to faint at my bank statement showing £200 gone on in app purchases?

[NickiFury]

DD age 7, don't know how, has managed to get my password and turn on in app purchases and has been purchasing with abandon tokens and jewels in Nemo's Reef and Minion Rush games.

She has only been doing it for three days, thank goodness or who knows how much she would have spent.

Fortunately I have been on to Apple who are refunding all the charges (thank goodness, am lone parent and every penny counts).

Just to warn you all to be aware, I did everything right, set up all security settings, thought my password was secret etc, restricted I Pad use and she was still able to do it.

Thing is she has ASD and I know she wouldn't have done it in an underhand way, just would have thought she was really clever to manage to do it.

Be Careful!!!!!

If it makes you feel better I went camping at half term. Somehow while using the torch app I managed to click on an advert. (They said when I phoned up I might have clicked through three times, I know this not to be true) and seconds later got a text saying I had signed up for something for 4.99 a week which is the first I knew about having clicked on anything. so I immediately texted stop and I only got charged that one amount.
I have no idea how it happened though. I have my security settings right and it's managed to prevent my children doing app purchases. I know I have to type in my password whenever I want to do anything like add an app or an in app purchase but this weird advert on an app slipped through. I'm still not sure how am very wary now.

For anyone who is interested I have had a couple of PM's from posters who have also been in this situation, interestingly they didn't feel able to post on the thread because they didn't want to have to deal with judgement etc.

Nice job.

I do not agree that I have been insulting or hostile.

Ha, of course you don't. I didn't expect you to!
If you can't see that you have been rude then you must be rather limited in your thinking processes , why don't YOU bore off !

(Don't worry - that's not rude by the way - someone very very clever told me so... you know seeing as I'm a bit thick!)

thewoman it's just so easily done isn't it? Apple are pretty good about refunding though thankfully, but only once!

As the main care giver for our DC, I come across this all the time - the 'you're a man what do you know' attitude of many mums. Yes historically women have been discriminated against but what gives you the right to discriminate against me?

I actually think it's hilarious that you think that's discrimination. You don't seem to understand what sexism is, and the fact that you claim to be gender-neutral explains a hell of a lot. You don't understand what sexism is. Maybe you think you do, but you don't. (For example, do you know what my comment about gender-neutrality refers to? Also look up 'mansplaining' -- it's a horrible, horrible phrase but it's a very real thing, and hopefully it will help explain my original post in this thread.)

But on that, look, maybe you do have a point. I'm sorry; I was feeling fed up when I posted, and it seemed significant that the two posters telling the OP what she was doing wrong had male-sounding names. I shouldn't have generalised, but take another look at the thread. While others are sympathising, all you do in your post is tell the OP what she's doing wrong in a way that is thoroughly unhelpful given her situation.

And no, autism is not irrelevant to this thread. It's certainly not irrelevant to your post and why people are reacting to it the way they are.

Here's the crux:
Why did you feel it was necessary to tell the parent of a child with a disability that they should not be allowing the child access to a device which combats difficulties caused by the disability? (Terribly worded, but I hope you get the gist)

Did you just not realise what 'ASD' meant? You won't be the first person to have missed a detail in the opening post?

Thank you Alima, I am very pleased at your apology, I am sorry for my name calling directed at you too.

I do know what 'gender neutrality' refers to and yes I do know what sexism is.
Perhaps it is not strictly the best phrase to describe the attitudes of some women I have met in the past 18 months since my twins were born but I have certainly encountered a lot of negativity from mums upon finding out that I am the main carer for our boys. They assume that I will be inadequate as a parent and that I can't possibly be as 'good' as them, or that I am somehow weird in wanting to be a good dad. Okay so it's not as bad as sexism in the truest sense of the word, but that word is still misused by many women today so I don't see why I should be jumped on for it - again, methinks that it may be because I am a man.
In any case, it's not nice and it appears to be soley my gender which these women use in their deciding that I am not as good as them.

I did look up 'mansplaining'

to delighting in condescending, inaccurate explanations delivered with rock solid confidence of rightness and that slimy certainty that of course he is right, because he is the man in this conversation

Again, why is this exclusive to men? I agree with the definition but find the name offensive and also the last sentence... again, this is women having a pop at men when if the roles were reversed it would be considered unacceptable.

I do know what ASD is , but I simply fail to see what relevance it is here. ASD or not, just watch your kids if you let them use your stuff and accidents like this won't happen.

This may be of interest.

Ipad info

Just in case anyone's interested I posted the following on a recent thread on IPad security. It's for iOS7 (ie the latest IPads).

FOR iOS7

THE BASICS FOR STOPPING UNINTENTIONAL IN-APP PURCHASES

1. keep your iTunes password private and not guess'able. AND DONT LET YOUR KIDS SEE!!

1a ) make sure that the email account associated with your itunes account is one that you check regularly. This will mean you will be aware of any expenditure on your itunes almost immediately.

2. Enable restrictions SETTINGS >>>> GENERAL. >>> RESTRICTIONS >>> then enter and re-enter a non-guessable 4 digit PIN number.

3). Then turn off in-app purchases
SETTINGS >>>> GENERAL. >>> RESTRICTIONS >>> your PIN NUMBER >>>>. Turn off IN-APP PURCHASES

4. Require a password every time you make an iTunes purchase. This is your Apple ID password. SETTINGS >>>> GENERAL. >>> RESTRICTIONS >>> your PIN NUMBER >>>> REQUIRE PASSWORD >>>> toggle it to IMMEDIATELY

5). Remove your credit card from your iTunes account and use itunes vouchers.

6. turn off autofill and credit card info

SETTINGS >>> SAFARI >>> PASSWORDS AND AUTOFILL >> toggle off NAMES AND PASSWORDS AND turn off CREDIT CARDS

BLOCKING ADULT WEB CONTENT (ie porn 'n stuff)

Even if you have decent controls on your home network and it's worth following the info in the following THIS LINK This feature is even more important if your child has a 3G device or accesses the internet via networks with no controls.

PREVENTING CHILDREN FROM BEING ABLE TO DELETE THEIR BROWSING HISTORY . (I love this feature)

SETTINGS >>>> GENERAL. >>> RESTRICTIONS >>> your PIN NUMBER >>>> WEBSITES >>> then tick LIMIT ADULT CONTENT

This removes the option to delete the history of which websites your child has visited. For younger children you can specify which websites your DC can visit and prevent them from visiting any other sites at all. You can find this option by doing the following

SETTINGS >>>> GENERAL. >>> RESTRICTIONS >>> your PIN NUMBER >>>> WEBSITES >>> then tick SPECIFIC WEBSITES ONLY this will allow you to specify which websites can and can't be visited.

PRIVACY (just in case you are interested)

I recommend that anyone who is concerned about privacy and has Apple devices running iOS7 have a look at THIS LINK It details how you can prevent pesky Apple and other apps accessing information about you.

Disclaimer, I am happy to have the above info corrected. I think its right but I am NOT at all an expert

This info is for iOS7 only.