To be unhappy about this, and wondering what the motives are?

[mytwoblackandwhitecats]

My dad recently died very suddenly, just last month. I have one brother who is just under 3 years older than me.

My dad was a widower; he had a partner he had been with for nearly 3 years. He also had one sister who we very rarely see or hear from, although she doesn't live far away.

At any rate, Dad's will hadn't been updated since 1989 - my brother was 10 and I was 7! - and was simple in it's contents insofar as everything went to our mum and if she was no longer alive, to brother and I.

However, both my aunt and his ex-partner have been telling my brother that my Dad had planned to leave everything (to brother?) There was no family row or argument and I am mystified.

Can anybody think WHY they would do this?

What a pair . It doesn't actually matter though. Even if that was your Dad's intention, without proof the will still stands.

Please dont get upset. If your father had a beef with you he would have changed his will to reflect it. As it is it should like they have some kind of agenda and it's no reflection on your relationship with your father (or your brother). There is no 'what if' that you have missed

Even if the isn't a will at all the laws of intestacy mean that the OP and her brother will inherit everything equally.

I would ignore your relatives (easier said than done, I know). If your dad had really felt strongly about leaving it all to your brother he would have done it. He didn't, so they are probably just being nasty.

there isn't a will, not the.

Some people feed off drama, they engineer situations to give them the excitement that they need. Sometimes the drama makes them centre of attention, or gives them a degree of influence that they otherwise wouldn't have. It's like they can take part in their very own living soap opera. I doubt money is a factor particularly, I doubt they care especially about the facts, so long as they get to have front row seats in a domestic row between you and your brother.

Thanks :) I know it's silly, I'm not bothered about the money but I hate feeling that there was something he'd talked about with his partner and sister I'll never know about

It isn't silly.

His partner and sister are probably trying to weasel out some money from brother. I'd ignore.

Don't use the family member who is a solicitor. If you must have4 a solicityor, have someone whom you do not know. A Will is so easy to prove idiot's guide on the internet. (I did my father's and my mother's). The Executor named in the Will is the only person who should do anything with it and that should be to carry out the wishes of the Testator (person whose Will it is). The Executor may appoint a professional if he/she wishes to.

Any solicitor could charge a percentage of the value of the deceased's estate rather than a set amount of, say, £500 plus disbursements. All it would cost the Executor to do it is small like postage etc and that can be reimbursed from the Will proceeds.

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Any talk about who gets what means nothing. It's the Will that counts and only the Will.

Zucker I ignored her which is better cos she's sweating.

She didn't come to the hospital to see DM as she was dying. DM and DF always helped her out financially too, not that they wanted thanks but FFS! A bit of gratitude would not go amiss.

She came to the funeral and ignored me and Dsis and has done nothing to support her DM (my Mum's Dsis) who sat on her own most of the time.

She's a horrible waste of human space and I have nothing but loathing for her.

Sorry for thread derail op.

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Please try to put that uneasy feeling from your mind. I've never met you or the others but I'll tell you this now, and it know I'm right.

They are lying. Your dad never said anything of the sort. Ignore.

What is it about people dying and family coming out with shit which can only ever cause upset? So sorry you've experienced it too OP

(another one with family members that have been lopped off the tree due to this)

I'm sorry about your dad. I agree with previous posters and reckon your relatives are shit stirring.

Please, please do not use your cousin (I think he is?) as a solicitor, find another one. I can't help but read through your posts and think there is an ulterior motive here.

Oh, sorry for your loss OP. I've seen an adult child cut out of a parent's will with no explanation or big fallout or alienation, and it's awful. It's not the money -- but the money is symbolic of the relationship.

I hope you find some sort of peace with this.

We aren't even planning on using a solicitor - the will was lodged with one of course but we can apply through probate ourselves. Aunt has been unhelpful and negative from the start, so I don't know why my brother went to see her even: but he is very anxious just at the moment.

Use a solicitor.

Without further explanation as to why we should I am reluctant to do so on the basis of three words on here.

We can apply for probate ourselves, we have been told.

Use a solicitor because people in the family are getting awkward. They know what they are doing and can pre empt any potential pitfalls.

The fact your brother went to see her and your cousin has given opinions (in whatever way) should make you want to get an independent solicitor. You have no idea what was discussed. There is the possibility that you apply for probate yourselves, and brother says 'cousin recommended this, that the other', and you find that your share isn't what it should be after it's too late to do anything.

There may be NO wrongdoing whatsoever, but at least by paying up front, whatever is left will be completely fair and you and your brother will not have any issues later.

Very sorry for your loss. It sounds like your aunt and ex-partner are shit stirring. I don't think it would hurt to consult a solicitor just to put your mind at rest. I wouldn't say anything to your brother unless you start to feel you're being treated unfairly.

The will is the will, you are entitled to your share.

Hope everything is sorted out without too much fuss.