To find the baby names thread bizarre?

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Why do people care what strangers think of their baby name choices? I find it fascinating (hilarious) that people ask advice re potential names of their offspring to complete strangers! Surely the people around you in RL can tell you whether it may suit / be appropriate given ur community or whatever.

I found it useful cause you can take or leave internet strangers' opinions more than anyone in real life.

I had a thread of the "this is our boy choice, what girls names are similar" and it was useful. I wouldn't do that in real life because of the politics of taking or not taking somebody's suggestion.

Thankfully we had a boy.

What always amazes me is the randomness of some posters' suggestions.
Someone says they had chosen the name Daisy for their expected dd but now their SIL has used the name so could posters suggest similar type names. Most people come back with Lily, Flora, Rose, Maisie etc but you will always get a poster who offers a list of about 15 names that bear no relation to Daisy in any way and is obviously just a list of the posters favourite names that she trots out at every opportunity.

Waitingformyman Dh refused to consider Luna for dd2 because his hairdresser has a dog called Luna, we've never met the dog, it seemed completely arbitary to me.

I love the baby names thread but do think it is funny the names that are always suggested that I doubt anyone uses - Romily?

And people always get upset if you say the name they are choosing is popular, just google the top 100 names.

As a parent I think you are much more tuned in to the names of the moment having attended endless baby groups, nurseries and schools. I struggled far more second time round as I had too many associations.

I also find it strange when people post saying they want an unusual, quirky name for their new baby. I mean, if you've no ideas yourself of that ilk then maybe you're not that unusual and quirky and should just go with a name that reflects your taste and personality.

I love the baby names forum. For a foreigner, it's like some kind of microcosm of UK social class, with firing 'chavvy', 'posh', 'try-hard' around.

Oh God yes, the 'suggest a really unusual, out there name for my baby' type threads are a bit cringy. If you don't have the imagination to think of some yourself, stop trying to use your baby to give yourself in a boho, off centre image.

I like the ones where the poster has clearly just cut and pasted a list of names from somewhere.

I enjoy it because it is entertaining.
I look in birth columns now and again and wonder if the people who have chosen the names are Mumsnetters. Probably not, to be fair. If you move in circles where Araminta Jocasta Heliotrope are normal names you don't need Mumsnet to tell you. Sometimes you wonder if the child has Agatha or Edna as a middle name to please an elderly aunt (and maybe ensure something will be left in the will).
I am pretty sure people sometimes add names out of mischief such as 'Gonad' such as strong name for a boy.'

I love the name Ezra, but am sniggering away at Esra/Arse

Esra/Arse is fine. Think of poor Lana.

I love reading the baby names threads! There's some corkers out there that make me think "WTAF, are you really considering calling your child that name?!" (Note: it's not the so-called 'chavvy' names!) I follow the principle of "if you can't say anything nice don't say anything at all" and generally don't comment.

I saw a load of posters raving about the name Mildred once. I really hope the unfortunate baby was not landed with that name.

I had a more in depth peruse of the name threads last night, twas a right hoot! Yy to wtf calls their kid Romulus / romily, esmerelda etc... Seriously these kids don't exist anywhere do they? (Or perhaps in deepest darkest Kensington)

On another note... Do u judge the parents of kids with horrid names?

I am acquainted with a baby Tobias, and I must say it makes me assume the parents are snobs. Unfair to judge I know but it's my gut reaction

I think the baby names board is great!

I think it's what drew me into mn.

It's go

I think if you're asking 'Do you like the name......' and it's a perfectly normal name like Thomas or Olivia, it's pointless.

BUT sometimes someone can give an insight into a name or initials or a meaning that you might not have considered. But I love reading the name threads. It always makes me laugh when someone says 'No, Poppy is a dog's name' as if NO other human beings have ever been called this.

However, I also get annoyed when people say 'If you like it that's all that matters' No. that's not ALL that matters, because if you must insist on calling your child Cabbage or Flower-Lilly-Trixie May YOU are not the one that has to live with said name.

Good escapism.

I've learned new names that aren't in the books esp foreign ones from overseas/ ex pat posters.

It's good to know if a name has negative connotations. Eg I like aurora - I never knew it was a Disney princess- I don't think I'd use it now.

And I'd not heard of melena before mn!

I don't like asking people irl because if they do t like a name we suggest then I used it anyway I'd always remember their comment.

No one I know discusses there name list before they decide.

I also find it funny when a poster says that they've narrowed their list down to two names and which one do mnetters prefer. And someone comes on and throws a third, unrequested name into the mix:

"If you like Eva and Anna you might also like Eliza".

No, they won't. They want to call their daughter Eva or Anna. Just answer the question.

I love baby names discussions.
I happily discussed names I liked when pregnant I wasn't too bothered if others liked them or not.
Two of my SILs wouldn't say, which is fine their choice but they both were always going on about it and made a big thing of "I know something you don't know" and "Your going to be surprised the names are so unusual".
Everyone just ended up thinking we don't actually care that much.

I'm convinced some posters on there are just on a mission to shove their own favourite names down everyone's throats.
Some of them just seem to trot out the same old list of names regardless of the question asked by the OP.

I am grateful for posters telling me that Minnie is another word for fanjo in various parts of the UK (not here, obviously). I am glad that I avoided naming DD fanjo.

What I find odd are the threads where someone is saying "we have chosen Robert for DS as it is a family name and very important to us. We will definitely be using Robert as a first name. We are looking for a middle name that goes well with Robert & our surname, Bloggs." Which is then followed by numerous posts saying "Oh, I don't like Robert - what about Lucien/Rafe/Albert/Hubert?"

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We shouldn't forget Arlo and Orla either.

Lana, Arlo, Orla. All nice names but I couldn't use them.

My favorite name story wasn't from here.

It was a mum who was about to give birth and she and her husband had decided on Andrew as a name and Drew for day to day use.

Mum thought she would Google to see if anyone else had their chosen name, and couldn't believe that they hadn't considered that their surname is Peacock.

This is why name boards exist.

That and the 'I like Victorian names, Victoria, Alice, Sarah that kind of thing" and people respond with a list of:

Aleysha, Talisa, Tracy.

Am still thinking

Chlamydia-Mae has a nice ring to it!

You can't beat chucking a Mae, May or Bee on the end!

Waitingformymam I didn't realise Esra was a Turkish name, but even so this family are 100% British with no links to any other countries, so it seems an odd choice.