To not want to share my bed with a 50k Labrador?

[Rokenswife]

We have a chocolate lab who I love dearly but whose lifetime ambition seems to be to shed as much fur as he can. I get absolutely sick of it being all over everything, no matter how much hoovering etc I do.
Our landlord stated that he's not allowed upstairs - great for me as it's carpets and I don't have to spend ages trying to get the dog hair up

DH has decided that not only is the dog suddenly going to be sleeping in our bedroom, he's going to be sleeping in our bed.

I do not want to sleep in a bed that is covered in dog hair! The bloody dog loves sleeping in his arm chair downstairs and isn't even supposed to be up here! But DH just keeps letting him into the bed and I keep turfing him out.
I've just been called an 'evil person' for turfing him out of the bed. I know in the morning I'm going to have five verses of 'you don't like the dog' followed by a chorus of 'you do nothing for the dog'.
AIBU to not want him in the bed or even upstairs?

Keep the dog (downstairs) and evict the husband.

Seriously, who does he think he is?

You need a furminator, they are brilliant.

Did you mean 50 pounds??

I agree animals should never be on the bed - pity no one told my animals

A clean, shed-free dog on a bed is totally different to a dog who gets hair everywhere. NBU.

However your dog is hugely overweight and needs to go on a diet!

YANBU .Love our dogs loads but they have their own bedding downstairs,and none of our dogs have ever gone upstairs.DH would let them go anywhere ,but respects the fact that in our household wer'e a bit traditional and I do the lions share of housework and he does the boring - to me- stuff like mowing lawns and paperwork etc.And cleaning mud and hairs from downstairs is quite enough to do.
When I first met him his Labrador slept on the bed but I found sharing a bed with one big,slobbery ,snoring male - DH- enough.So a deluxe dog bed was bought and his lab happily took to it glad to say.

Yanbu. I would be worried though, why on earth does your dh want the dog on the bed? Surely that space is for you 2, are there other problems?

I grew up with a Labrador/german shepherd mix, and I loved her to death, but I remember that when she died, it was so lovely not having hair everywhere (I was otherwise devastated!), and I would not go for a similar dog if I am ever allowed one again (DH needs convincing!).

but your DH is definitely being unreasonable for lots of reasons!

YANBU. My labs are banned from going upstairs and the furniture and they know that. I agree about the hair, we brush ours everyday and it seems to make no difference to the amount that floats about the house.

If your dog really weighs 50kg I would suggest that's a tad chunky, ours is 29kg and considered a little heavy....it won't help the amount of fur, but it might give you more room on the bed if you can't stop it!

Hope you meant 50lb as no lab ever should be 50kg! If he is get to your vet for a weight loss plan asap.

Try asking him why he wants the dog on the bed? Especially when the dog is happy on his chair downstairs. It is rather odd.

And if your sex life is still active, who wants a canine audience?! Weird man.

How does your husband care for the dog if he's let him get to that weight and isn't it sending mixed messages to your dog even?

Your landlord has said what he wants and really you should do what he wants or tell your husband to start house hunting.

ditch DH and/or dog.

really shows where your DH's loyalties lie, doesn't it?!

Yanbu. There is no way I would have a dog in my bed. Gross.

Your DH sounds like an arsehole. It's not 'stubborn' not to do any housework, it's misogynistic.

my dogs are not allowed upstairs at all nor are they allowed in my kitchen other than to be fed/have a drink. And my bed is mine.

Wrt his weight though, it's worth remembering that labs do come in all shapes and sizes, and that while 50 kg may seem huge, it's possible he is just a very big dog.

My friend's lab (guide dog) weighs just 23 kg and she is tiny. Mine however weighs 31 kg and I've had members of the public come up to me to tell me my dog is too thin (he isn't). DP's dog weighs around 35 kg but again he's bigger than mine and is by no means overweight. These are all guide dogs btw whose weight are generally fairly carefully monitored. So while 50kg still does seem a lot, it's not really possible to judge until you know how big the dog is. Another friend's gsd guide dog weighs 125 lb. again not overweight just a huuuge dog.

YANBU

I have a non-shedding dog and we don't rent, but the dog is not allowed upstairs or on the furniture. The study is the only downstairs room that is carpeted and it really smells doggy. I would hate for the rest of the house to smell that way too. I still love him and he is happy. It's not like he would be sleeping on a mattress and duvet in the wild, is it?

I would say that if your DH is worried about the dog being lonely his is perfectly welcome to sleep downstairs with the dog.

YANBU. My dog is a shedder and much as I love him I don't want him on the bed. I don't even let him upstairs (as that's carpeted rather than rugs on hard floor), although he is allowed on one part of the sofa because I put a cover on it. Yuck to dog hair and smell on everything.

I do agree with the others that 50Kg sounds like a hell of a lot of dog! My large adult male Rottie is 42 Kg and he wouldn't need any more fat on him. Labs really vary though; is he particularly tall and "big boned"?

Our lab is 48kg so not unusual at all for a male Lab to weigh that. I must add though that if he had half the chance he would be on the bed, just there just isn't enough room for 3 of us on there.....

And yes, the hair. It gets everywhere...

Unless the lab is a Great Dane cross 50kg is unarguably overweight.

Hopefully OP meant pounds not kilos.

Our brown lab and black lab pointer cross come upstairs for a cuddle when we go to bed, but get turfed back downstairs when we want to go to sleep. I don't desperately like the dog fur on the bed - and ohhhh boy do brown labs moult - it is their life's work - but I brush it off when they go down to their own beds.

I think your dh is being very unreasonable, because you could get in trouble with your landlord if he finds out the dog has been upstairs, in contravention of the lease.

We have a chocolate lab, for the first year he wasn't allowed upstairs, and my carpets were fine (wooden floor downstairs). Then I went away for a few days, only to find that my OH had allowed the dog upstairs, and onto the bed. Now he has free run of the house, and my carpets upstairs are NEVER clean, it drives me demented. We even got a rubber brush as hoovering wasn't enough, but the carpet still has hair in it.

YANBU, don't let the dog upstairs. The landlord will definitely be able to tell that he's been allowed up there. You will spend hours each week cleaning the carpet, and it still won't be right !

Obviously no dog should be allowed to sleep on the bed.

Dogs on floor

cats on bed

I felt that, as the cat was allowed on the bed - and the sofa downstairs - it would be u fair if the dogs didn't have the same rights, steppemum. Obviously the cat disagrees with this!

My dog is 50kg and not a bit overweight! (American bulldog) not too dissimilar in size from a Labrador. They're fairly big dogs yanno and 50lb would be seriously underweight.