Commenting negatively on my Christmas due date

[Amber76]

I don't think I'm being unreasonable at all - just want to vent.

I'm pregnant and due on Christmas day (though it will be a caesarean so likely to be one week earlier). I am sick, sick, sick of people saying "oh, terrible time of the year to have a baby" - yes, thank you for your opinion, I'm aware its not ideal but there's not a whole lot I can do about it.

My sister in law, who has a child born on the 13th December, said how "awful" it would be to have a baby on the 18th December as that was the same week as Christmas. But that her darling born on the 13th was , thankfully, born far enough away from Christmas so that the birthday wouldn't get lost in Christmas celebrations. I just said we don't care when the baby comes as long as its healthy which is true but wish I'd said something more to show her what nonsense she was spouting.

Rant over..

Well my BDay is the first week of June which was hideous as it meant I had an O level on my 16th, and A level on my 18th and didn't finish my finals until the day after my 21st!
They are being rather insensitive but probably don't realise.

DD was due on Christmas Eve but ended up arriving 2 weeks 'late'.

It's possible to make a case for good and bad points about a birthday at any time of the year. Just ignore or change the subject. Some people don't have a filter before stuff comes out of their mouths.

DS was due Christmas Day (although ended up refusing to be evicted until a week later). It's summer for us, so long holidays, which we spend overseas. Gee poor bugger having to spend his birthdays on holidays. Besides, the whole world throws him a party with fireworks, then a day off to recover the day after!

Also, I think it's also something like 5% of babies are born on their due date. So you're more likely not to than to.

I always send a card with something as un-Christmassy as possible to my friend who is a Christmas Day birthday.

And a side note. It's so much better being heavily pregnant in the colder weather.

My birthday is 23rd december, its all good, i'm over it now! Dd's due date was xmas day, she hung on an extra 2 weeks though.

I'd hate to have my birthday near Christmas, but it's not like you can exactly plan when you're going to fall pregnant - especially if you're trying for a while. Do they think all couples TTC should take a break for a couple of months in the spring to make sure the don't get a December baby? Very silly. Congratulations on your little one, Christmas will be extra special for you this year.

ignore ignore. theyre being ridiculous. apart from some family members trying to give one gift 'this is your birthday and Xmas present ' having a birthday near Xmas is fine. I always get lovely gifts as there's more choice that time of year .

My mum and I both have birthdays within Christmas week. Yes it can be a bit annoying growing up and receiving joint Xmas/birthday presents or birthday presents wrapped in Xmas paper. And having a birthday party is a bit pointless as nobody would turn up (that happened on my 18th) but in the grand scheme of things I've not had a worse life because of it. I would have hated to have a birthday during exam times though.

My dd is the 19th dec and its a lovely time! All festive and everyones happy to pile into our house for cake and tea and present giving - yet to encounter anyone giving "joint" presents. Dh is a teaching assistant too so he is either off or nearly finished for christmas and the whole of those two weeks are just full of cheer.

This baby is due Oct half term and again, im pleased to have a winter baby for snuggling in on cold days and everyone popping to see me rather than me having to go out and about.

My DCs have festive birthdays - I love it! All my memories of those times are twinkly lights, snow on the ground and new babies - best Christmas presents ever IMO.
It's my favourite time of year, and the kids think it's magic!

Mines on the 19th and I love it! My ds is in the 12th. Nothing more magical than a Christmas baby. Congratulations. :)

I'm a Christmas Day baby and it is a rubbish time to have a birthday but I would never be so rude to tell anyone that who was due on Christmas Day IRL though.

I'm December, so are 2 of my brothers, my best friend is just after Christmas and DH is Christmas Eve. I actively tried to have a Christmas baby (ended up being bloody June !)

I'm jealous of your due date

I had exactly this. My SIL told me I was selfish for making the baby have a December birthday (even though he was a massive surprise) and he would never enjoy his birthday ever.
I'm not even too worried about keeping birthday and Christmas separate - we take him to the grotto for his birthday, it's lovely. Obviously he gets separate presents etc. His birthday parties have been well attended, we still have a bouncy castle, we just have patio heaters outside. He doesn't seem to have suffered any major damage due to our selfishness.

A new baby at Christmas is magical. Just to warn you though, you'll most likely to be inundated with family and friends because everyone is off work!

Tell them to sod off.

wonderful time to have a baby. you can get cosy and snuggled with your lovely new born and eat all the chocolate you like. What's not to love? People say all kinds of shit when they can't think of anything else to say. There's a lot of Christmas and Nov/Jan birthdays in my family and everyone's birthdays are special. x

I think part of this is due to most adults (certainly everyone I know) hating having their own Christmas birthdays. The 3 people closest to me who are around Christmas moan incessantly about it.

I was TTC for years and wouldn't have cared a jot but wouldn't have CHOSEN that time to be due. My sister is pg and is relieved she isn't due at Christmas. It's not a big deal but worthy of a mention, I guess.

I had the opposite problem of an end of August due date so I am forever damaging my child with being behind their peers in school.

My dd was due on the 17th December but was late and ended up being born on the 23rd. Nobody said anything negative about it being at Christmas and she doesn't seem to mind (although she's only six)

I did get fed up of people asking if I was going to call her Holly though (I wasn't)

DS1 was due 21st Dec, but arrived 19th. Not a good birth, but we were home by Christmas. Our friends bought meals on wheels for our Christmas dinner as we were unable to make plans with family. He's still to young to have an opinion, but we can tell him that his birthday is when the fairy lights are out. He has half birthday presents of summer toys in June.

I preferred the logistics of a midwinter baby to "spring" as by the time you feel like rejoining the human race, the weather is improving. DS2 was April, but it was still snowy until he was born, and I missed the best of the summer weather recovering from the birth and SPD that refused to go.

Not quite the same but my dd1 was due end of Nov.
So many comments about how terrible it would be doing all my shopping decorations, preparations etc with a newborn.

People will say twattish things whenever you "decide" to have a baby.
I loved having a new(ish) baby at Christmas (she ended up four weeks old on Xmas). Still young enough to have the excuse to put my feet up while I fed her.

Now DDs birhtday is our "Yikes, only four weeks til xmas" alarm!!!

Well, if it is good enough for Jesus then it should be good enough for you! Congratulations. Enjoy the festive season.

DS is a Christmas Day baby (wasn't due till early Jan). People are idiots. We just do Christmas in the morning and birthday in the afternoon and people feel so rubbish about his birthday that they buy him presents all year!

Doesn't Christmas kick off around September now in the UK? When is a good time!! Congratulations

Tbh you can't win. Dd1 is August and I always got comments about bad timing (see up thread!) After 18 months ttc I was just desperately hoping she was healthy.

Just ignore them. It's not like you can do anything about it is there!