to think that this is the biggest insult to have recieved?

[gwhappylife]

I honestly don't think I'm exaggerating by calling it a huge insult but I was in the middle of cooking tonight's dinner. For those who don't already know, my MIL is Nigerian and only eats Nigerian food which I try to cook to a Nigerian standard.

Anyway, I was in the middle of preparing the stew to cook the jollof rice and my(DH's) cousin knocked on the door with hollow rice and fish stew in her hand. Obviously it was in containers, and said "my mum cooked this for your mum, she told me to drop it off to you as she's so busy but your mum wanted this? I'm just the messenger"

I said thank you and wished her a lovely rest of the day but when I shit the door behind me I couldn't stop my jaw from hitting the floor.

aibu to find that to be a huge insult? She's been staying here for over a week now, so it's not like it's the first day.. even if it was it's still rude but my goodness!

I'm in the kitchen cleaning up, I've frozen the blended stew and ilk cook if some other time but the chicken is on the oven and what am I expected to do with that now since my(DH's) aunty cooked fish for MIL.

I'm so angry.

Nicename, the problem here is not the aunt, it's the MIL.

Only eats Nigerian food? I'd let her starve.

But if OP is cooking Nigerian food, there's no need to send any!

If the sister(?) wants to cook for the MIL-invite her round!!

Apparently the MIL asked her sister to send the food.

From the OP: "my mum cooked this for your mum, she told me to drop it off to you as she's so busy but your mum wanted this? I'm just the messenger"

Yes, I forgot

MIL could have at least told OP not to cook for her that evening.

I'm thinking that Nigerian food isn't just stew & rice?

My cousin brought her own curry once when she came to stay with her DH and DCs. Her DH is so fussy she just couldn't imagine that he would eat anything we cooked. I tried to think it was for the best but just couldn't stop myself from being totally gobsmacked and offended. People are weird.

Ah well, at least you have a meal you didn't have to cook but you are definitely not BU!

Sounds like both Aunt and cousin know the score and are embarrassed, hence the 'only the messenger' and Aunt's so busy comments.