To not le DSD (4) ride around the kitchen on her bike

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I had the oven on, 2 pans boiling on the hob and DSD was refusing to stop riding her bike around the kitchen!!

DH 'intervened' and when she wouldn't take no for an answer just said 'oh let her ride it if she wants!'

She doesn't know how to use the brakes and our kitchen isn't particularly big. Apart from the oven and pans there are loads of sharp corners she could catch her head on!

Am I being too strict, surely not letting a small child ride a bike around a kitchen is just common sense? Also why could DH have taken he outside instead of sat watching telly.

There's me undermined again, no wonder nobody takes any bloody notice

YANBU. Wtf is the bike doing in the house in the first place

YANBU.
Tip of an iceberg, isn't it? Cocklodging with free childcare thrown in, or AIBU?

Bikes are outdoor toys. That's all there is to that.

Make sure she rides her bile round and round the living room later... when the football is on!

Depends entirely on your kitchen, type of bike, type of child, age of child, location of oven....
In my kitchen, big, farmhouse, oven up high, I let the kids ride their balance bikes.

chromosone YANBU. How I feel sometimes!
And becca I moved it into the she but DH bough it into the house as the she's isn't secure and he doesn't want it to get stolen. There's been a lot of kids bikes stolen in our area recently from unlocked sheds. But completely agree with you, it should not be in the house in the first place

YANBU
Clearly for safety reasons you don't want that to happen. My kitchen isn't a bad size but there us no way a 4yo could ride a bike in there.
When they were much smaller and using ride on, they did do that when we weren't cooking. But surely that's not the same.

Thought so.

"My name's Disgrace, and I'm a really suspicious bastard".

Haha taxi great idea!! We love in a farm house too but only have a small kitchen. The oven is a floor standing one.

DSD is 4 and quite a little Tom boy (god love her, girl after my own heart). The bike is just a little push bike but with a dining table in our little kitchen too I jut cringe at the thought of her catching herself on the corner of something

Suspicious disgrace?

A bike is something to ride outside. If it were my DC, I would have taken the bicycle and put it outside for her to ride it there and never mind what she thought. "The bike belongs outside so don't bring it in, Mary."

Why buy a bike if there's nowhere safe to keep it? Haven't you a lockable garage or shed or other outbuilding?

why on earth would you let her bring the bike in the house???

4 year olds need a lot of space to ride a bike though - not like a 14 month old on a wheely bug, 4 year olds can go fast ... not an indoor toy at all, even in a huge kitchen maybe if you have a ballroom you're not using

I agree. Riding a bike round a kitchen when someone is cooking is dangerous and her father is a twonk. Bloody ineffectual parenting, don't do that darling oh, you are going to? ok then, whatever you want my princess. pah.

tbh, I would have turned the food off, made the kitchen safe and said dinner will not be made while this bike is being ridden so I hope you aren't hungry.

hectate that's is so true!! Couldn't have put it better myself. That is exactly why he's like with her! Drives me mad as I'm quite strict!

Why didn't you just lift her off the bike and put it outside?

And you need to have a serious chat with your twat of a husband.

YANBU of course

But what consequence was there for your 4yr old's refusal to do what she was told?

Or handed him the oven gloves and told him that you two were off out for a cycle. Back in 30 mins for dinner, now get on with it you lazy git !

Um.... no, and we have a big kitchen and I still dont think its a suitable place to ride a bike. I did used to let DD ride her Wheelybug round it though, if I was not cooking. But bikes and scooters, no, absolutely not.
YANBU.

YANBU, bikes and small kitchens don't mix, or even large ones for that matter. I don't think it is especially strict to tell her not to do it and take the bike away if she doesn't co-operate. And it is quite possible to keep a bike in the house, if you have nowhere suitable outside but the child still not actually ride it in the house. DS had a bike, we lived in a flat where we kept it. He rode it when we went out; he did not ride it in the kitchen. I can't believe your DH, there is easy-going and then there is overindulgent and he is most definitely the latter.

OP: It's a Discworld quote. Being a gloomy old bugger I've a fairly low opinion of people, and Sam Vimes' attitude strikes a chord.

Your kitchen, your rules. Say No, and mean it; put the bike outside.

He's very overindulgent. DSDs behaviour has been getting progressively worse and she really doesn't like it when I try and lay some ground rules down ( she goes running to DH who of course doesn't bother to back me up).

Thing is we've got an 11MO DD and I'm wanting to be firm with her. I don't think I could cope with two prissy princesses in the house

Either way, one of you should have made sure there was a consequence/punishment.

4 years olds shouldn't get to 'refuse' to do what their told, by the adults supervising them.

Yes I know. I just get so sick of being undermined. If I had punished her She wouldn't ran to DH, he would've said 'oh there there' and she would've given me a look as if to say 'I know exactly how to get round you.' And that makes me do mad!