DP just walked in after watching football last night.

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Last night my DP went to watch the football with some friends. So as not to drip feed I was irritated because I had organised my Mum to babysit so I could go out with some friends to celebrate my birthday that was last week but due to her being ill I had no one to look after my son. Anyway he decided that his night couldn't change so went out at 8.

In the morning about 10 I called his Mum to see if he had stayed there. But she said no he must be somewhere drunk and sometimes you have to let men go and stay out.

I spoke to his friends wife this morning at 11 and she was also irritated with friend because they didn't arrive home until 8 and have left them waiting for them that evening in a club. The friend told me he had left the club at 6 with some other people.

I cancelled my Dad coming round for lunch and decided to go out with him and my son instead as I didn't want to be in when he walked in the house. At 3.30 he messaged to say he had just woken up and was about 20 mins down the road. Well he has literally just walked in the house and is angry that I don't want to speak to him. I am so unbelievably angry and don't want to argue in front of my son. He just doesn't give a fuck.

Yes, ignore him. Not the best short-term solution for tonight but go to your room with your laptop and start making plans for the long term.

I woyld wait for him to pop out then and start bagging his stuff.
Tbh I think if youre going to do it. Do it. Dont do this on again off again malarky, its not nice for ds

"It was just one night"... No it wasn't, it was one evening, plus a whole night, plus a whole day, plus part of another evening. And he was out of contact the entire time.

Adults don't do that to people they care about, and adults with responsibilities (children) don't do that at all.

Come on, you want him out so be brave and sort him out.

Don't accommodate his protests, tell him he's to leave or you'll call the police when he refuses.

Be firm, believe in yourself.

Don't leave if it's a council or housing association property. He needs to leave, just have his stuff waiting packed up for him when he gets back from work tomorrow. The selfish sod couldn't even stay in to enable you to go out for your birthday when your babysitter was ill, together with all the rest, sounds like he is a rubbish partner.

His silence is possibly to enrage you, so you get angry & do something he can hold against you.

If it were me, I'd stop engaging with him, get last week if your PCSE done and then whilst he's at work move his stuff to his mums.

Get to cab ASAP, I'm afraid your DP sounds like a devious twat

How are you this morning op ?

I agree with getting the last week of your PGSE out of the way. Don't let him ruin it, don't engage with him and then on Saturday start making plans for you to separate. If you odnt want to involve the police then give notice on your flat and find another one.

You deserve better than this idiot. You don't need someone making you feel like you do today, in your life.