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Commenting negatively on my Christmas due date

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Amber76 · 12/07/2014 10:02

I don't think I'm being unreasonable at all - just want to vent.

I'm pregnant and due on Christmas day (though it will be a caesarean so likely to be one week earlier). I am sick, sick, sick of people saying "oh, terrible time of the year to have a baby" - yes, thank you for your opinion, I'm aware its not ideal but there's not a whole lot I can do about it.

My sister in law, who has a child born on the 13th December, said how "awful" it would be to have a baby on the 18th December as that was the same week as Christmas. But that her darling born on the 13th was , thankfully, born far enough away from Christmas so that the birthday wouldn't get lost in Christmas celebrations. I just said we don't care when the baby comes as long as its healthy which is true but wish I'd said something more to show her what nonsense she was spouting.

Rant over..

OP posts:

Haggismcbaggis · 12/07/2014 11:11

Nonsense! My third child was due 24th dec. she came on the 30th. I always call her my special Christmas present she loves that. Good luck!

Cruikshank · 12/07/2014 11:12

I agree that you should just tell them to fuck off. Ds is a Xmas Eve baby and he loves it - I'm never at work on his birthday, he's never at school and as he grows up he probably won't work on his birthday either. It's such a magical time for children - all the lights up, the tree is up etc, loads of people around, loads of get-togethers going on, Santa comes, all that sort of stuff. And also as he gets older he'll never be short of people who want to go out for drinks on his birthday. I think it's actually really quite nice to have a birthday at a point in the year when everyone is focused on seeing each other and spending time together rather than trying to fit it in around work/hectic schedules etc. Plus, there is something rather gorgeous and magical about having a baby when the whole of the Xtian world is thinking about and celebrating one baby - there are deep cultural resonances to it, even for someone like me who is not religious. You'll have a great time, OP, and fuck the naysayers - enjoy your baby!

tiggytape · 12/07/2014 11:14

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freezation · 12/07/2014 11:16

DD1 was born on December 13th (due on 23rd) and although Christmas passed me by a bit that year it was a lovely time to have a baby. I'm pregnant now (although with twins), due in September and it was so much easier being heavily pregnant in winter. Children love birthdays whenever they are. YANDBU and you can tell anyone who comments that if it was good enough for Jesus then it's good enough for your baby

PlantsAndFlowers · 12/07/2014 11:16

I have a Christmas Brithday and I love it. I know that really everyone is not celebrating my birthday, but as a child I used to feel sorry for other children who's birthdays were at more boring times of year.

DeputyPecksBentBeak · 12/07/2014 11:17

My ds will be one on 27th. I call him my little Christmas pudding

It was nice being pregnant with the cold weather, though I was an emotional wreck with all the santa crap. Your baby's birthday will be what you make it

BiscuitsAreMyDownfall · 12/07/2014 11:19

DD1 was due Christmas day. I spent 9 months thinking that it will be fine it's not many people who are born on their due date. She was. I think because she is a Christmas day baby we actually make more of an effort with it than we do for DSs or DD2s birthday. It's fine, just ignore them. Everyone else always knows best or so they think.

neolara · 12/07/2014 11:21

My do was born on 28th Dec. To be honest, it's not great for parties and presents.

JerseySpud · 12/07/2014 11:22

i am an end of november baby, my niece is a christmas period birthday and my DD1 is a middle of january birthday.

I get more selection of stuff because christmas stuff is out, my niece has a day all to herself over christmas and i get my dd1s stuff in the sales.

Win win

QuietTiger · 12/07/2014 11:30

OP, I am in the exact same situation as you, in that I am due on Christmas day and will probably have an ECLS a week earlier. I'm just entertaining myself with telling people that I'm going to be naming the baby "Herod", or "Jesus", or "Mary".

My friends have been taking the piss asking if it's the second coming of the messiah, but TBH, after what DH and I have been through we won't give a shit about the arrival date, we just want the baby to arrive safely.

Bollocks to the people giving you grief - they're idiots.

HoobleDooble · 12/07/2014 11:34

My DS's birthday is 18th Dec and he loves the FACT that Santa brings his birthday presents when he's doing his trial run ready for Christmas
Do agree that parties can be a pain in the bum, with people cancelling as they have last minute things to do. We're going to try and do a mid-week after school one this year rather than a weekend.

Dontgotosleep · 12/07/2014 11:35

Christmas is a lovely time to have a baby. Just think you're going to be holding your little prince or princess in your arms on christmas day. How can there be any negativity in that.
Also you'll have all year to save up for both birthday and christmas.
Are you giving him/her a christmassy name.

PickledinGin · 12/07/2014 11:37

My daughter was born Christmas Eve. The best and most beautiful Christmas gift I could have ever wished for.

My niece is a few days after Christmas and she thinks the whole festive season is just one big party done all in her honour.

everythinghippie29 · 12/07/2014 11:42

DS is the 20th Dec (he was due the 6th!!) We get all of these comment so just shrug them off now. It is a bit like all of the other annoying 'baby' comments though!

Met a lot of mums at baby group with babies the same age and so arranged a 'half' birthday for all of our babies without Xmas stress!

BiscuitsAreMyDownfall · 12/07/2014 11:43

A good thing about Christmas babies is not having to go to school on their birthday.

OutsSelf · 12/07/2014 11:49

My son was born on Christmas Day, we do the half birthday party thing, which means a lovely summer party as well as an extra special Christmas, with a very useful caveat when planning Christmas, which can be quite a fraught thing in our extended family. It also got me very clearly out of Christmas dinner and I've never gone back in, ha ha. I may also have referred to it in an argument, as a sort of mother of god claim.

We all think it's a lovely time for a birthday, everyone does react to him like he must be very special indeed when we say.

OP, I think folks just like to have something to say, and it's the first thing that pops into their tiny minds. I wouldn't take it too personally, though do concede that pg generally is a time to find any old reason to rant, it's such an aggravating condition. People chewing their food caused me the rage, iirc. Rant away! You're having a baby, you can do what you like.

cariadmawr · 12/07/2014 11:53

Ds2was born on the 13th but was due boxing day I know 2 people who are Xmas day birthdays . always used to day saving on presents that year was getting grandson nephew etc instead . no its not the best just for the child but as you say you will prob go early as section but a child is blessing whenever born .

Topaz25 · 12/07/2014 12:10

My brother was born on the 17th of December, he was actually early and we joked that he didn't want to miss Christmas! It never caused a problem. People are being negative, don't let them bring you down. You will have the best Christmas present ever!

MizLizLemon · 12/07/2014 12:19

DD's is on the 23rd, and it works out fine, in fact she loves her Christmas birthday. We go to the panto and out to dinner on her birthday and with all the lights, decs and general atmosphere it's great. My half-sister's birthday is on the 27th and I think she gets the rough end of it, by then everybody is over partying and no one wants to go out. If you've got a choice (as in CS) go for before rather than after Christmas.

tobysmum77 · 12/07/2014 12:20

I was due on the 6th Jan with dd2. It was awful Christmas had got to that stage where I was bloody uncomfortable, felt like a freak show and instead I had to socialise with people telling me I looked tiny or huge .

January imo is the worst time to have a birthday when everyone is broke after Christmas and fed up with being back at work. Dh is also January so I have prior experience. Getting a baby for Christmas is just awesome. 18th isn't even that near anyway.

But really our birthdays are when they are.

hamptoncourt · 12/07/2014 12:27

YANBU. Some people are just ridiculously nasty.

If you think about it, around 1 in 50 people has their birthday around Christmas/New Year statistically so it's hardly uncommon.

Congratulations on your pregnancy.

mowbraygirl · 12/07/2014 12:31

My DS was due on Christmas Day I got fed up of the comments about bad timing. As it took me a year to fall pregnant with DD I thought that maybe we would have a summer baby. Mother nature had other ideas and I fell pregnant the first month of trying. Ds was too comfy where he was and like his sister had to be induced and was born on 5th January.

Congratulations on your pregnancy and try and ignore the comments.

IAmAPaleontologist · 12/07/2014 12:35

Dd's birthday is the 23rd (and ds1 was due 27th but didn't show up until well into January). It is a lovely time of year to have a baby, makes it nice and easy to have fun things to do for a birthday day out . Dd loves that time of year, she finds it really special. I always give her the choice as to when to put the tree and lights and things up (before or after birthday) and we have a rule that all her presents for her birthday have to be delivered to us on time, relatives are NOT allowed to give both christmas and birthday at once when they see us for Christmas so we keep them separate.

Sallystyle · 12/07/2014 12:51

One of mine was born on the 20th.

I was heavily pregnant in the run up of xmas and felt crap. I was shattered on Xmas day and I had three other children and it was hectic and horrible. I had hyperemesis for 9 months straight so I was in very poor health so it was probably more that than anything else. It was lovely having her here and it was great that the family all got to see her. It was just hard for me having the craziness of xmas day when I was still feeling weak and the baby blues had just kicked in.

My daughter is now 7 and she doesn't like her birthday being near Christmas because her brothers get presents in June and they only have six months to wait for new presents and she has to wait a whole year. I am sure she will grow out of that complaint though. Mind you, my MIL has her birthday on the 14th and she still hates it she also hates that people wrap her presents up in Xmas paper; which I think at her age really isn't a big deal. I wonder if her vocal dislike of having a December birthday has rubbed off on my daughter.

I also had a Jan baby and that was a nice time. I hate January and having a baby in that horrible month was lovely. She is also lucky that she gets a lot of toys in the sale

I wouldn't comment negatively to anyone else. That was just my experience and I know many others who loved having their baby at Xmas and many other people with birthdays in December who enjoy having their birthdays at such an exciting time of year. Either way, a baby is a blessing no matter when it is born.

Congratulations

MyLegIsHaunted · 12/07/2014 12:53

My dd was born on the 19th. When we got discharged from hospital a few days later we took her to get a photo with Santa, she was so tiny she fit in the palm of his hand.
She's almost 8 now and she absolutely treasures that photo of her newborn self snuggled in santa's white glove

We've never had a problem with birthday parties and there's always plenty of choice when doing her birthday shopping!

Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and meeting your little Christmas bundle

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