to think there is only so much bad luck someone can take?

[abouttobeevicted]

in the last 10 years we have had:
marriage
bankruptcy
moving house
school bullying and moving school
breakdown
cancer
martial problems
work problem
about to be made homeless
now health problems for dd
been trying for over 3 years to get someone to take dds health problems seriously.

now today after 6 hours at GOSH we finally know. its Psoriatic Arthritis. which apparently has a 20â?? chance of as well as her being unable to move/run/ hold a pencil could make her blind in the next few years.!!
she is 8 WTF!!!!!

Oh good grief. That's a hideous load for one family to deal with.

Hope that, when you've had a chance to digest and talk more about the PA, that it turns out DD's odds aren't so scary.

For now, a very big bunch of . Wish they were something more helpful.

Really sorry to hear that, about. Your poor DD. I have also had long few years lurching from one big drama to another, including a serious health condition for my own DD and it really takes a toll. Thinking of you.

Oh OP I am sorry, that's rough. Do you have a good support network of friends and family? GP/HV?

I had a similar list, my DH didn't survive his Cancer.

My DDs problems wasn't on the scale of yours.

I ploughed on, but it's only been the last few years I've realised that I've had a type of PTS, it certainly isn't depression.

Don't underestimate how much this is taking out of you and your needs.

Very difficult given your DD's diagnosis, I know.

But get/accept all the support you can. Be selfish in occassion and good to yourself.

YANBU, I've had a crap few years, some big things and some small, nothing quite to your scale but the shittiness of it all seems relentless and you sometimes wonder what the point in trying is.

Hope your DD is ok and that things look up for you soon

well to clarify
mine
bankruptcy
work problems
cancer
financial problems
going to be made homeless

dh
work problems
bankruptcy
breakdown
about to be made homeless

dd
bullying
heath problems
now this

all in 10 years. I'm religious but fuck what is g-d thinking about. we are a strong and messed up family and we will get through this but a break would be nice

no family or friends to call on.

So sorry to hear about your bad luck- doesn't seem fair at all. I just hope that things improve for you soon. Best wishes.I haven't got any advice- do you want a hug?

you say you are religious - do you attend a church/other religious group with a "pastor" figure you could talk to? wouldn't other members help/support you (many churches have people do a rota of meals to help out families who are having a bad time etc)

we did but because of some financial problems we haven't paid membership fees for about 6 months so have just had a pay us or don't come back conversation. I'm sorry going to be homeless so you are close to the bottom of my list. also got no pastoral care its a media friendly place but little care support. school is good though.

I'm so sorry for your dd but try to focus on all the good things that have happened in the last ten years. Of course the bad tends to drag you down and it can seem terribly unfair but don't lose sight of your blessings.

I really hope for the best outcome for your little girl.

abouttobe a bit shocked church won't help you because of membership fees.

What kind of church is that?! Tithes are voluntary. Genuinely curious what church would do that ...

Some people from my church help out at a foodbank. You don't have to be religious to reap the help. Would that help?

What?? A church requiring money before they'll let you worship and/or support you?

not a church. a synagogue.

I totally sympathize as we had a terrible time a while back but thankfully no health problems with our DCs so you have my heartfelt sympathy. Don't know how to do the flower thing. I have a very good lovely friend...all her children have had life threatening/changing ongoing health issues. I actually wonder how she has coped....life can be so unfair. Makes my problems trivial. I did have to reread your post and nearly commented on why marriage was in your list...but I see now! Hope your DD gets the treatment/care she needs. And a big hug from me. x

In the past 4 years I had cancer, my DH died and my DD had cancer, it has been terrible but it has also shown us how wonderful people are. Try to think about the positive value people add to your lives. Life is horrible sometimes but you just have to get on with it. I know this sounds trite but now I am grateful for what others have given me.

Sorry to hear about your dds condition, but remember, she only has 20% chance of getting those worst case scenario symptoms you mentioned, therefor THATS 80% chance of it not being that bad!

Hi op
Sorry to hear about all your bad news. My ds who is 6 was diagnosed with systemic juvenile arthritis at age 4. He's now in remission. He's also under the care of GOSH's rheumatology team. They are v good. Have they told you what the medical regime is?

Hang in there.

Agggghast...that's what my friend says...they are such a lovely close family and after recently spending a weekend with them I came away feeling awed. Thinking of you too. x

Similar list including death x 3 within very close family and 2 within 5 days and still hurt now , lived in 14 rented locations, cancer, broken bones, 3 redundancies, breakdown of family member, several near misses (death) at hospital for very very close family, and only now coming out of it to be hit down again 4 weeks ago. You would think id be making it up if I told you everything that happened and this has been within 6 years... From speaking to patients it's not unusual to gave a few bad years followed by some good ones. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger i hear....but it's been very hard. Sending you strength and just take each day as it comes. You get there.... Believe me you will. Just make sure you have good family and friends...

About I don't have any words except to say that on the bright side you guys are survivors. Life can be difficult and you have certainly had more than your fair share of hard times but you are still here and still trying your best for your family. Give yourself the credit for that and try some of the tips on the web re creating happiness - others on Mumsnet may be able to suggest links. For me its to celebrate the small victories and reflect on the best that has happened each day. Sending hugs and prayers that things will take a turn for the better for you all soon xx

Still thinking about you all today, abouttobeevicted.

That's unbelievably shite behaviour from your synagogue.