to be judgy to a mum I met in RL?

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I always thought I wouldn't, but maybe being on MN has changed me....

I went to help; I thought she was really struggling to cross a busy shopping street with a pram and her hands full of shopping. She got the pram down the kerb with some difficulty, while clutching two large sticks of bread in one hand, then dropped her bread, and other shopping in the gutter, with the pram still in the road, was making a real pigs ear of picking it all up again. With one hand. Picking things up and then dropping them repeatedly.

when I reached her I found the reason she was struggling so much was that other hand was clamping a phone to her ear, and 3/4 of her concentration was on her conversation.

Told her to get her baby out of the road! and didn't help pick up her shopping at all.

Only on mumsnet could people justify someone leaving a baby in the middle of the road with "it may have been an important call"

Unless she is Jack Bauer, that call would have been less than important than a child's life.

Only on mumsnet can anyone have the time or the inclination to correct someone's grammar so thoroughly

You didn't help her, you just told her off and you didn't get her groceries.

You were extremely rude. You don't know who she was on the phone too and tbh what she was doing was absolutely none of your business.

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She asked. I thought it would be helpful

Why couldn't she have discussed awful news with her buggy on the pavement?

Recently I have been told off twice about my parenting. Feel like getting a tshirt saying... Yes I do mind... Fark off

You shouldn't judge her based on a phonecall you have no idea who was to or why, and rather than being nasty you could be a decent human being and help out! yabu and be ashamed!

When dd was 3 months old i went out and i just crossed a very busy road without looking first or walking to the traffic lights. To this day i still dont believe i did that.
I had no sleep at all, been indoors all week with a screaming day and an ill toddler. When dh came home i left ds with him and took dd for some fresh air. I was very tired and i was thinking of something.
What i am trying to say is that you can be mind absent for a second even with no mobile phone.

Lack of sleep can do this.

But oh no, some people here are ALWAYS perfect, they never do a mistake!

i really don't think there was anything bad happening on the phone, it was more of a chatty tome of voice, with smiles.

if the call was that bad news SHE WOULDN'T BE WALKING AND TALKING AT THE SAME TIME!!!

I cannot believe how ridiculous people can be on here some times!

If the mother had posted here "AIBU to expect someone to pick up my shopping whilst I was having a chat on the phone and pushing my baby into traffic?" the responses would be quite different

The day that I found out my parents were breaking up and my dad had gone into hospital after a suicide attempt I was on the bus with DS who was royally playing up. As I was trying to get ready to get us off the bus I let go of DS momentarily not thinking while I struggled with the buggy. He was stood in the middle of the bus swaying before I grabbed him. The bus driver shouted at me infront of everyone. I sobbed all the way home.

My point is you don't know what kind of day somebody is having. Perhaps judging another mother from a snapshot of her day makes you feel like a better mother yourself. I just don't think it's helpful at all to anyone.

cundtbake - that sounds shit, i'm sorry to hear that.
But letting your child stand up on a moving bus is not the same as pushing a baby into oncoming traffic.

I would have just helped the woman with her pram and shopping,

I don't make judgements on people in just an instant like that.

You do sound quite mean OP.

I'll tell you what I'm judging - the very first response to this post...

Her immigration lawyer? Nice.... not sure where he nationality came into it..

Unless she is Jack Bauer, that call would have been less than important than a child's life.

Objection, I've just snorted tea through my nose onto my laptop!

Fush
i was confused by that too. I was waiting for someone to say 'her benefit advisor' next!

I agree usual, we all make mistakes, except some MNers who are fucking perfect.

Am the only person who clicks on titles like this with a secret dread that I might be the RL mum under discussion? And is mildly relieved to find that I am not?

No no no, I win judgy bingo.

Yesterday I heard someone bellow "get out of the fucking road" while I was walking down the pavement with my DC. I turned to see who they were talking to and it was a woman talking to a little girl of around 18 months who was toddling along behind her while her Mum crossed the road.

So there, I beat you!