Bedrooms for DCs?

[honourinoneeye]

We have four children, the eldest two turned six in May and are boy/girl twins.

Then we have Ds1, who was two in April, and DD2, who is just a month old. She is obviously in with us.

We have a 3 bed house and I want DD1 to have her own room and DS1 and DS2 to share. DH thinks this is unfair on DS1.

I'm not being unreasonable am I?

My 8 year old dd shares with her almost 4 year old brother. We have 2 spare bedrooms and I have asked if they want their own room but no, they want to share.

There's nothing wrong with brothers and sisters sharing.

I don't think there is anything wrong in it but it isn't something I would personally do if I had an alternative.

our two DS's share and DD has her own room, and its been fine although we were a bit worried before we put them in together

But you don't have an alternative. You have a three bedroom house, and four children.

You asked if yabu. I think yabu, you don't think yabu. That's fine, it's your children, don't ask if you don't want opinions.

I assume at the moment dts share? I think its tricky, is it at all possible that you could use a large piece of furniture e.g ikea expedit unit to divide the larger room and have dts share? I think younger sibling has more potential for waking up.
maybe make the change to girls sharing and boys sharing when either you move house or when dd2 needs to move out of your room?
If dd1 wants privacy i imagine having noisy inquisitive baby sister turning up may not be well received especially if she has got used to her own space?

I understand where you're coming from as I also have boy/girl twins. They had their own rooms from 3. I think they needed the space from each to be honest!

That should say 'each other'

Put the boys in together, it's not forever like you said. Ds2 shared with ds3 for a year until we could finish off his room. Ds2 was10 and ds3 was 2.

Ask DS who he woukd rather share with.

I have a 6, 2 and soon a newborn sharing a room and so far no problems. The dc have lots of little toys out and dc1 can do what she wants in there. We have had no problems with sleep or sharing so far.

My friend had a similar problem. I'd do what she did, which is: give the oldest boy & girl the biggest room, divide it down the middle with an Expedit. Boy sleeps in the half closest to the door (ie the half that has to be walked through) so that the girl gets a bit more privacy.

I think it makes more sense than putting children of very different ages in together.

You seem to be favouring your dd about her sleeping requirements.

I agree with ThinkIveBeenHacked-ask ds1 who he'd rather share with. It probably won't be his toddler brother.

I find the idea that girls inherently need privacy more than boys pretty unfair. I would guess your son does as well. It strikes me as princess-y. Sorry.

OP if your twins were girl girl and one was quiet and sensitive and the other not, would you move the livlier one into a room with their two year old Brother?

I don't think children of that age usually need privacy from their own siblings either, regardless of gender. But the OP thinks her daughter does, so .

I can't believe that gender of such young children trumps age in room division. Age is so much more key for harmonious sleeping arrangements.

well we have 3DC - DS1 is 4 and B/G DTs are 2. We have just moved all 3 into a room together. I have no intention of moving DD until she is ready to leave her twin so I am very relaxed about having mixed gender sharing until possibly 10 years old.

there is no issue with mixed gender siblings sharing until one of them says they are ready not to share IMO.

I assume at the moment your DTs share? if you are moving in a year and they will all have their own rooms (so no need to get used to sharing like my DSs do) then just leave it as it is until you move.

As many have said, please just ask your DS1. If he does not want to move, he may feel very hurt if you move him out of his own room, just because his sister doesn't want him there anymore.

I think it's quitesad for a 4 year old to be shy about her body already

Some children are just like this, just as some adults are more self conscious than others.

I would have the twins sharing one room, the toddler in the other and you & baby in 3rd.

Alternatively could your older daughter share with her 2yo brother? And your older son could have his own room.

I don't subscribe to girl = must have own room, boys can share ideas.

YABU and your dh is right.

It sounds more like sharing decided on personality rather than anything else. Dh's family did that, which meant him oldest and youngest, because they suited each other better. Both my girls (13 and 10yo) would often choose to share with ds (age 6yo) when 2 are needed to share because they prefer that. They get on well, but when sharing a room one wants to read late, the other wants to get up early, ds adapts to the one he's with. This has been the case since he was a toddler.

Personally I like the idea of not putting the twins together, they probably have enough of being lumped together at other times.

Surely it's not girl must have own room, boys can share, as much as:

Having a girl room regardless of how many and having a boy room regardless of how many?

We are having a wee girl in sept and when the time comes, she will go in with her older brother (18 month gap). We hope to have another DC in 3/4 years, and whatever genre that one is, they will share with their older sibling of the same gender in the bigger room. The other will have their own, smaller room.