AIBU about changing my sheets?

[CarmineRose1978]

I had a conversation at work this week with a few of my colleagues about how often we change out bedding. I and several of my friends say they should be changed once a week, once a fortnight at least. But a couple of my younger colleagues (I'm talking 28, so not teenagers!) said they change theirs every couple of months to every four or five months. Ditto their towels because "they are clean when they get out of the shower". Were we unreasonable to a) practically boak and b) tell them they're old enough to know better, in no uncertain terms? Should we have held our peace instead of hoiking our judgey pants sky high?

When it smells, I wash it. Usually get a couple of uses out of towels (I have separate body towels and hair/face towels), sheets... as I said, until they start to smell rank.

I also don't iron, nor have I ever turned or hoovered a mattress. Amazingly, I am still alive.

icklebird What do you do if you have sex more than once in a night? Do you change the bed twice? And if you do it again in the morning ? I wouldn't have enough sets of bedding .

Towels I not sure to be honest. In the summer I tend to drip dry naked!

Sheets and towels weekly on a 60 degree speedy wash.

At uni I lived with a guy who never changed his sheets. After several months I couldn't bear it so I asked if I could wash boil his sheets for him. He was delighted. I washed and line dried them. I returned them smelling fresh and lovely and the lazy fucker never remade the bloody bed. He slept on a bare mattress with a nude pillow and duvet until the end of term.

He also kept his towel in a tennis ball tube so it never really dried.

BOAK.

He also kept his towel in a tennis ball tube so it never really dried

Lol! Why on earth? Nowt so queer as folk...

I change sheets not-often-enough (between 2 to 3 weeks)
I change towels once a week or more if manky/musty.
I don't have a tumble drier, and reckon you people who change more often must have one?

Well i change the sheets and pillowcases weekly but the duvet cover fortnightly (i dunno,dont ask) I cant sleep on a crumpled sheet in bed,i feel like its not right it has to be smooth and I iron all my bedding because I hate creases and i like things to look nice,my brain tells me its not clean if its creased (omg im so weird)
Oh no you cant just put bedding on the bed out of the packet!!its not washed!The packet creases!!Also you cant get the creases out properly even with the iron us you havent washed them first!!!tut you wouldnt buy curtains and hang them up without ironing them....would you?

Changing sheets after sex?! Thats like having a shower after sex.

I mean really, who can be fucking arsed?! What happened to Hump, hug, sleep? What is the OH doing while the sheet changing is going on? PRobably having a shower so he doesnt contaminate the fresh sheets!

Hmm, well sheets 3-4 weeks, towels prob 2-3 unless they obviously need it. We air beds in the mornings and have an effective towel rail. But honestly, that's enough for me, and we don't have a tumble-dryer!

I change sheets every week, and wish I could bothered to change more often.
At university, I was shocked that some people changed their sheets only at the end of term.
My cousin's sheets are filthy and grey, with dirty places on the pillowcases where one's head lies. Does anyone ever go to a relative's house and want to clean? Everything is filthy, including her children.

My dp would sleep in sheets that have had sex in no problem, we are not in the habit of having sex frequently lack of time and opportunity so running out of bed sheets isnt a problem.

Mrsvestibule I bathe in the after glow while dp showers and then I shower. :-) maybe saying immediately after was a bad description but atleast within the hour of having had sex.

We dont usually have sex late at night or too early so no sleep disruptions.

I change the sheets at least twice a week here. Sometimes twice a night. I have a baby who likes to puke a lot though. Ditto towels.
Before he came along it was about once a week ish.

Please, please, please, don't let this descend into "crispy sex towel II - the sequel".

I change bedding every 4-6 weeks, towels when they smell, wear underwear to bed and shower / wash hair daily.

I read the "change sheets after sex" as "change the next day even if it's quite soon after the last change" (which is what I do) rather than "leap up and start changing bedding while he's still getting his breath back".

sugary I moved house 3 months ago and don't even know where the iron is.
No, I would not iron curtains!

I never understand why people say they wash the towels because they are wet, doesn't washing them get them wet? Why not just hang them out to dry?

I wear knickers and pj's in bed which probably absorb most sweat. I shower every morning.

My bed doesn't smell. I am clean starting each day. Why would I change the bed more regularly than every every month?

I think to blindly do something because you always have, or your mum always has, without actually thinking about the reasons you do something, is a bit silly. If I slept naked, or had sex every night then I would change the sheets more regularly.

ObfusKate

TBH I'm horrified at the number of people who simply sleep in the same sheets all night. Surely it's no great effort to pop a fresh set of sheets on at about 4am?

I change all the bedding hourly. Clean duvet every time too. Think of all the bodily fluids that the duvet may have picked up?

Washing machine has worn out, no idea why.

On a serious note, we change bedding weekly and towels twice a week. Hand towels daily. I do try to leave a gap between bed being stripped and remade to give it a chance to air but this doesn't always happen.

YABU to have a go at your colleagues & then come on here & bitch about them.

In fairness, they are probably bitching about the older ladies in their office to their pals.

So you have not really done much for creating a positive team environment and building constructive working relationships. That would be more useful behaviour to model as an older colleague to younger workers than how uptight you are about their laundry.

Oh please! Like bitching about people on MN is in anyway unusual. I may have BU to tell them they were gross, but talking about it on here? Are you taking the mick?

We're not that much older than them, which was kind of our point - early to mid-thirties, and their late twenties. And to be honest, I'd much rather be bitched about because I have high standards of cleanliness than because I'm foul and gross. If one of my pals had complained about something like that when we were all in our late twenties, I would have rolled my eyes at them, not agreed that washing sheets once every four months was acceptable.

And as for saying we're being uptight because we think changing towels every six months is dirty... from that I'm going to assume that you have similar habits to them! And yes, I'm judging you for it.

We change sheets either weekly or fortnightly -always done at a weekend so depends how busy we are. Towels are done weekly unless they are filthy.

Dc are responsible for their own bedding, and I dread to think how rarely they change their bedding, but that is their lookout.

I really don't get how people manage to wash their sheets, towels etc more often. By the time I get home from work and stuff washing in the machine, it's too late to hang it on the line, so it sits in the basket (wet) until I can stick it out in the morning. How do people manage to do three loads per day?

Dh works from home two days per week, so does his laundry on those days, but me and the 2 dc have to use the machine in the evening after work and school. Obviously it's easier with school holidays coming up as they can do their washing during the day. Its a nightmare in termtime.

Judge all you like - I don't have to work with you.

My central point is that slagging of your colleagues, both to their face & behind their backs, is unprofessional & petty. How often someone changes their bedlinen is irrelevant in a work environment.

Perhaps you could learn some lessons from your younger colleagues about creating a professional and supportive work environment and appropriate work behaviour? You're never to old to learn.

Your colleagues are mingers.
I'm a once a week girl, winter and summer.

I used to work with a young man who bought two pairs of trousers for every suit because according to him, the fabric just wears away at the crotch otherwise. Then it transpired that he had never had them cleaned

I am with you on the sheets and bedding changes carmine but NO WAY would I make up my bed in the morning.
The thought of all those dust mites festering/breeding/eating/laughing at me in that unaired bed ALL DAY