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AIBU to think that he should not be working with people who have disabilities?

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MilkandCereal · 08/07/2014 14:07

I don't think I am being unreasonable,but I need to vent/rant anyway.

I volunteer,and I met another volunteer this morning at a meeting, who works with people who have PMLD(Profound and multiple learning disabilities). He's volunteering for the charity to gain some work experience in organising events.

We were discussing events that the charity runs,at break,and he said that he doesn't see the point in taking 'them' that is people with learning disabilities,on outings,as it's just a waste of time and money,and that they get nothing out of it. He said the same of the clients he looks after at a carehomes, that he hates taking them out,says its like a circus parade,and feels that they're better off in their roomsc He went on a little on this theme. The other 2 volunteers who were present went out for a smoke break.

I was so taken aback that all I could say was everyone needs and deserves fresh air,new experiences,and interactions,and that he'd feel differently in their situation,or if it was a close family member.

I really don't feel someone with that attitude should be working with people with disabilities,or volunteering with them. Can I express my concerns to the volunteer coordinator re him volunteering,or should I say nothing?

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Mrsjayy · 09/07/2014 10:41

That is disgusting shows what disregard even the jobcentre has for vulnerable people dont get me wrong volunteering does help with getting a job a uni application etc but you have to bloody care for the people you are working with or go and work in a charity shop

MilkandCereal · 22/07/2014 10:14

I thought I'd let you all know that the volunteer will not be back as he has apparently found a more appropriate placement.

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DownByTheRiverside · 22/07/2014 10:26

Fantastic that you bothered doing something about it, and that action has been taken. I hope it's on his record somewhere, so that he's never inflicted on anyone vulnerable again.

cardibach · 22/07/2014 10:35

DD volunteers with a disability sports group and had to do a course about acceptable language etc (quite rightly) before starting. She is 18 and has been volunteering for just over a year - the course didn't teach her anything she didn't already know as she is an aware and sensitive young woman who takes people as she finds them without making random judgements based upon their appearance/sexuality etc.
This man is a twat, I'm glad you reported him and I hope he never has the opportunity to work with vulnerable people - he might be taught to say the right things but those attitudes will not easily be educated away.

dawndonnaagain · 22/07/2014 10:55

Well done Milk and Thank you!

MilkandCereal · 22/07/2014 12:02

I didn't really do much. I just reported my concerns. The volunteer coordinator did the rest,but I'm glad that he's gone.

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thereturnofshoesy · 22/07/2014 12:19

good, well done op for telling them

MiscellaneousAssortment · 22/07/2014 20:02

I'm so glad. well done. I know you said you didn't do much, but you did enough.

Edenviolet · 22/07/2014 20:08

Well done op. He sounds like an a hole, how on earth could he know what people do/don't get out of visits out.

MyFairyKing · 22/07/2014 20:12

It may not seem like much but it was. You did the right thing.

FlossieTreadlight · 22/07/2014 20:13

Thank you for reporting - it was brave. My sister has learning disabilities and I hate the idea of turds like that being anywhere near her. Hope you enjoy the rest of your volunteering.

unrealhousewife · 22/07/2014 20:17

Thank you for sticking your neck out for disabled people. This has not just prevented a prejudiced man from working with disabled people, lots of people will hear about what has happened and it will make them check their own attitudes and views. I'm so glad the organisation acted on this and didn't just 'have a word' and forget about it.

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