To wonder why people don't believe me about my weight loss?

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I have always been a bit of a chunky monkey but then, pregnancy and comfort eating with pnd tipped me over the edge. I was fat. I still am just not as fat.
I weighed myself last year and almost fainted. I knew I wasnt happy with my size/the way I looked but that was the kick in the ass I needed.
DS was beginning to eat 'proper' food and I wanted to be a good example for him.
It didnt happen overnight, but I changed the way I looked at food iyswim. I realised I dont need biscuits to make me feel better and I dont need fizzy drinks with my dinner (two of many crap examples). I have found I have more energy and so I cycle and do a couch to 5k.
Anyway, fast forward to now...I have lost 4 and a half stone (2 and a half to go...) and everyone wants to know how I did it. Silly thing is (and I know Im being silly), when I explain, no-one seems to believe me. Everyone thinks it must be ww or slimming world or juice plus or something.
If I do get them to believe me they seem disappointed. AIBU to just wish that ONE PERSON could see this was a big thing and say congrats or well done, rather than just seem disappointed.

I had the same issue when I lost 4 stone a few years ago. People kept asking me what the secret was and whether I was taking some secret pill.

I was sorely tempted to sell them some smarties in a white bottle and charge them £100 a bottle for the supposed 'magic pill'.

The above post was 11/12 years ago.

Being over 40 its a different story Its taken me since last August to lose 2 stone 4 pounds. But ive gone from a 22 to a 16/18.

I allow half a stone for my loose skin!!!!

I'm anxious about the loose skin issue, as I'm really obese, but I keep telling myself it will be better to be healthy/slim with excess skin than to be as big as I am now.

Beatrice as far as im concerned its a reminder of how far ive come.

Well done, darkesteyes :) Hopfully I'll be on a similar path soon!

Well done OP.

I had a similar rant last week. I'm currently eating healthy as I need to lose weight for my health. I don't want to do a diet though just cut out the crap and make healthier choices.

I have only started and I'm already fucking sick of people trying to sy it won't work and I need to do 5:2 or no carbs etc.

Toadfan just tell them you don't want diet tips from Heat/Closer/Grazia delete as appropriate. Because 9 times out of 10 this is where they are getting them from.

Thanks Bea.

I have only started and I'm already fucking sick of people trying to sy it won't work and I need to do 5:2 or no carbs etc.

I don't even tell people I'm on a diet, I just tell them I'm trying to eat healthy. Then they can't really give me weight loss tips as I'm not losing weight, but just trying to be healthier, and then I lose weight as an after thought.

Film illy, congratulations, but how did you do it? When did you start exercising and what do you think made you switch to eating healthily?

What I find annoying is at work that everyone has an opinion about which diets do and don't work. People are quite judgy about different sorts of diets

Those who are usually the most vociferous are those who need to lose weight themselves

Lovely to hear some really positive stories of weight loss (and for the thread not to have turned into a fat bashing session as can sometimes happen). Well done on your weight loss and improving your fitness OP, you can be very proud of your hard work!

I'm very overweight and spent years trying every diet, pills etc, while refusing to acknowledge I had an eating disorder. A very lovely doctor told me a few years back that I could never 'diet' again; that if I tried I would 'fail' every time. Previously that sort of comment would feel like an attack, but it was just the truth to help me. Of course, I didn't listen and another few years have gone by, and I've got bigger and bigger.

I stopped dieting, used some self help/ CBT books etc to help me get me head around the behavioural/ emotional aspects of eating, and have started cycling and walking. I've been using myfitnesspal to keep an eye on my exercise and nutrition (not so much calorie counting, but keeping an eye on my sugar intake seems to help with my energy levels and cravings) and I've lost a couple of stones over the last year which is slow for my size, but I've accepted that slow progress is better than going backwards and being horrible to myself doesn't change anything. Now I feel like there is actually a chance I can be a healthy weight one day, it'll just take a while longer.

My issue is I'm very obese (19st only 5ft1) so any form of healthy eating gets the whole diet spiel as they assume I wanna lose weight quick.
Of course I want to lose weight but I am doing it for my health nor body image and diets aren't healthy.

TOADfan you are absolutely right Losing weight at a rate of knots is how I got gallstones The surgeon told me this. It was a nightmare I reached the stage where I couldn't even eat SOLID food. I was in and out of casualty so fucking often it was unreal. In fact there was a thread on here last year "is the diet industry utterly evil" which I and another MNer posted on and we both had similar experiences. I will try and find it and link it in here. They are the weight loss experiences you WONT see in magazines because it doesn't fit with their agenda.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/a1824580-to-think-the-diet-industry-is-utterly-evil

I am really impressed by the way in which you have started to take control of your lives in such a reasonable way.

Congrats to you all. :)

Thanks darkesteyes

That sounds so painful. Hope your better now.