to think he's too young for this?

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DS is a sensible just-7-year-old. DH has sent him to the local shop to buy himself sweets. DH didn't discuss this decision with me. The shop is a 3 or 4 minute walk along a road then a pedestrian crossing at a busy junction on the high street.

I am cross because I disagree that it's a suitable route to send a 7 year old and I'm cross because DH didn't think it was worth discussing with me. Now I'm going to be the bad guy who says no next time DS asks, and DH has just said he didn't know I had strong feelings about it. How would he know if he didn't bother to talk to me about it?! He says he can make decisions about DS as his father but to me this sort of thing should be agreed on by both parents first.

Prepared for mixed opinions on this one but I needed to vent.

I hate saying we will discuss this with your father first all the time, as my DC parent I can make decision without DH.

DH also does the same.

Goblin that isn't for using a pedestrian crossing though, its for judging when is safe to cross a busy road without a crossing. Children don't judge speed to distance as well as adults til approximately age 10, but that is much less relevant when using a crossing.

I'd have thought 7 was fine for this kind of thing.

Clearly in a minority though!

See the op hasn't been back to say whether she would discuss her no with dh before saying it to the child!

OP is here :)

In this circumstance, if DS had asked me, I'd have said that it was a lot further than he'd been before and with a road crossing, and that it was something his dad and I would talk about later.

As it happened, DH suggested it to DS, not the other way round.

I'd never phone DH at work to consult him about something like this, not would he call me. It's rarely so urgent that that would be necessary!

Dh and I talked about this last night. DH can see it made me uncomfortable and he told DS that it was a one off trip for now. He didn't say "because mum isn't happy" or anything.

Interesting spectrum though - I suspected this one would be. DS is brilliant, he really is, but he's not totally reliable enough to be safe at that junction yet.