To not want to see his penis?

[themummyonthebus]

My PIL are naturists. My FIL in particular. He always wears as little as possible, generally a t-shirt and boxers. It's a bit odd, but I've got used to it now.

My DH was brought up in a naturist environment and has slowly converted me although I was brought up in a household where nudity was taboo - I can't remember ever seeing my Mum in the nude, let alone my father I love that in our household if it's warm there's no rush to get dressed in the morning and we went to a naturist camp in France last year and once I got used to it it was really nice. No trying to get dressed in a too small tent, getting sun cream/sand in clothes, etc. Children thought it was great too.

But. My PIL have just moved to a house with a swimming pool and it's just getting warm enough to use it. Last time we visited we were sitting on the veranda when I saw my DC whizz past (in the nude) followed by a nude FIL to go swimming. DH followed them in, also in the nude. I managed to avoid seeing anything but WIBU to ask FIL to put on swimming trunks when I'm there, bearing in mind that DC and DH are also in the nude? And since I suppose IABU has anyone got any ideas how to manage things as I'd quite like to swim (with a cozzie on) as well but there's no way I'm going in while he's in the pool in the nude!

As much as I wouldn't like it, it's their house. You are the only one who has a problem with it.

I'd say just suck it up, but somehow I don't think that'd be appropriate here :o

Well exactly Sticky. So what do I doooooooo?

I do think it would be a bit unfair to ask him to put some trunks on if everyone else is naked, and it's his house. If you are really that uncomfortable with it then you should probably just avoid going round at all this summer.

What's the problem with being in the same pool he's been naked in? He'd be naked under his trunks anyway I no difference hygiene wise.

No, of course you can't ask him to put on swimming trunks in his own swimming-pool!

Just deal with it, it's just a human body.

Really? What on earth is so offensive about a penis? Doctors, nurses, care workers see them every day. So what, it's a societal taboo, nothing to be afraid of. Apart from that, his house, his pool, his rules. I personally think it would be bloody rude to ask him to dress.

And you're going to have to manage your own hang ups about when you swim. Sorry, but I think you're being a bit unreasonable.

If he was chatting to you in the kitchen starlets I could see your point but in the pool you don't have to look at it and as said above, there is no hygiene difference

They clearly realise you are uncomfortable as he keeps boxers and t shirt on but in the pool I can't see the problem

(But yanbu - I wouldn't want to see in laws or my family naked!)

just get naked as well and jump in for a swim :)

penises are pretty unremarkable, really (don't tell your dh that). no big deal.

Arf @ Fav.

Not a problem being in the pool after him being in it naked, rather while he's still in it, being naked. Water is see through and I'm afraid of seeing things. Shudder.

If it was just him naked then I think that you may have reason to put trunks on but you can't expect him to if everyone else is naked, especially in his own pool. Just look up I say.

Take a look at it (discreetly so the poor chap doesn't think you're ogling him). It will presumably look pretty much like every other adult penis you've seen. I've seen loads (recreationally not professionally) and they're all fairly similar, frankly.

I was going to say "no biggie" but I too felt that might be inappropriate.

Fwiw OP I don't think there's anything wrong with not wanting to see your FILs penis so please don't let other posters make you feel bad about it.

But you are either going to have to put up with it or just never go round there.

Ask him* to put trunks on that is.

It's not really that see through when you are in a pool though

Surely you saw lots of penises when you were at the naturist camp? Is your fil's particularly offensive?

I know I'm BU and I know a penis is just a piece of skin. But those of you saying just jump in naked too, would you really do that with your ILs?

Seeing things? Like Nessie, you mean?

The water that is, not his penis

my DP is a naturist, I have gradually graduated towards naturist beaches. I agree it feels a bot weird at first, but you acclimatise.

i think yabu. you have the choice to not wear clothing, i doubt he would insist that you derobe in his presence. Your DP, your children, your FIL are naked and happy. what does MIL think? is she also naked? what do you think about her being unclothed?

YY to it just being a penis. You're all naturists, what's the problem?

On the other hand, EWWWWWWWW.