To be unhappy about this, and wondering what the motives are?

[mytwoblackandwhitecats]

My dad recently died very suddenly, just last month. I have one brother who is just under 3 years older than me.

My dad was a widower; he had a partner he had been with for nearly 3 years. He also had one sister who we very rarely see or hear from, although she doesn't live far away.

At any rate, Dad's will hadn't been updated since 1989 - my brother was 10 and I was 7! - and was simple in it's contents insofar as everything went to our mum and if she was no longer alive, to brother and I.

However, both my aunt and his ex-partner have been telling my brother that my Dad had planned to leave everything (to brother?) There was no family row or argument and I am mystified.

Can anybody think WHY they would do this?

Shit stirring? Do they consider your brother a softer touch than you and think they'd be able to benefit this way?

Sorry for your loss

I would question their motives.

If there wasn't a formal change of will, don't give up what is rightfully yours.

doesnt matter what they say. whats in the will is in the will.

The will is the will, period.

Are you on good terms with your brother? Have they stated why they claim he said this?

Sorry for your loss, OP

This isn't the time for family to be arguing, but sadly a death is all too often the catalyst for unrest.
As someone has already said, don't give up what is rightfully yours.

What weirdos. Ignore them, receive your share and cut your aunt off. What a nasty cow.

Sorry for the loss of your dad.

It wasn't my brother who (they claim) said it - they are stating my dad did which is really upsetting as on the off chance it's true it makes me wonder why Not because of the money but because I feel like he had something against me I'll never know about.

If that is his last will, then it stands. Your brother can contest it, but it's not likely to change on the say so of your aunt and your father's partner.
Sorry for your loss OP, and sorry that this is happening to make life more stressful for you just now.

because they think that by doing so, they will benefit financially?

Just make sure the will is followed. That's all you have to do.

If your dad had wanted that he would have changed his will to reflect his wishes. They are just being nasty shit stirrers

Fuckers.

They haven't got a leg to stand on.

Why on EARTH are people so bloody GREEDY!

(Disclaimer - not v rational about this. MyDM died recently and before this my fucker of a cousin told me how much my DMs house was worth and then texted me to tell me which items of furniture she would take. My DM was still in hospital . I am still seething 6 months later.)

It's sad that this is something you'll never get a straight answer too, however, if he really felt that surely he would have changed his will?

I don't think they do though (think they will benefit financially) - it's just really strange.

My brother isn't contesting the will at all - just clarifying that.

Don't upset yourself.

If he had felt that way, he had plenty of opportunity to go to a solicitor and change his will. He chose to not do that, which means that he did not want to do what they say he did.

Don't start thinking like this, it will just upset you. xx

If your father wanted your brother to have everything, he'd have changed his will. What is your brother saying about it all?

Even if it were true, it is a really shitty thing to say considering their words change nothing.

Don't believe them, they are trying to curry favour with your brother for some reason.

your brother isn't close to them? generous to them?

well, anyway, we could all speculate all day. All you know is how you and your dad interacted your whole life and the fact that he left everything to you equally.

Don't let other people make you doubt your dad or yourself.

Thank you. I think you're right about trying to curry favour with my brother but I can't understand why!

Thanks for kind words.

It's all so horrible.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Take absolutely no notice of your aunt and the ex-partner, they are just trying to cause trouble. They probably see your brother as a soft touch who would give them some money. You know where the Will is, you know what it says, that's all that matters, ignore them, they are being awful.
Tell them to go away and let you grieve in peace.

No, he isn't at all particularly although he knew dad's partner a little bit bettr than me as he lived a bit more locally.

I hope you told her to fuck the fuck off Trooperslane. To the OP it sounds like the 2 of them are shit stirring.

They should not have mentioned this; it is a horrible thing to do to you and you have no way of knowing whether it is true or not. Horrible to put this in your mind.

It's horrible. My aunt was massively scaremongering from the start - kept saying we'd need to sell the house to get my dad's body back (he died abroad.)

We didn't. But she's just created so much trouble and upset. I would rather not see her but one of her sons, our cousin is a solicitor and my brother thinks he knows everything about everything as a result.

Trust your memories of your relationship with your dad because those you know are true.

This is all just bullshit for them for their own gain. Wills and inheritance do horrible things to people.

Sorry for your loss xx