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. . to put my in-laws in separate beds?

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IlonaWE · 04/07/2014 17:34

Hello,

My brothers husband and his wife are coming to stay for one night in August. We don't have a guest bedroom and they will have to sleep in our living room.

At the moment all we have is a rubbish air bed. I'd like to replace this with a proper folding out bed so that they, and other future visitors, can have a comfortable nights sleep.

The problem I have is our house is small, with little storage. If I buy a double size folding bed we might not even be able to get it up the stairs and even if we could I don't know where we'd keep it.

However if I buy two single beds we should be able to move them fairly easily and possibly even store them out of the way in the attic.

They are nice people and they'd never say anything but I wonder if it might look a bit 'odd' if I set up two single beds. Almost as if I'm saying 'don't do the deed in our house'.

For the record I don't care what they do as long as they clean up after themselves!

What do you think?

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CheeryName · 04/07/2014 17:36

Do you mean your husband's brother and his wife? I got baffled. Anyway I think your plan is fine.

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IlonaWE · 04/07/2014 17:36

I meant to say my husband's brother and his wife! I wish I could edit my posts!

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SarahAndFuck · 04/07/2014 17:37

Your brothers husband and his wife?

Explain to them the situation with space / beds and say you hope they don't mind. I'm sure they won't.

DottyDooRidesAgain · 04/07/2014 17:37

It's up to you.
I have always given up my bed for guest especially when it was for only one night but that's me.

I think most guests are just happy to be accommodated. Just explain the space situation to them.

SarahAndFuck · 04/07/2014 17:37

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TheIronGnome · 04/07/2014 17:37

I would just invest in a decent airbed.

SquinkiesRule · 04/07/2014 17:38

It's only one night, I had two singles in a guest room before, my Mum and Step father used them for a 3 week visit without complaint.

Icimoi · 04/07/2014 17:38

Do you have a sofa? Could you replace it with a sofa bed?

TheIronGnome · 04/07/2014 17:38

Whoops! Posted too soon!

Get one of those high up ones with built in pump. No problems getting it up the stairs etc. possibly cheaper too!

QuintessentiallyQS · 04/07/2014 17:40

Dont you need three beds, or a triple king size, in this scenario!?

HerRoyalNotness · 04/07/2014 17:43

I used to have a single folding bed that I could store easily in a wardrobe, they are quite comfortable and off the ground, wish I'd held into it now

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IlonaWE · 04/07/2014 17:43

Apologies once again for the confusing wording in my first post. I feel that I've let you all down a bit and mislead you into thinking thatI have a bisexual polygamist in my family!

Alas however, it is just my husband's brother and his wife!

I didn't know there was such a thing as a high quality airbed so I might have to look into that.

Thanks for all the suggestions.

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WowOoo · 04/07/2014 17:45

Dh and I always stay in separate beds when we visit a friend.

It's never bothered me. I'd much rather that than have to share an air bed.

CMOTDibbler · 04/07/2014 17:46

Get an Aerobed - they are fabulous airbeds, and more comfortable than those folding out type beds

CoffeeTea103 · 04/07/2014 17:50

Or you can give them your bed for a night? That would be nice and probably what I would do.

TheIronGnome · 04/07/2014 17:52

I've just bought an aerobed with built in rechargeable pump (so I can use for camping too) but haven't used it yet... It's not double height but i hope it's good!

Ragwort · 04/07/2014 17:53

Of course it's fine, I much prefer twin beds . But you could offer them your room - the problem with having guests in the living room is that they have no where to store their stuff or what happens if they don't want to get up as early as the rest of the household?

Rissolesfortea · 04/07/2014 17:56

Can you get one of those single beds that have a pull out one underneath, when its pulled out its like a double bed.

EhricLovesTheBhrothers · 04/07/2014 18:01

You can't shag in those folding guest beds anyway!

eddielizzard · 04/07/2014 18:04

i also have an aerobed and it's fine for short term sleeping on. had it for years and still works well. more expensive than other blow-ups i've bought, but those got holes after a couple of uses.

i wouldn't buy a sofa bed if you don't have enough room. also, two singles in close proximity is good enough. they can do it in the bathroom if they're that desperate.

ToffeeMoon · 04/07/2014 18:04

Surely they can forgo their nightly shag just this once?

Of course it's fine. These days, with small children in tow, DH and I rarely share a bed anywhere! Including at home...

Greenrememberedhills · 04/07/2014 18:07

I keep a couple of spare single mattresses under double beds. That should be fine.

Bowlersarm · 04/07/2014 18:10

Is fine. I hate sleeping apart from DH, but I don't expect everyone who kindly puts us up to pander to my requirements. It's not like you are putting them in separate rooms; they can have a quick cuddle or shag in one bed and then one slip off to the other bed to get some sleep.

PourquoiTuGachesTaVie · 04/07/2014 18:13

I thought this was going to be a superb revenge thread from someone with PILs who made them and their dp sleep in separate rooms even though they were both 43/married/had 6 kids etc.

slithytove · 04/07/2014 18:17

My PIL put us in single beds for a while when they had no other space, we were fine with it.

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