To hope this woman learnt from such a near miss?

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On the bus this morning was a lady holding a wriggly 2 year old. The bus was crowded and she was standing. I immediately stood up and offered her a seat as did another passenger at the same time. She said "no its alright we like standing". Other passenger said "Please dont stand the drivers often have to brake suddenly along this high street". She still refused to sit down and wouldn't accept our offer to hold her toddler on our laps either.

About a minute later the bus suddenly braked very sharply, everyone standing lurched forward and she lost control of her little boy who FLEW forward strait into the chest of the man standing a little down the bus. He caught him but was clearly winded and shocked. He kept saying it was lucky he was fat as it meant baby had soft landing. Luckily little one was alright. His mums response was to grab him and hold him close and thankfully she then took a seat she was offered.

AIBU to

a) hope that this means she's not too proud to take a seat next time?
b) that by posting this anyone who reads and and might otherwise refuse a seat while holding a small child will now think twice and take it

Sanctimonious.

No, Yanbu.

Accidents happen, hey hoo.

Very.

Geez, I hope shes not a MN-er.

Perfect, are you, OP?

Yanbu. She sounds like she had a major chip on her shoulder

Probably yet another feminist who took offence rather than seeing it as common sense.

Far from it ImaTotJeSuisUneTot. I've made plenty of mistakes and posted about them on here over the years.

I Wouldn't stand with a toddler on a bus though if I had the choice especially after what I saw today. If the man hadn't been standing where he was that little boy could have gone strait on to hit the front of the bus. I certainly learnt a lesson that I'll be taking to heart when DS comes out of his buggy for good which isn't far away.

Eh? Why is she probably another feminist Joysmum?

Probably yet another feminist who took offence rather than seeing it as common sense

Stupid comment.

Are you trying to be ironic joysmum?

FFS preferring to stand isn't chippy. Maybe she'd heard that standing is what we should all be doing most of the time instead of sitting and was trying to be healthy.

LOL at Joysmum, you sound like you've got a chip on your shoulder about feminists.

Yeah, what are you talking about Joysmum?

I bet she was wearing dungarees and smelt of burnt bra.

Probably yet another feminist who took offence rather than seeing it as common sense. Who's a what now? What if both the people that offered seats were women?

BTW if that stretch of High Street involves sudden braking, the buses should be going slower or leaving more of a stopping distance. I hope the bus driver learned their lesson.

Yeah those bloody feminists, always standing! Damn them and their upright ways

I think it's a form of erection envy iK8
Ba dum tish.

None of your business, she perhaps Sussed the situation as differently to you and decided to keep her baby close. Stop judging people when you have no background knowledge If!

You're going to have to elaborate joys mum.

This is why I hate getting a bus with my children - no matter what you do you are judged by someone!

Take a buggy - you are taking up to much room
Get on with a child not in a buggy and sit down you are being "entitled" and stand up and you are just asking for your child to be hurled down a bus.

How frightening and how lucky. Good grief. Everyone must have been in shock.

My ds is older but I'll certainly bear it in mind when I see someone standing with a small child or if anyone gives me a small child to hold.

Bloody feminists, wanting to have the right to work and be treated as full proper human beings, tchuh. Wouldn't catch me "standing up" for my rights!

The driver shouldn't be slamming the brakes on hard enough to send children flying around a bus.

She said she liked standing, some people do. Standing on a bus isn't that out there.

When I opened this I thought something proper risky had happened.

Sheesh.

She might feel awkward about taking someone else's seat if she doesn't think she needs it. I have felt awkward and declined to take a seat that was offered on a crowded bus before, and I've had elderly men refuse to take my seat when I offer.

But I certainly wouldn't under any circumstances allow my toddler to sit on a stranger's lap.

The poor woman's probably read all the vile comments on here about "entitled" mums who dare to want to sit down with their small children/bumps.