to cancel the whole thing

[ICanHearYou]

So, I have bought myself and the children tickets to legoland, two adult and 2 child tickets at a cost of over £100.

Since buying them, I have managed to purchase another set of tickets from Facebook for £20, these are valid on the 9th July.

Earlier on I put my bag on the sofa to get something, my son (nearly 4) tried to take my purse out of my bag, I told him very clearly not to do that and to leave mummy's purse alone.

I took a phone call, changed the babies nappy and looked round, son had gone upstairs, I followed him and he has emptied my purse, pushed 2x£10 and the £100 lego tickets inbetween the floor boards somewhere, he won't show me exactly where he just said he 'put them in the floor'

I am absolutely LIVID with him, he KNEW not to play with my purse and he did it anyway, he has RUINED an expensive day out for the whole family.

The thing is, we have these other legoland tickets, we have booked days off work to go and take them but I dont want to take him now because I think it sends the wrong message.

AIBU to give the tickets away to a friend who will be really grateful of them?

[Sallyingforth]

He's put thing down the floorboards before... Little sod!

And yet you still left your handbag and contents for him to play with!

It really was entirely your own fault.

[LastTango]

I understand your frustration but he is far too young to understand the consequences of what he's done.

Absolute rubbish ^^.

[ICanHearYou]

I should be able to leave my handbag anywhere without him deciding to 'play' with my purse! He is nearly 4, he understands that is wrong and just did it anyway!

I have punished him, I will sort out the tickets and go to legoland

[PlumpPartridge]

I would be calling my son a sod too if he did that op..... he won't remember that he's being punished onthe day, though.

[weatherall]

How are you going to cope when's he older and really misbehaves?

You are in for a hard time over the next 15 years if you carry on like this, OP.

[OorWullie]

I'd retrieve the tickets/try and get replacements if possible- as others have said he wont make the connection when the trip is so far away.

At nearly four, i would expect to be able to tell my child not to touch and for him to understand, but to be honest (speaking from experience) if it is something valuable/impoetant i'd still put it out of the way. Sometimes when they are young temptation takes over.

[ICanHearYou]

When he is older and he really misbehaves I will punish him as I have today.

[ICanHearYou]

I think it's the people who don't follow through with punishments who are in for a rough ride to be honest

[bachsingingmum]

How annoying. The back door key went missing when my DD was a similar age. Eventually she confessed to having put it down the tube in the middle of the carousel shelving in the kitchen cupboard. We had to dismantle the whole thing to retrieve it. Why, just why???

[mameulah]

Yeah, I can imagine you are really angry but he only did it because of where you left them. At three years old it is a fair enough mistake.

Give him a row. Get over it.

And enjoy your day out!

[ICanHearYou]

I didn't leave them, I answered the bloody phone! I do expect my 4 year old to be able to control himself enough not to mess around with my purse.

[Humansatnav]

My then 3 yo posted my cashcard, a set of keys and loose change into the video.
£40 quid to get it fixed so I bought a cover for it. I did not "punish" him. I shouldn't have left my bag in his reach.
He is now 20 and at Uni doing a policing degree.
And your point is, op ?

[stopbeingsilly]

And your point is, humansatnav ? Absolutely nonexistent, yes.

[listsandbudgets]

Totally understand your frustration Icanhearyou but calm down, punish him immediately and then take a deep breath and start taking up floor boards. As him to show you were he put them and hopefully he'll point you in the right direction.

If its any consolation, I couldn't find my hand bag at all on Sunday morning. After half an hours frantic searching I gave up for a bit and went for a cup of tea outside only to stumble over it outside the back door. Every item had been removed and scattered. Everything from the purse had been taken out and laid out individually. We've got CCTV and when I checked back, I discovered DS had got my handbag and carefully posted each and every item through the cat flap followed by the bag itself. I'd been having a lovely hot bath. DP had only noticed that DS (nearly 2) was on the floor quietly playing and got on with reading hte newspaper. These things happen

[MarmaladeShatkins]

"I think it's the people who don't follow through with punishments who are in for a rough ride to be honest"

You can punish him. But be aware that punishing him in a fortnight will be as effective as farting in the wind.

[ICanHearYou]

lists that did make me laugh, thank you!

[Humansatnav]

stopbeingsilly, the point being that 3yo's do stuff, they don't then grow up to be delinquent's because they are not severely punished.
HTH

[ICanHearYou]

Human are you on the right thread?

[Humansatnav]

Well this is AIBU, so I assumed you were looking for opinions, not validation.

[lunar1]

He is 3, he hasn't mastered impulse control yet. Be an adult and take proper care of important things.

My 5 year old knows never to take any tablets, it doesn't mean I leave packs of paracetamol all over. Childhood is for learning, not for being perfect.

[Thumbwitch]

YABU - you really should not have left your handbag in his reach.

[PeterParkerSays]

Buy a rug for the area(s) where he keeps posting things so he can't get them through the floor boards.

and enjoy legoland

[aderynlas]

I understand that you would be annoyed op, just think to be livid at a little 3 nearly 4 year old for doing what he did is an over reaction.

[DoJo]

Am I reading correctly that you have two children? So if you don't go to Legoland, the other child will be punished as well? That doesn't seem fair. To be honest, I understand that he knows better and shouldn't do things when he has been asked not to, but it does seem like a slight over reaction to cancel a whole day out rather than just take up a couple of floorboards and come up with a more immediate punishment.