To not always want to look after this kid

[Claybury]

I'm a SAHM and my DS (9) has a friend whose mum frequently asks me to have her son, after school , on a Sunday, while she is at work or entertaining clients. I may add they are a dual income family with more than plenty of cash, it's their decision to maintain two Hugh flying careers without formal child care. Additionally the child is quite lively and fairly hard work, unlike my DS who i find very easy to look after. I am constantly making excuses why we can't have him, but I feel she shouldn't ask.
I do have other friends who I help out more, who are more likely to reciprocate, or whose working situations I have more sympathy for.

i'd be hacked if she didn't actually ask if someone would look after her kid at the picnic, just assumed. bang out of order.

i would actually ask next time you say no to a request, why she doesn't organise some sort of childcare as she seems to be asking every week....

sounds to me like they want to spend their disposable income on something other than childcare and are expecting everyone else to step up. if she never reciprocates i wonder how long she expects to be able to continue like this. or maybe she just will until the goodwill runs out.

user.

If this is how she usually does it, rather than asking you straight out if you mind, then I think you're right to be a bit annoyed. She is doing things in a way that makes assumptions about it being OK without checking. The answer is the same though - tell her straight out that you don't like it.

When you say she keeps asking what do you mean? Does she ask as if she has forgotten you said no the first time?

I think the picnic is the perfect time to ask her who is charge of her child.She cant just dump if you all say no