to be judgy to a mum I met in RL?

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I always thought I wouldn't, but maybe being on MN has changed me....

I went to help; I thought she was really struggling to cross a busy shopping street with a pram and her hands full of shopping. She got the pram down the kerb with some difficulty, while clutching two large sticks of bread in one hand, then dropped her bread, and other shopping in the gutter, with the pram still in the road, was making a real pigs ear of picking it all up again. With one hand. Picking things up and then dropping them repeatedly.

when I reached her I found the reason she was struggling so much was that other hand was clamping a phone to her ear, and 3/4 of her concentration was on her conversation.

Told her to get her baby out of the road! and didn't help pick up her shopping at all.

Ok but just, you know, have some humanity. It's not fucking difficult.

She got the pram down the kerb with some difficulty

To me, that implies she had the pram in the road; I could be wrong, but that is how I read it.

Nothing, but nothing is more important than keeping one's child safe. I would have been judgemental in these circumstances too.

I had plenty of humanity.. to the baby in the traffic!

Yes, scatter, the pram was in the road, in front of the traffic, which was all slowing down and pulling out to pass it.

I can see why you judged tbh. And I probably would have had an inward tut myself, while helping her though, as its the baby you were helping/not helping. Ah well.

Ok, ok, ok, I fold. You were totally reasonable. Is that what you wanted everyone to say?

You didn't help her. You could have but you didn't. She was "struggling" and making "a pigs ear" of her situation. Sometimes, life is tough and hard to cope with for new mums and perhaps we should loosen judgey garments.

I'm sure I was judgy, I am quite surprised at myself though, because in RL, I'm generally not.

Corporate, not wanting anyone to say anything specific, just wanting the conversation.

Well, fair enough. Sounds as if you and the other woman both had off days.

yes,I would agree with that!

You didn't help the situation. In fact, you made it worse.

How did I make it worse? I got her to get the baby out of the road.

YABU, everyone makes epic cock ups at some point in their life.

Did you even help her or just yell at her?

Didn't yell at her, just told her to get her baby back onto the pavement and waited to see that she did, then left her to it.

YABU. You could have asked if she needed a hand. Yes it's stupid to push the pram off the curb, she should have been concentrating but I doubt she does it on a regular basis. It was most likely a momentary lapse in concentration and you have no idea what the phonecall was about.
Why would you shout something but not stop to help when you could see she'd dropped her shopping and was struggling?

she could have said hang on to the phone call even cancer doctors would understand that one

i probably would have offered to help

If you have to ask, then it probably isn't worth me while telling you.

What is wrong with my grammar Buzzard????

"no, I don't know who she was talking to, your quite right"

Not being judgey... but did notice the "your" And I probably would have helped an obviously struggling mother...

To be fair, the 'your' could have been auto-incorrect. The grammar on the whole is enough to make me wear my pedant pants (inwardly, normally).

You sound a delight op

Perhaps the phone call was bad news and she wasn't thinking straight? If you were that concerned about the baby being in the road why didn't you just pull the pram back yourself?

well, I would have done, if she hadn't, I just told her to. No, the phone call didn't sound in any way upsetting, just chatty, smiley, etc.

Still don't know what the complaint about my grammar is.

Yeah, it might have been an important call, but it was pretty stupid of her to try to cross the road under those circumstances.

Hmm, did you say she left her shopping and the road?

That would make me think that perhaps she was not thinking or behaving normally that day for whatever reason, whether due to the phonecall or not.

Grammar point - you used 'your' instead of 'you're.'

'You're quite right' = you are quite right.

'Your quite right...' means something belonging to you is quite right, as in your quite right [-wing grandfather] for eg. Does need a noun with that, though.