to cancel the whole thing

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So, I have bought myself and the children tickets to legoland, two adult and 2 child tickets at a cost of over £100.

Since buying them, I have managed to purchase another set of tickets from Facebook for £20, these are valid on the 9th July.

Earlier on I put my bag on the sofa to get something, my son (nearly 4) tried to take my purse out of my bag, I told him very clearly not to do that and to leave mummy's purse alone.

I took a phone call, changed the babies nappy and looked round, son had gone upstairs, I followed him and he has emptied my purse, pushed 2x£10 and the £100 lego tickets inbetween the floor boards somewhere, he won't show me exactly where he just said he 'put them in the floor'

I am absolutely LIVID with him, he KNEW not to play with my purse and he did it anyway, he has RUINED an expensive day out for the whole family.

The thing is, we have these other legoland tickets, we have booked days off work to go and take them but I dont want to take him now because I think it sends the wrong message.

AIBU to give the tickets away to a friend who will be really grateful of them?

Get under the floorboards, I would for £20 and some Legoland tickets!

Seriously OP, I would be annoyed at a child who did this and give them a good telling off. Just as in the paracetemol example, I would say very firmly not to touch.

But it would end there and then I would put them out of reach. Three or four year old's don't have great reasoning capacity and you are likely to lose more things if you keep putting temptation in their way.

I would be cross at myself for having left them within reach- I lost an important item and ended up not being able to go on a work trip with a same age child and it was infuriating, but you can't stay cross at a little one about it.

I think it's fine to lay out boundaries though- don't go in my bag is something I've also said since they were little as my 3/4 year old used to go around 'collecting money' (stealing) at this age and it wasn't til she was about 6 it went into her head it was the wrong thing to do (she also had no concept of what money was so would take a 1p as much as a £10 note, just that it was desirable). The moral compass takes a while to develop.

Speaking of rugs, I have just moved the rug in his room (preparing for floorboard lifting) and I have found them!

So relieved.

I think it is entirely appropriate to be livid at a child who is well aware he is in the wrong, has JUST BEEN TOLD not to play with mummy's purse who then goes and plays with it anyway knowing he is being naughty.

It is just another lesson for him in not ignoring me or messing with things I have told him not to mess with.

We are going to legoland though, Yay!

I completely agree with you then I am not cross with him anymore. I was absolutely steaming at the time though.

Im glad youve found them op and hope you all have a lovely day at legoland.

Thank you, its all for him really, the little one doesn't really know whats going on but he loves it there.

oh that's brilliant OP. What a relief. Have a lovely time

Phew, these things happen, all over now, have fun!