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update on my story

27 replies

presario1 · 20/06/2014 21:15

i posted my story before online and my last entry i mentioned it was my birthday and i wanted him to take me to a hotel on my birthday
well it was supposed to happen before as i wanted nothing to do with him on my birthday well he only mentioned a text on my birthday
but the killer is a chance encouter with a old school friend she saw photos of him on fb but never met him knew parts of my story saw him a least 2 hours away in her hometown walking up to a estate and going in to the house i confronted him over the phone about this as it made sense didnt want to meet me but was able to travel 1 on a public transport and bypass my house to meet this lady he confessed that he was there but only to look for a house and i heard he went to a cinema aswell im ablsoutly digusted this is the end for us and the worst part he doesnt care i dont think he is with this woman but im 32 and he is 43 i feel so lost i invested 3 years on my life with him supported him care for him loved him and this is the thank i get

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Icelollycraving · 20/06/2014 21:17

I'm sorry,I simply don't understand your post.

FellReturneth · 20/06/2014 21:19

OK then.

Hope you feel better soon.

gamerchick · 20/06/2014 21:21

he took another woman out on your birthday instead of taking you to a hotel and then lied about it?

AnyoneForTennis · 20/06/2014 21:22

I remember your previous thread

Move on now, you are so much better off without him.

zeezeek · 20/06/2014 21:22

huh?

HavanaSlife · 20/06/2014 21:26

Move on, he is not worth another thought!

Hissy · 20/06/2014 21:29

Love, you invested nothing. There isn't return, or an income to come from this.

'being there' counts for nothing.

You spent 3 years of your life with him, you won't get that back.

I know this hurts, I know you feel stupid, but he was the stupid one.

End it, lick your wounds and thank your lucky stars your friend told you before you wasted any more of your precious life on someone who really wasn't and isn't worth it. It doesn't sound as if you have dc. If that's so, it's a good thing. You are free to move on and live your life with happiness and love in your heart, not hurt and doubt.

Chin up, eyes, tits and teeth lovey, you're worth more than he ever will be.

QOD · 20/06/2014 21:31

Alllllllllrighty then

Ditch him

wouldbemedic · 20/06/2014 21:33

What a horrible, horrible man. You deserve much better. Let him go and be kind to yourself. Focus on all the birthdays ahead of you when you'll probably be with someone who treats you right. Try not to think about him more than you have to.

noneofyours · 20/06/2014 21:48

I think I remember your thread, you really didn't want to believe it or to be the one to leave him. Didn't he really like your friend who had seen him online and she was talking to him (at your behest) to see if he would blow you out for her? If not there's someone else who has an arsehole partner whose blatantly waiting for something better (in his eyes) to come along- and that's shit.

If so, was it your friend he went to meet or another woman?

At least you have your answer OP. I really hope you aren't going to try to get him back or wait around for him to change his mind. You needed out of this relationship anyway and you've been given the perfect, heartbreaking chance. This man is a scab, he used you and dropped you on his terms. He will likely at some point try to pick you back up when things all go tits up for him. You have to be strong and tell him to jog on.

TickleMePurple · 20/06/2014 21:50

YABU. This "entry" reads like you've pulled random words out of a hat.

AnyFucker · 20/06/2014 21:52

Well done everybody. That OP was pretty much incomprehensible to me, and I am not thick.

OP, I suggest you stop going round in circles over a prick like this and take the good advice you have been given on this thread, and on previous threads

AnyoneForTennis · 20/06/2014 21:53

Not everyone is as coherent and as good with words as you purple

She's upset and all you can post is that?

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presario1 · 20/06/2014 21:55

thanks all
i had real feelings we were due to start ivf in the end of october and it his words we have to work it out as his sperm issues is 2 per cent mobilty i love him so much cried and prayed when he was in a coma
hunged around for 6 months and he is due to get his money now this was never about his money only his treatment of me
his family hates me and abused me on facebook i know but i do think he was my soulmate but i will have to move on and better fyi he deleted me of facebook and all mutual friends

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AnyoneForTennis · 20/06/2014 22:10

He was never your soulmate. He was only looking out for himself.

noneofyours · 20/06/2014 22:13

If he was your soulmate OP he would have respected you, loved you and looked out for you. Sounds like he only did that for himself.

Cut him out as well OP, block him on facebook so he can never 'change his mind' and accept that you can do better.

MrsChickPea · 20/06/2014 22:14

ummm.... another thread I'm well confused on. I need to go to bed. I quite like capital letters and full stops and commas. But if it's just lots of text that's fine too, as long as I have a clue what's happening. I'm lost... Hope you're ok OP.

wouldbemedic · 21/06/2014 13:52

You nasty woman mrschickpea. Can't you see she's in a state?
Be strong OP. You'll be much happier without him - just take a day at a time for now. And maybe you'll meet your baby's daddy soon and there will be no need for IVF!

About seven years ago, my fiancé dumped me too. I was broken hearted. Looking back, I'm very glad he did. If he hadn't, I wouldn't have got a chance to meet my husband, and I would never have known my daughter! You've got to look on the bright side and give yourself time.

CaptainTripps · 21/06/2014 14:53

You're not nasty, chickpea. Ridiculous comment by medic. How would you like it, medic, if I said your first paragraph sounds coochy coochy coo and vomitous?

OP, hope you are ok and things work out!

wouldbemedic · 21/06/2014 17:31

Captaintripps: I would laugh. In fact I did laugh. But then I'm not terribly sad, like the OP. There's a time for that kind of thing and there's a time for your sort of thing and this thread is more...that kind of thing.

kali110 · 21/06/2014 17:47

Chickpea isnt nasty. Sure more people would love to offer advice as would i. I hope the op feels better but can't offer advice as don't understand much of the posts.

AnyFucker · 21/06/2014 18:31

chickpea hoped op was ok. That is about the best that could be salvaged from that op, tbh.

Smilesandpiles · 21/06/2014 18:50

You are obviously not happy with him and can not trust him.

You don't need to wait from him to delete you from FB. You delete him and mutual friends if that's what you feel you need to do.

Being as unhappy as you are with him means you have to think about wether you really want to be with him and trust him. Starting a family with this man isn't the best idea at the moment.

KnackeredMuchly · 21/06/2014 19:46

He is awful, trust us and move on you will be much happier.

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presario1 · 22/06/2014 02:59

thanks for the advice i know that in my heart and soul buts just so sad the way things ended i really thought he loved me had real feelings for me where did it end

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