more intelligent and reasonable reading matter on me when attending hospital appointments.

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dexter73 · 17/07/2014 20:24

Take a Break can be quite entertaining Wink

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zeezeek · 17/07/2014 20:45

Love that one. Always makes me feel superior Grin

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ForalltheSaints · 17/07/2014 20:57

If there is somewhere one person always wanted to visit and the other really would find it boring or maybe has a fear of flying then it is not totally unreasonable in my view.

Pity that whilst at the outpatients the DM couldn't have 'accidentally' ended up in a bin.

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zeezeek · 17/07/2014 21:01

The next appt is in cardiology rather than orthopaedics - so hopefully they will have a better standard of reading matter!!!

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dexter73 · 17/07/2014 21:42

I bet they have gardening magazines, The Lady or Country Living in the cardiology dept to keep you nice and calm. If they had the DM there who knows what might happen to your heart while you are waiting for your appointment!

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zeezeek · 17/07/2014 22:27

Exactly!! Country Living it is then...look out for my next thread to be about interesting places of interest in Oxfordshire.....

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CarbeDiem · 17/07/2014 22:36

I think she was selfish.

The reason iirc in the article, why the whole family didn't go was because they couldn't afford it.
It was also said the rest of the family only had a £70 or £75 food budget for their week away.

FriendlyAmoeba · 18/07/2014 00:23
  1. There's no such thing as an unbiased news source. Webpages need eyeballs to get money from ad revenue. So I don't know why the hate on DM, when it's really no worse than any other news source.
  1. Just because you become a mother doesn't mean you have to throw away your old identity. It's ok to put yourself first, you don't need to a martyr to prove what a good mother you are. Happy parents = happy children.
  1. Why do you care about someone else's vacation?

Personally I get bored doing things by myself because I like to share my experiences with someone. But it's not selfish to go on vacation alone while someone else goes on a vacation they like. Selfish would be going on vacation, while your partner got nothing.

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