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AIBU?

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To not want to share my bed with a 50k Labrador?

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Rokenswife · 20/06/2014 03:21

We have a chocolate lab who I love dearly but whose lifetime ambition seems to be to shed as much fur as he can. I get absolutely sick of it being all over everything, no matter how much hoovering etc I do.
Our landlord stated that he's not allowed upstairs - great for me as it's carpets and I don't have to spend ages trying to get the dog hair up

DH has decided that not only is the dog suddenly going to be sleeping in our bedroom, he's going to be sleeping in our bed.

I do not want to sleep in a bed that is covered in dog hair! The bloody dog loves sleeping in his arm chair downstairs and isn't even supposed to be up here! But DH just keeps letting him into the bed and I keep turfing him out.
I've just been called an 'evil person' for turfing him out of the bed. I know in the morning I'm going to have five verses of 'you don't like the dog' followed by a chorus of 'you do nothing for the dog'.
AIBU to not want him in the bed or even upstairs?

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 20/06/2014 10:28

Not for a Labrador, bottleofbeer - my lab is a pretty normal size of lab, and on her frame, 33-35kg is about right - she has a waistline but doesn't look skinny. Our vet would rather she weighed less - around 30kg max. I am absolutely sure she couldn't carry an extra 15 kg and be healthy.

Labs can be very prone to developing hip and knee problems - this is one reason we are advised to keep her weight to a healthy level.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 20/06/2014 10:30

At 50kg our lab would be a barrel, and would be overweight.

bottleofbeer · 20/06/2014 10:34

Mine is just very muscly which obviously weighs more, despite him being similar size to a Labrador. He comes under the very
large category for worming/fleaing etc..even though (to me at least) he doesn't actually look very big. Labs are considered large dogs, aren't they?

murphys · 20/06/2014 10:34

But some Labs are much bigger than others. Taller, wider and therefore heavier. And if he is muscular he will be heavier.

bottleofbeer · 20/06/2014 10:34

50 pounds would be underweight. Not kgs.

bigdog888 · 20/06/2014 10:54

I wouldn't want my dog sleeping anywhere but my bed TBH. Their natural instinct is to sleep with the pack and I have a content and happy dog partially due to this I believe.

wannaBe · 20/06/2014 14:07

it does depend on size. My first dog weighed 27 KG and anything more than that was too much. My second dog was smaller than her, weighed 24 KG and easily looks overweight if he gains weight. My current dog is much taller than my first two and weighs approx. 31 kg, and actually he could gain a few lbs and still not look overweight.

I've seen labs much bigger and wider than him and more muscular, and while 50 kg does seem like a lot I don't think it necessarily equates to seriously overweight - depending on the build of the dog.

I would consider 50 lb to be unusually small as well. although if they could give me a 50 lb lab next time it will make it much easier for me to carry it on to escalators.

Ilovehamabeads · 20/06/2014 14:18

YAtotallyNBU. I love my choccie to death but there's no way on earth he is ever sharing my bed. He seems to shed and regrow a whole body of hair every day and the thought of lying in it makes me heave. Plus his breath is worse than DH's and he barks in his sleep. No thank you :)
Agree with whoever recommended a furminator, they are amazing.

Elliptic5 · 20/06/2014 14:21

My male chocolate lab is 44kg and on a diet due to arthritis problems, he is from show stock and very chunky but still has a waist, I doubt he can go below 40kg without looking too thin.

And I have never allowed dogs or cats on beds although my cat has decided this is a challenge rather than a rule , and I don't think I could stand a bed full of lab fur.

unobtanium · 20/06/2014 14:24

Please check your dog's weight. If he is 50 kg then I am amazed he can move, never mind get onto the bed.

Even a relatively large-framed lab would be overweight at 50 kg and at risk for all sorts of serious health issues!

That aside, no dog, no matter how fit and agile, should be on your bed! So yanbu there

MummyPig24 · 20/06/2014 14:27

Yanbu. Dogs have their own beds. Plus the landlord said the dog shouldn't be upstairs. Dogs smell, even the nicest of dogs smell, and I wouldn't want to get into a doggy bed every night. There's barely room for a tiny baby and us in our double, let alone an enormous lab.

bottleofbeer · 20/06/2014 14:31

50kg of dog is not as enormous as people seem to think it is. It's really not!

passmethewineplease · 20/06/2014 14:37

Yanbu.

Why is DP going against you and your landlord? Isn't it hard enough to find ll who accept pets as it is without blatantly disregarding what they've said?

Your dp sounds like a bit of a wanker.

How does not co sleeping with a dog mean you dislike them? Oh and as for the evil part..?

Mrsmorton · 20/06/2014 14:40

50kg is well above any weight range I've ever seen for a lab. My weimaraner is taller than any lab I've ever seen and he weighs in at 35kg with a lovely waist. I'm really surprised at 50kg.

Dogs shouldn't be on furniture IMO.

MrsLindor · 20/06/2014 14:51

50kg is about 110lb.

Bluebelljumpsoverthemoon · 20/06/2014 15:24

Ugh...disgusting, your husband sounds like a lot of hard work and extremely disrespectful. Do you have a spare bedroom where he could sleep with the dog?

JontyMyers · 20/06/2014 15:33

Its a labrador they all do it Pils labrador does it to me and DH when we stay over at theirs its bad enough having your les cramping from being tucked up under your chin but then he lets out the worlds worst egg farts !! At 3AM we luffs him though

JontyMyers · 20/06/2014 15:36

Also they are an extremely hair breed to have Pils could retire early if they made a business of selling dog hair balls accumulated in the space of a day if you cant handle the breed then you shouldn't have a dog its not the dogs fault they moult 24/7

bottleofbeer · 20/06/2014 15:36

Dogs are very densely muscled. Labs can be quite big.

HavanaSlife · 20/06/2014 15:42

No dogs upstairs in this house, never mind on the beds

Arudonto · 20/06/2014 15:47

Id imagine the 50 kg that everyone is jumping on is just a number used to emphasis the size of dog involved not the actual weight.

I do very much agree that 50kg is way to heavy for a labrador. 27 to 36 for a male is the normal range. 40 kg on a massive framed dog might be possible but I cannot imagine a normal lab being above that weight and having a normal body score(you should be able to see a waist on a dog and feel the ribs under a small layer of fat to be in the ideal scale)

I would be insisting the dog stays downstairs as well!labs shed everywhere!! use the landlord excuse of the OH is being unreasonable.Why would he want to share a bed with the dog?Thats what the couch is for :P

bottleofbeer · 20/06/2014 15:58

It's deceptive. To me, my dog doesn't look huge but he weighs as lot. He's classic bull breed shape. Muscular shoulders, barrel chest, can feel but not see his ribs and very nipped in at the waist. I always liken his overall size to that of a decent sized male Labrador. He was weighed yesterday for worming and flea treatment. He's just shy of 50 kilos.

livelablove · 20/06/2014 16:08

I like having my Labrador sleep on my bed, but I do have a superking size bed and dh often works nights. yanbu to not want the dog to start sleeping on the bed. It is happy sleeping downstairs, this fits in with landlord policy and suits you. I think your dh was very disrespectful to call you an evil person.

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