to think DD can just put up with paint stained school dresses?

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I put her dress on her this morning to discover there's a paint stain on it, her other dress has been stained for weeks and no amount of stain remover is working, she has a painting apron at school but no one ever checks she's put it on.

The second hand shop hasn't got anything that will fit DD and a new dress is £40 (not an easy to get style) she breaks up the beginning of next week and has to go back in winter uniform anyway, so she will probably grow out of it after only wearing it a week. Money is tight but as usual Grandma's got my birthday wrong and sent me a card with money in (mines the end of July, my brothers was last week, she always gets us the wrong way round) So I could buy a new dress but I was saving it to take DD and DS out.

So AIBU to think that she can just wear the stained dresses til the end of term? or are people going to judge?

Forgot to say, DD's 5

I wouldn't spend £40 in a dress which will only be worn for a week. Send her to school in the stained dress, who will mind this late in the year?

Of course it's ok.

Of course she can, no one will know that paint stain isn't fresh today, and that birthday money is for you, not school uniform.

I think you should go out and spend it on yourself today, have an early birthday present

PAint stains are fine! The dress is washed and clean. If schools can't use easy wash paints, then they have to put up with. DD (10) has paint stains on two of her dresses - she will use them until she grows out of them. DS(12) at secondary school has ink stains all over most of his school shirts - same applies!!

No judgement I would do the same.

I wouldn't be buying a new one this close to the summer holidays, don't think anybody is going to care if your daughters dress has a stain either

Send her in it. Don't pay good money you can put to better use elsewhere. If she doesn't like it it may be a lesson to put her apron on.

Blimey is that how much school dresses cost for a 5 year old!!

Wow

My DD's school shirts are covered in lord knows what, I'm not buying anymore uniform until the end of august. She'll grow in the summer like normal anyway.

Don't buy a new one. I bet if you do it'll get paint on it anyway. £40 for a school dress for a five year old is ridiculous.

£40 for a school dress ?? . Send her in the stained one.

Sod that, send her in in it

My DD is looking slightly worse for wear at the moment, but I refuse to buy anything new with only 2 weeks to go.

In fact, most of the children at our school are looking slightly jaded, lots of trousers that look like they've had a row with shoes, faded jumpers and greying polo tops. She's not alone

YANBU

DS1 has had some kind of pen stain on two of his three jumpers for months. They're the only bit of logo/official uniform he needs and the most expensive. I'm not buying new ones until next year!

Fine not to replace I'd say. My dd is going up to high school in September. She has lost one crested school jumper, the other has paint stains on it, I can't justify spending money to replace 2 Jumpers that she won't wear in September.

What do they out in school paint anyway? I never have such a problem getting paint from home out of dc's clothes!

Even if you buy her a new one - what's to stop her getting paint on it today then you're back to square one. Spend the money on yourself.

I thought our summer dresses were bad at £28! Of course it's fine. I take the attitude that if school doesn't use washable paints and colouring pens, then school can tolerate those stains on the clothes. If they commented, I'd happily tell them so. You'd be mad to buy a new one.

It's what my mother used to describe as "clean dirt"

I would send her in in the paint-stained one, too.

I would also tell her that it's her job to remember to put her apron on, not the teacher's job to remind her

Dd1 has got a marker pen on one of her dresses, all of both of the dd dresses have some sort of mark on them.

There is no way on earth I am buying new ones this close to the end of term, and I can pick them up easily and cheaply. It would just be a waste, they are clean just looking a bit worse for wear.

£40!!!!!!

Now that just makes me

Definitely fine. DS, 14 just ripped the sole off one of his school shoes so he will be wearing black trainers ( with a school note) until the end of term. I just know that if I buy him new shoes now, in 2 months when he goes back, his feet will have grown at least a size.

Don't even mention it to DD either.

And you are a lovely mum to spend your birthday money on taking DC out instead of spending it on gin

DS2's polo shirts are awful. They were hand me downs anyway from DS1 and now really need chucking in the bin. Similarly his shoes have had it. There is no way on earth I would buy ned uniform at this time of year. He will look scruffy but who cares (they don't do any work for the next four days anyway!)

Glad its not just me, I was feeling a little guilty, not that DD cares, she'd spend her whole life covered head to toe in mud and dirt given half a choice so a splodge of paints not going to bother her.

Jenny, I'm taking the kids to the Royal observatory and to see a planetarium show because I've always wanted to go and I don't want to go on my own.

Totally fine, all DDs dresses ended up with white board pen streaks.

One had two extra side seams. One due to ripping it top to bottom jumping out a tree. The other to return the skirt to symetrical.

These days DD1's jumpers are covered in acrylic paint.

No one cares.