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aibu to think this is one of the most unnecessary fb photos ever?

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giraffescantboogie · 27/06/2014 04:34

5yr old boy with fringe pulled back to show fairly minor graze to head, obviously JUST happened as has tears down face/in eyes and facial expression crying. Holding drink of water and a tissue.

FFS if you MUST photograph it at least bloody wait until he has stopped crying and comfort him instead of taking photos and posting "my poor baby :( xxx"

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SquigglySquid · 27/06/2014 05:14

Poor baby. His mom wants to capture the moment before taking care of him.

Then again, it might be a cute photo to embarrass him with when he brings his serious partner home one day. :)

lettertoherms · 27/06/2014 05:20

I saw a picture the other day of a small toddler open mouth screaming, running toward mum, with an obviously bleeding cut to the head.

I unfriended them immediately, it made me sick. At least in your case they'd tended to him a bit if he had some water and she was holding his fringe back.

If a child is bleeding grab them and start first aid ffs.

woowoo22 · 27/06/2014 06:10

YANBU. Know someone who does this and openly states "had to take a photo before comforting/fixing/whatever." Stupid and selfish, IMO.

shakinstevenslovechild · 27/06/2014 06:14

I often take pictures of my dcs injuries. I'm really bad at being able to tell if swelling and bruising is getting worse, so I take pictures every 20 minutes so I can see.

I have never put them on facebook though, thats really sad.

ShutTheFuckUpBarbara · 27/06/2014 06:17

I am Shock that anyone could do this.

I mean, when your child is hurt and crying, how is it even possible to think of a Facebook update at that point?

This is so bizarre!

Montybojangles · 27/06/2014 06:30

In know.

There's a man who wrote a whole bloody blog of them called reasons my son is crying. It's a book now, WTF? Although they were supposedly more tantrum related crying I'm not sure his son will thank him for it when he's an adult.

lettertoherms · 27/06/2014 07:06

Reasons My Son is Crying is a different thing though, it's never injured children, they're really silly toddler tantrums, like "He asked me to cut his sandwich in half so I did."

DrFunkesFamilyBandSolution · 27/06/2014 07:12

I've taken photos of tantrums, ds1 has the most dramatic swan diving ones. I send them to dh/friends but wouldn't post them publicly on Facebook

I can't understand why your instinct would say photo on fb before 'the fuck just happened to you dc?!', same wth the 'look at dc in this stupidly dangerous position hanging off a boat, running wth a knife or something equally endangering lolz'

Watercolourfootballs · 27/06/2014 07:13

One of my DC was in hospital overnight following an accident. It came up in conversation a while later with a friend whose shock response was 'I didn't know - why wasn't it on FB?'.

I just smiled and said I was a bit busy at the time. But I mean really? I suspect (although she is lovely ) she would have been posting from the ambulance, A&E, outside surgery and through the long night... We contacted both sets of DGPs to let them know and that was all.

It did highlight to me how much people allow FB to become intertwined with their lives though.

ithoughtofitfirst · 27/06/2014 07:21

Just plain weird. It would never cross my mind to do that. Comfort the poor little guy don't humiliate him on social media.

Yanbu.

Aeroflotgirl · 27/06/2014 07:32

Yanbu have they no privacy. Some people have put pictures of their ill dc on facebook

Deverethemuzzler · 27/06/2014 07:39

Some people only have pictures of their ill DCs.
Because their DCs are ill all the time. If they didn't put photos of their ill DCs on FB they wouldn't have any photos to share at all.

The photo in the OP sounds rubbish though.

Fcukfifa · 27/06/2014 07:39

I don't understand it at all!

My youngest fell and got his head along the straight edge of the door yesterday and had the biggest lump I've ever seen! After consoling him, getting some ice in a tea towel etc I took a photo of it so show his dad and my sis as her her youngest had done the exact same-didn't cross my mind to stick it on fb! might post it on here though [grjn]

Montybojangles · 27/06/2014 07:40

I did mention that fact in my post lettertoherms I still think it's shit he has been so happy to share with the world pictures of his son in this way. I would be pretty pissed off and embarrassed if my DPs had done this to me as a child. Imagine going through your teenage years with all your peers knowing you are the tantrum picture boy Sad

Montybojangles · 27/06/2014 07:41

And taking pictures of injured children before soothing and treating them is very bizarre.

Montybojangles · 27/06/2014 07:42

..sorry, it went before I put....Never mind posting them onto a social network!

CMOTDibbler · 27/06/2014 07:44

We were out cycling with friends when their dd came off. Just grazes and a nosebleed where she bumped her nose - cleaned up as best we can, rode back to cars. While I was doing a proper clean up (they don't have a first aid kit) and dressing the bigger graze, he was taking photos that went straight on fb! Couldn't believe it

Fcukfifa · 27/06/2014 07:44

Ffs, bastard typos!

MyCarHasBrokenDownAgain · 27/06/2014 07:47

I often take photos of my DSs injuries (after immediate first aid of course!).. not because I want to post them anywhere, but because he was, and always has been, a bit of a gore hound, and actually wants to see the cut to his ear, forehead etc Grin

Sirzy · 27/06/2014 07:48

I have taken photos of tantrums, and of injuries AFTER they are sorted but doing it beforehand would never cross my mind

Happydaysatlast · 27/06/2014 07:50

It's a bit strange and wierd to take photos of distressed children for any reason really. Unless you are a war reporter.

However taking pics of children getting better in hospital can be a reassuring fb post to your friends without having up update them by phone and text.

It's all in the context.

DizzyKipper · 27/06/2014 08:05

It's self absorbed, attention seeking, and selfish. My SIL took a pic of her son (younger than 18months at the time) with a big gash on his knee that was bleeding. He was apparently still smiling and running about playing so I guess she wanted to show off how 'tough' her kid is by the fact he didn't get upset (and did make a comment to this effect), but still, it's more about her that her first reaction was to take a photo of it for fb rather than do something about it.

deakymom · 27/06/2014 11:16

i took pictures of my son when he was bitten on the eye i used them to compare day to day if it had got better or worse (it got infected and was travelling along the optic nerve) the doctor said i was being sensible i did also post a couple on facebook but in my defence my cousin is a DR as is her husband and he is doing pediatric training she is training to be a surgeon so i could get a second opinion if i needed one! (my auntie is a nurse too)

gotnotimeforthat · 27/06/2014 11:20

YANBU i've seen a photo of a baby with his foot stuck in his cot bars crying because he couldn't get it out with the caption " haha bless him he has his foot stuck"

Birdsgottafly · 27/06/2014 11:25

There would be a lot less "You've been framed" episodes, if parents really did give a shit about their child hurting themselves.

Not only do they not react, but often have set it up.

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