To bf in front of other people's DC?

[GeorgieJo]

BIL and SIL have dropped off their DD and DS at ours for the weekend. They are 6 and 5. I have an 8 month old DS. My niece asked me what DS ate, and I mentioned bf. She asked what that was and I explained (although possibly was a mistake to talk about suckling puppies...)

Anyway sent SIL a what I thought was a funny text about it, and she has texted back asking me not to bf in front of them.

I think that is outrageous - it is my house, and bf is totally normal. I don't want to offend but I don't think bf is offensive.

AIBU to go ahead as usual?

Has she gotten a bit confused thinking that you were offering to breastfeed her son and her daughter?!

My dd accepted her brother had 'mummy milk' just as she had with no ill effects. Tell her to grow up and rescue her dc if she's so botgered

Children care much less than adults. Until they're taught to make an issue of it, they don't!

Has she picked her kids up and taken them home yet, seeing that she isn't willing to respect you or your way of living in your own home?

If not I suggest she gets a move on - her poor little children might be traumatised by the time baby's next feed comes round and we can't have that, can we?

I bf in front of my stepsister's boys when they were around 5 and 7. The 5 year old studied me in a rather disconcerting way.

When he next saw his mum (not in my presence) he apparently ran up to her and said 'Mum, you were right! Breasts really are for feeding babies.' His mum was amused to find that he hadn't believed it until he'd seen it himself.

OP, Yanbu.

My neices followed me into the other room to watch me feed dd. DH had to herd them away for me!

She's being a complete twat.

Glad nothing like this happened when I had my DCs. DSDs were fascinated by BF and asked questions etc, their mum had no problem with it

Didn't really have any other children in the family then but if we do have another baby there's no way I'll be hiding away to feed them!

I'm the same as you OP; my family were more used to BFing than DHs who all thought it was horrible
With DD I wasn't confident in my ability to do it and gave up after 2 months so never really BF'd in front of them, but with DS I did. They got used to it. They had to. And to give them their dues they were great once they did get used to it.

I remember having visitors when DD was about a week old. My aunt, her husband and his 10 year old daughter. I took myself off to BF DD next door to the living room (because of the aforementioned lack of confidence) and the daughter appeared a few minutes later and asked very politely if she could see the baby. I said of course and that was the moment I stopped going into DDs room to BF.

Basically OP get on and feed your baby wherever you want to in your own home, never mind your visitors!

How ridiculous, my kids aged up to eight all know they were fed milk from my boobs and wouldn't even think twice about someone breast feeding!!

Stupid people dislike natural and healthy feeding. Ignore the stupid bigots and feed your child the best possible way = BF

Yanbu, that's ridiculous.

That's fucking ridiculous.

Teach him to ask for bitty when he's thirsty. Report back.

you should so do what coldlightofday says!

Coldlightofday LMAO!!! That' was exactly what I would text back

Seriously though get her to come and collect them, I can't believe the cheek...

I BF in front of my friends 8 year old son and 5 year old daughter in my own home. The son asked me what the baby was doing and when I explained he said 'that's disgusting!' My friend just laughed. Luckily her mum was also there and told her grandson that it is perfectly normal and just a different way of feeding babies rather than a bottle. I was a bit surprised that my friend didn't say anything to her son. Surely it's just another bit of biology that he'll learn eventually? Some people are weird about it.

I BFd DS2 at DS1's preschool. Didn't even think about it - baby was hungry, so I fed him. Before I knew it, I was surrounded by 30 2, 3 and 4 year olds all wanting to know what I was doing, where had I put the bottle and why was the baby eating me?

I think a few parents had to answer a few questions they weren't expecting that day.

How ridiculous. Tell her not to worry, they won't see a thing as your baby will be wearing their special breastfeeding hat...

YANBU. Even though dd only bf for a few weeks I'm going to tell her that this is a completely normal way to feed and normalize her to it. I think it's sad that some parents want to shield their children from it.

I was recently at a zoo and the piglets were suckling and a little boy around 5 shouted 'look! theyre having lunch!' which made me laugh.

text her "ha ha great joke"

I'd be happy about you BFing in front of mine. If think you were a great example

Cant see what the fuss is,you fed your own kid,in usual way in own home

Ask her for her reasons. Whatever they are they will be really odd and will therefore give you more ammo to send back a really good reply.

How come she didn't know you were BF?