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WIBU to book us separate accommodation?

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EndoplasmicReticulum · 01/07/2014 23:19

Reading and posting on another thread has got me worrying about planned holiday with In laws in August. Mil booked cottage a while back but turns out there are more other relatives staying in it than I first thought and there won't be a satisfactory sleeping arrangement. There are 3 bedrooms with double beds in each, and two single sofas to sleep on in the living room.

There will be mil, fil, husband and I and two children aged 8and 10. Also 2 other female relatives who are mother and daughter ( daughter is in her 30 s). For a week. Now the only way I see this going to fit us all in is either with my children sharing a double bed ( not going to work, trust me) or them sleeping on living room sofas which means either they stay up until everyone else goes to bed or we can't use the living room in the evening.

Cottage has been booked in seaside holiday town and I just thought it might not be too late to find us ( me, husband , children) a caravan or something instead rather than all ramming in with in laws.

We were going to give mil our share of cost of cottage.

Would it be rude of me to try to find somewhere else so that we had a bit more space? And retained sanity?

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LastTango · 01/07/2014 23:21

Are your children at war with one another then?

SaidFlorence · 01/07/2014 23:23

Taking the other two female relatives out of the equation. ..what would the sleeping arrangements be?

Inertia · 01/07/2014 23:24

Can you not ring your mil and say there must be some mistake as there are not enough rooms? It's not really fair on whoever is sleeping in the front room, they'll. have no privacy.

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EndoplasmicReticulum · 01/07/2014 23:27

Last tango they can share a room, but a bed? They would just fight all night. Plus that leaves two adults ( probably me and husband,) on single sofa beds in living room. He's 6 ft 2 and would whine all week.

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Yambabe · 01/07/2014 23:28

So if you can't put both your kids in one double bed why can't you share with one and your DH with the other?

I think you just don't want to be in such close proximity to the other adults and are looking for an excuse.........

Yambabe · 01/07/2014 23:29

I would assume that the 2 single ladies would be having the sofa beds/ Hmm

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EndoplasmicReticulum · 01/07/2014 23:30

Two female relies are probably going to have to share a double bed too.

Florence I thought she was booking somewhere with a twin room for the children, but have since worked out that " sleeps 8" on website = 2 on sofas

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ShatnersBassoon · 01/07/2014 23:31

I think the mother and daughter will take the single beds. Just check.

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EndoplasmicReticulum · 01/07/2014 23:32

Yam we could do that, yes. But not a very enjoyable holiday, I have not shared a bed with either of my children since they were much smaller and it wasn't very restful then either!

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BuildYourOwnSnowman · 01/07/2014 23:33

It sounds like you just want to stay somewhere else

Yambabe · 01/07/2014 23:35

How big are the rooms? At 8 and 10 I would also consider taking a couple of single airbeds for the DC and chucking them on the floor in your room?

ADishBestEatenCold · 01/07/2014 23:36

Could you take an airbed for one of your DC, so they share a room, but not a bed.

Smelsa · 01/07/2014 23:37

That sounds like hell. You'll all be on top of each other.

teenagetantrums · 01/07/2014 23:38

If your children wont share a bed, let them take it in turns on on the bed and on the floor, camping out. I have had loads of holidays with freinds and children and we normally make sure adults have a bed and kids camp out wherever( even a tent in the garden one year)

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EndoplasmicReticulum · 01/07/2014 23:40

Well yes. But none of the possible sleeping arrangements are particularly satisfactory.

We could have 1) itchy and scratchy sharing a double bed. Or 2) them on sofa beds and 6 adults sitting in the kitchen all evening or 3) husband and I sharing with one child each, female rellies on sofa beds and us keeping children out of living room in the morning so as not to disturb,

Or , us in a caravan, then inlaws, aunt and cousin can have a bedroom each.

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FishWithABicycle · 01/07/2014 23:41

I'd put the kids on camp beds on either side of the double bed (for you and DH) in the biggest of the 3 bedrooms. no-one should be sleeping in the shared lounge when it's a week's holiday.

Yes it would be rude to book somewhere else now, plus the others will have reckoned the costs on the basis of you sharing. This should have all been agreed before booking but given that it wasn't just make the best of it.

If you do end up with 2 DC in a double bed then divide it down the middle with a bolster and have one DC with their head at this end on the far side from the door and the other DC with their head at that end on the other side. Then there's not much overlap or opportunity for fighting.

One of my earliest memories is of sharing a double bed with a sibling on holiday and getting into massive trouble with parents for not sleeping before they worked out how to put us further apart in the same space.

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EndoplasmicReticulum · 01/07/2014 23:41

We're flying. Otherwise air bed would be a solution, I had thought of that. I suppose we could buy one when we get there and leave it behind.

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specialmagiclady · 01/07/2014 23:42

If you're prepared to pay for your share of the cottage, go for the caravan. Only thing is, you'll have to come back to it every evening at some point to put your kids to bed and have nice quiet evening with DH oh bliss oh bliss miss out on fun evenings with family.

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EndoplasmicReticulum · 01/07/2014 23:45

Fish us all sharing the biggest room sounds like the best plan, will have to go buy airbeds when we arrive.

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whereisshe · 01/07/2014 23:46

That sounds like far too many people for the space. It would drive me bonkers. I'd definitely stay somewhere else, they shouldn't have booked it tbh - only couples should be expected to share a bed and no one should have to sleep in the living room.

Disclaimer: I usually try to ensure there's at least one bedroom totally spare that no one is slep

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EndoplasmicReticulum · 01/07/2014 23:46

Special magic I was intending for me to put children to bed and leave him with his family!

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whereisshe · 01/07/2014 23:47

Oops.

... that no one is sleeping in when we go away. DH is v tall so if the bed has a foot on it we need the option to use to separate beds.

Suttonmum1 · 01/07/2014 23:56

I'd go for the caravan. It is supposed to be a holiday. No one should be on the sofas.
If more people are going than you thought then you shouldn't really have to be out of pocket too badly. They have taken your beds!

unrealhousewife · 02/07/2014 00:01

Is it rural? If it is you could pitch a tent in the garden for dcs?

Whocansay · 02/07/2014 08:16

I would book elsewhere. Otherwise you'll all be on top of each other and warfare will ensue I may be projecting my own family on yours here.

I think you PIL were rude for inviting other people in the first place without telling you, tbh.

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