To not le DSD (4) ride around the kitchen on her bike

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I had the oven on, 2 pans boiling on the hob and DSD was refusing to stop riding her bike around the kitchen!!

DH 'intervened' and when she wouldn't take no for an answer just said 'oh let her ride it if she wants!'

She doesn't know how to use the brakes and our kitchen isn't particularly big. Apart from the oven and pans there are loads of sharp corners she could catch her head on!

Am I being too strict, surely not letting a small child ride a bike around a kitchen is just common sense? Also why could DH have taken he outside instead of sat watching telly.

There's me undermined again, no wonder nobody takes any bloody notice

Have you had a conversation with your DH about this - a proper one, when you aren't in the middle of anything and she isn't there/ is in bed?

Take it as being about what's best for her - her physical safety apart from anything. Remind him that in 10 years she will be a 14 year old, who needs to be able to follow basic ground rules otherwise all your lives will be impossible. You do need to be able to provide a united front to both your DSD and DD, esp as they are fairly close in age so it is going to be impossible to treat them differently in terms of ground rules and listening to both as you as parents while DSD is at your house.

I jut cringe at the thought of her catching herself on the corner of something

She'd only do it once

As for DH I'd have turned the pans off and made him wait for his dinner until his precious daughter decided to stop !! But then I'm 'ard.

Tell her firmly, no bike riding in the house. If she disobeys then take the bike, chain it up in the garage for a week and hide the key.
When she gets it back in a week, se won't ride it in the house again. Ever!

I don't know where you live but pictures and a story like this might convince your DH.
www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-cornwall-24460447

Bikes are not inside toys. Saying no is meaningless unless there are consequences. Child rearing is like diplomacy: don't make a threat unless you are willing to carry it out.

I know! She regularly shows her dislike for me, I have put it down to the fact I am the only adult who tries to enforce any sort of ground rules with her. I don't want DD thinking she can run amock.

I am a strict parent. DH just melts like butter when he hears 'daaaaddddyyyyyy!' I'm not a meany I just don't tolerate hitting, rudeness or high levels of disobedience

So have you discussed this with your husband?

Many times but it just ends in a big row

Have you asked DH how he will explain any injuries to his DD's mother or to a hospital? Is he really prepared to say 'she was riding a bike in the kitchen because I didn't want to stop her'?

I suspect if DSD sustained a serious burn it would be grounds to stop contact completely.

Agree ketchup everything I do or say is for everyone else's own good. I'm not doing it to be a party pooping bitch. He doesn't think about things like this

Bikes belong inside the house for storage. They do here anyway. The bikes are the males in the house babies.

But bikes are ridden outside. Always.

In the kitchen? DS doesn't even come in the kitchen when I'm cooking unless he's sat quietly at the table.

Yanbu. Bikes are for outside only.

This issue is nuch bigger than the bike - you and DH need a proper discussion without it deteriorating into an argument, or you will have much more significant problems parenting both your children in 5 years time. You can't just leave it, you have to be on the same page or the situation will very soon be impossible.

YANBU. Tell your DH to buy a lock for the shed toot sweet because the bike is going in there regardless of whether its safe or not. Bikes are not for indoors. Full Stop. But to be honest, as much I fear accidents to my own little one (and what sane, rational parent doesn't?), if she won't learn any other way then maybe she should ride it. Tell your Dh it's his watch, you down tools and leave them to it. Don't cook when she's doing it and leave her dad to sort out dinner and also any of the inevitable medical attention she's going to need. Let them both suffer consequences. Either she gets to ride round and round but neither of them get dinner or she gets a bump. Either way I think they'll both think twice next time. It's outrageous that he undermines you on such a basic safety/common sense issue. Outrageous, stupid and negligent, I bet he just wants the crying or screaming to stop and thinks no further than that.

Omg I must be the wickedest stepmum from the planet evil! I don't allow toys of any type in the kitchen or hallway/stairs. I have two DDs and a DSD and none of them are allowed any form of toy in these areas.

These are dangerous places without Lego, tiny bouncy balls, wheeled things, we even managed to melt a doll on the hob once! They was blinking scary!

They have the whole rest of the house for play :) and the garden. YANBU xxx

YANBU.

FWIW our DCs have to bring their bikes, scooters etc indoors as there's nowhere safe to put them outside (no garden) but they know they don't even sit/stand on them inside!

Sorry you've married a Disney dad.