To bf in front of other people's DC?

[GeorgieJo]

BIL and SIL have dropped off their DD and DS at ours for the weekend. They are 6 and 5. I have an 8 month old DS. My niece asked me what DS ate, and I mentioned bf. She asked what that was and I explained (although possibly was a mistake to talk about suckling puppies...)

Anyway sent SIL a what I thought was a funny text about it, and she has texted back asking me not to bf in front of them.

I think that is outrageous - it is my house, and bf is totally normal. I don't want to offend but I don't think bf is offensive.

AIBU to go ahead as usual?

You can barely see anything when someone's breast feeding anyway can you, which makes it even more ridiculous

Totally not BU. Carry on as normal.

You are looking after her children, she does not dictate to you
She doesn't know how lucky she is!

Where are they? Have they gone orf away sans enfants?

Feed your own child how you choose

I would also reply and say she needs to come and pick them up.

She didn't even give a reason?

Your SIL is the odd one, not you...

Text her saying you have put yhe kids in the shed until the baby is fed

she said if I absolutely had to I could bf in front of her daughter but definitely not her son...

Oh how kind of her! I'd tell her get back straight away and pick them up.

You realy cant see anything allthese hysterical people think nipples are flying about everywhere all the time

Wouldn't be bothered in the slightest. When my then 4 year old saw someone bf for the first time, he asked what they were doing, I told him and he said ah right. That was it.

I believe this is not a wind-up, my own dh told me that I needed to check before breastfeeding my baby in front of his sister's dd.

But no, YANBU, your SIL is being weird. I'm the least assertive person in the world but I would most definitely tell her that as I feed my baby on demand, out in public, as is my right, she's going to have to keep her children away if she doesn't want them to see me breastfeeding. If you can find a way of saying that in a lighthearted or friendly way, you're doing better than me!

That is madness! I would be totally happy dd seeing a woman bf - its natural! Thats where babies milk is made! I dont have a son (yet - got one on the way) and the same goes for him.

Of course she is wrong, and of course you should carry on as normal, but if no one in her family has ever breastfed she may have been brought up with some odd ideas around breastfeeding. Calling her a loon, thick etc is not terribly helpful here (I know that wasn't you, OP)

YADNBU. My SIL was like this even though she bf her son for 16 months much longer than I managed to bf my dd. i did point out to her that it was ironic she was happy to expose her son to other women's cleavage while watching TV. I covered myself with a scarf so you'd be hard pressed to see anything.

Sorry my point to my SIL was her son would see more cleavage on TV than anything I did as I covered myself if bf in public.

Tell her to come and collect them.

I would tell her to make alternative babysitting arrangements in the future.

Im amazed youve got to 8 months and this is the first time theyve been around you bfing.

YANBU.

Today I bf my DS at toddler and baby group. There were about twenty children aged between 5 months - 3 years all running around and playing. I didn't even think about it - he was hungry so I fed him. Every other mum there does the same. Today (that I noticed!) there were 2 breast feeds and 2 bottle feeds. It's just part of raising a baby - you feed it!! What next....don't change a nappy in front of them?! Ridiculous! Your house, your baby, your choice. I agree with other posters about saying your baby's basic needs come before doing her a favour. Good luck!

Text back and say 'Too Late, read your text after they had both watched me bf the baby and I've answered all their questions.'

That is ridiculous, of course YANBU.

About BFing in front of children at all but also in your own home?!?! What does she expect you to do, go and hide in your room?

Bloody cheek.

ridiculous!!

SIL not you OP.

even more odd that its ok in front of the DD but not the DS - she's definitely got a hang up about it being sexual when it aint.

Probably an attitude she learned as a child from her parents, shame she is passing on the same warped ideas to her own.

but have you not picked up on this attitude before? is she the type that shudders when you say you are going to BF? does she not spend much time in your company.

singsongmama

yes heaven forbid OP changes her DS nappy in front of the SILs DD, I mean, she might see a tiny willy !

I have the feeling her DS & DD probably don't share a bath, paddle naked in their garden or see their parents naked ever?

I remember feeding many times in front of various children. They were all found it interesting simply about how the baby got my milk not my boobs. Infact one little girl went and got her bikini top and breast fed her dolly.

This is the most natural thing in the world , you can do it where you like in public so no reason in the world you shouldn't in your own home