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To think she should pay?

95 replies

notatallslimshady · 12/07/2014 15:15

Namechanged as don't want to be outed.

DD17 was desparate to see a well known act - one word, starts with E, please don't mention it as she is bound to check Mumsnet to see if I have posted about it, in West London tonight.

Her dad bought her a ticket for £80 for her birthday. Her best mate bought the tickets for DD, BF, and another girl to go and XH paid BF the £80.

When the tickets arrived, there were 6 instead of 3, so the BF sold three of them.

DD goes to London today to go to the gig, has talked about little else for months. Turns out, the Act was also on last night. BF has sold DDs ticket which was for tonight and left the three girls with the tickets for last night which are now obviously useless. BF and the other girl have coughed up £100 each to a tout for tickets for tonight. DD doesn't have £100 so they have let her travel the 2.5 hours home alone.

I am beyond livid on DD behalf. I have spoken to her and she doesn't think BF will be reimbursing her/XH for the £80 he has paid for the ticket BF then sold ( and kept the money for)

I do realise she made a mistake but AIBU in expecting her to pay the money back as it was her mistake and DD/XH shouldn't be out of pocket?

Thanks Vipers.

OP posts:
Original poster
notatallslimshady · 12/07/2014 20:36

DD has gone out straight from London ( don't think she wants to face me) with some other friends which I am really pleased about so hopefully she will develop other friendships.

I will bear in mind that she may well take it out on me for a fucking change rather than admit out loud that she knows EF has done her a disservice.

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Ronmione · 12/07/2014 20:55

I don't know what happened re the tickets that were sold/what the expectations were there from the people that bought them - that bit isn't really my problem to be honest.

Whilst I understand it's not your problem, but in a way it is, because if she sold 3 tickets at £80 and the 3 pp couldn't use them I doubt that they having been in touch with the bf, which could lead me to believe that fb never brought tickets and just pocketed the £80.

Which is worse for your dd, but I find it hard to believe the other 3 from yesterday didn't contact dd

CrapBag · 12/07/2014 21:31

Wow what a shitty thing for her 'BF' to do.

She should pay back the money for the ticket and she also should have stumped up the money for the tout ticket for your dd as well.

I wouldn't be able to let this go.

Pipbin · 12/07/2014 22:15

I don't know what happened re the tickets that were sold/what the expectations were there from the people that bought them - that bit isn't really my problem to be honest.

It isn't your problem but it will answer where the mistake happened in a way. I can't believe that she sold tickets that she thought were for a different night for at least the face value and no one has picked her up on it.

pluCaChange · 12/07/2014 23:00

If she were a real friend, and had truly made a mistake, surely she would have either gone home with DD (no concert fir either if them, but also no trip home alone on DD's bday), or paid for DD to taje her ticket (reimbursing the 80, possibly adding a "present" of 20, or possibly just slimming her ptofit margin on the sold 3 tickets).

Your poor girl!

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 12/07/2014 23:24

I may be tired but I'm racking my brains trying to think of a well known act that begins with E????
Erasure?
Eternal?
Elton???

slithytove · 12/07/2014 23:28

Slightly more current Sharon

Think small round chocolates Grin

QueenHaakonVII · 12/07/2014 23:37

If you work it out don't write it down as the OP doesn't want her DD to search on Mumsnet for it.

ChasedByBees · 12/07/2014 23:52

Bloody hell, as a parent to your DD, could you sue the other girl? No way would she get the ticket or the other gig before being paid for this one, but even getting the money back isn't going to compensate for being ditched in London, along with all the travel costs around that.

cerealqueen · 13/07/2014 00:13

Money issues aside, the 'friends' went to the gig your DD had been looking forward to as a birthday gift from her dad and let her go home on her own as she couldn't afford it, having been totally shafted.

They are all horrible. London is a huge place with lots to do. They should have dome something else and BF refunded DD, not gone to the gig without her. Just Shock Shock Angry

attheendoftheday · 13/07/2014 00:30

While I think that ethically the friend should pay dd the money back, at 17 I think it is something then need to sort out themselves, I don't think it will be at all helpful to your dd to get too involved.

If you are going to sell on the ticket the friend has already paid for to recoup the money you need to be clear about it, I think it would be mean to deliberately get her hopes up then let her be left out. Even if she did it to your dd, two wrongs don't make a right.

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 13/07/2014 00:34

Eclair?

pluCaChange · 13/07/2014 00:37

I've PMed you, sharon. Smile

sharonthewaspandthewineywall · 13/07/2014 00:41

Thanks I was thinking of a kiddy pop group type thing

RitaConnors · 13/07/2014 00:42

Mini Eggs?

TheTerribleBaroness · 13/07/2014 00:47

The OP's username is also a massive clue. Wink

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow · 13/07/2014 00:48

Its also strange that two of the three people happened to have £100 on them in order to buy tout tickets.

What 17 year old has £100 spare cash on them?

PhaedraIsMyName · 13/07/2014 03:17

Did your daughter see wrong tickets or was she just told this is what happened?

PhaedraIsMyName · 13/07/2014 03:18

Thanks I was thinking of a kiddy pop group type thing

Not quite.

PhaedraIsMyName · 13/07/2014 03:24

Sorry, I see you answered my question.

One more where and when did they buy the ticket from the tout? A £20 mark-up on an £80 sold out (I assume? ) show sounds remarkably unsharklike.

giraffescantboogie · 13/07/2014 03:43

LMAO at Elton!

GrannyOnTheSchoolRun · 13/07/2014 04:14

I think I would encourage her to not have the BF in her life and as a means of getting her away from her I'd forget about the 80 pounds and get her another birthday present.

I'd also let her see this thread. It may help her to understand that if a bunch of strangers are saying the friend is no friend whatsoever, then its probably true.

ConstableOdo · 13/07/2014 06:11

Sounds like the mix-up was an honest mistake, but couldn't BF/EF/EBF have paid a tout for a third ticket as immediate restitution? If she'd sold 3 tickets, she'd have had the money to do so.

The decision to go to the gig without your DD really sucked. I am hoping you update us with stories of grovelling apologies and appropriate recompense.

CheerfulYank · 13/07/2014 06:32

She should pay. Your poor DD. :(

SignYourName · 13/07/2014 06:50

Did your DD know BF had bought three extra tickets before last night, or was she first told of it as an explanation for the wrong dates when they checked the tickets?

Just wondering if there really were three extra tickets or if BF just got the dates mixed up when she ordered the three actually needed and is now spinning a yarn to try to explain it?

Either way, your poor DD - she definitely needs some better friends!