To be crapping myself about whose baby this is?

[stateoftheart]

I cant believe this has happened to me!!

Period is 7 days late now. Tested Weds, negative. Tested today, very faint positive.

I have the copper coil in, i've checked and its still in place. I have no symptoms at all.

I have been seeing someone, we regularly have sex. But 8 days ago I had unprotected sex with someone else. Just the once. Given how faint the test is could it be his? But my periods was already nearly due then anyway.

About 14 days ago I had what I though was mid cycle bleed, this could have been implantation bleed??

But the test is so faint.

Oh god my head is everywhere.

Can anyone link to any conclusive evidence of whether there is a possibility. I have looked everywhere.

[SaltySeaBird]

You can definitely get a BFP 8 days post ovulation with a sensitive test so it could be either guys depending on when you ovulated which may have been later than you thought.

It's more likely to be the first guy's. It's not impossible that it's the second guy's. Best bet is to get a test.

[creampie]

If you had sex for the only time with the second guy 1 day before your period was due, it won't be his, as long as your cycle is of regular length every month and doesn't vary.

[PersonOfInterest]

Could a scan date the pregnancy? Anyone?

[Bogeyface]

CVS is when a needle is put through your abdomen into the placenta to extract cells

Not necessarily, it can be done transvaginally.

[Finola1step]

You can't be absolutely sure unless you do a DNA test.

But from the timing you have explained, it strongly points to new boyfriend.

But, what matters is your physical and emotional health. Not dates etc.

[whatever5]

OP is seven days late though so unless her periods are irregular, it's unlikely that she is only 8dpo whether or not you can get a positive that soon.

[phantomnamechanger]

aside from the pg and the issue of the coil needing urgent medical appointment, is your boyfriend also sleeping unprotected with others as well as you? what about exH - does he have/has he had other partners since you? I can't believe you aren't more worried about STIs really.

[STOPwiththehahaheheloling]

She could have ovulated later than normal whatever stress can delay ovulation so it is possible she was ovulating 8 days ago.

[DreamingOfAFullNightsSleep]

I think a dating scan and then re look at dates could help

[ShergarAndSpies]

A dating scan at this stage could be up to 7 days inaccurate as the foetus is so teeny tiny. A 6 wk foetus measures approx 2mm so v hard to accurately date to a conception day until 12wks ish.

[CrispyFB]

So much depends on how close together the deeds were! If there was a week or more difference, the faintness of the test would suggest the later one, although sperm can survive for up to 5 days. Eggs can survive 24 hours, sometimes as much as 48 hours, so technically she could be 9 or even 10dpo.

Again with a dating scan at 6 weeks (most accurate until about 8-9 weeks +/- 5 days, then it becomes a much greater variance) - if there was over a week between sessions then it would be slightly more certain from that too. Although again there's the whole sperm living up to 5-7 days and the scans being out by a week. And if the pregnancy is not viable it might measure any amount of time behind as well.

So.. it's complicated but you can take an educated guess and say "balance of probability" from the darkness of the test and a dating scan. However it probably can't ever be 100% unless there's over 12 days between shags and the pregnancy is viable.

As has been mentioned, you can get a CVS to determine paternity but it's not without risk to the baby if you intend to keep it.

[Barefootgirl]

To be honest, in the OP's shoes I would have a termination. Having a kid without knowing who its father is, or with a choice of fathers, is a bit off. Terminate this pregnancy, sort your coil and contraceptive methods out, and then start thinking about a family when you are a bit more settled.

[LadyNexus]

Would one of those clear blue pregnancy tests that tell you how many weeks pregnant you are help?

If it's 2+ weeks then it's definitely the first guys.

Do you have he kind of relationship where you can talk about this with either/ both of the men involved?

It's always better to start honestly.

[STOPwiththehahaheheloling]

Barefoot "a bit off"? that's entirely for the OP to decide and your personal views on it should not influence her decision. What wouldnt be ok for you would be fine for plenty others. Please dont order someone to terminate a pregnancy based on your own ideals.

[Sidthesausage]

I've spent years trying to conceive and read up a lot about conception to maximise chances.

• Ovulation usually happens mid cycle (day 14 in a 28 day cycle).
  
• you are fertile about 6 or days before till a day after ovulation
  
• implantation spotting usually happens day 7 till day 13.

[Sidthesausage]

I'd say its the first guys.

You can't conceive when your period is due and it sounds like the light bleed was implantation bleeding.

[Sidthesausage]

Dating scans can be inaccurate by quite a few days

[TheEnchantedForest]

barefoot -that is one of the harshest comments I have ever read on here.

It really hope stateoftheart manages to ignore it and does what is right for her.

[whatever5]

She could have ovulated later than normal whatever stress can delay ovulation so it is possible she was ovulating 8 days ago.

It's obviously possible but if OP's periods are normally regular there's no reason why she should have ovulated later. OP hasn't mentioned that she was under extreme stress last month.

[Bogeyface]

Look, chances are its the first guy. But it might, might not be.

So you need to make any decision based on those facts.

I have to admit that I am confused by your posts. Would you keep the baby if you could be sure that it was your casual hook up and definitely terminate if it was your ex husbands? In one post you seemed pretty certain that you would terminate but the fact that you are worrying about paternity indicates that you are considering keeping the baby.

Either way, there is a good chance you will be doing it alone so you need to think about whether you want to do that with possibly no involvement or support from the father.

[ICanSeeTheSun]

I would say going by the clear blue test you conceived 1-2 weeks ago making you 3-4 weeks pregnant.

I would say either of these men could be the father.

A DNA test will be the only way to find out who is the father but that's is 99.99% accurate.

If I had to bet though, I would say it's the first man child.

[Bogeyface]

And also bear in mind that the men concerned can refuse to give samples for a DNA test unless ordered by a court or the CSA. So if you decide not to go down the CSA route, you may never know.

[Greythorne]

I think you are asking the wrong question, OP.

The true question is: do you want a baby?

If so, you can go it alone. Or you can think about whether you want one of these men in your life for the next 20 years.

If you don't want to have a baby, stop worrying about paternity and have a termination.

[whois]

Good luck with whatever you decide OP.

[YoungBritishPissArtist]

I was just about to post what Greythorne said.

Never mind the father; do you want to be a mother?

Good luck whatever you do x