dm called my toddler fat

[insaneyearsixmum]

Was I ur to call her out on this. Dd 3 is bang on target v tall wears age 5 years clothes. Just popped a dress on her and before I did made a mental note it would be last time she wore it as knew it was better small for her.
dm who watched her for me whilst I got back from work told her she was getting fat. When I said please dont say that as not appreciate to say to a 3 year old girl, she chanted at my daughter you are fat 3 times. She also shouted jesus christ you cant say anything these days, then added if you dont like it you know what you can do. We were in her house. I am a sp and dd died 11 years ago. How do I handle this I dont want a row thanks

Peggyundercrackers, what, you think the OP's mother's behaviour is ... normal?

DS (3.9) is also in age 5 clothes and has been for at least the last 3 months. His trousers/jeans are all getting too short now and I get to get ones with adjustable waists and pull them in quite a bit. Wish this bloody weather would stay warm so he can wear all the new shorts he has to wear . He is in now way fat and has been on the 98th centile for height and weight since birth.

Anyway OP. I first realised how toxic and nasty my mother was after she started on my children. I was pretty blind to it before that and 'forgot' how abusive she was to me when I was a DC. I have no contact with her now.

Yes, call your mother out on this. You are not her little girl anymore. Stand up for your DC so she never has to feel like you did.

Miaow - sorry but maybe you need to change where you buy them? Like I said mine have always been tall yet always in age clothing for age. Ds1,4 is 118cm tall - age 4-5 clothing, ds2, 3 is 108cm, age 2-3 clothing.

Ps I would never give a fruit shoot and never seen any child with one in real life

Dd is not fat just height of avg 5 year old. Its dgm who screams for up to two hours. Just insults and bringing up the past and threats.
childhood looking back was rows between parents, beatings from dm but never dad, who cleared off several times. He is dead now but have over past few weeks come to realise she is difficult. Its her way or highway

Er - confused a bit now.

madbutnormal You posted the above but it reads like the OP did. Are you the OP but name-changed mid-thread?

If so, why is it if your Mum can shout and scream for up to 2 hours, beat you as a kid and has a "her way or the highway" attitude that it has only been the last few weeks that you have realised she is "difficult".

Did you name change in the middle of your thread insaneyearsixmum / madbutnormal ?

What's that about?

Yes nc and forgot. Well dont care if it outs me. Ds year 6 came back from camp last night and she kicked off and called him an ungrateful bitch because although he called out hi, he didnt go upstairs to see her but sat on his ipad to check the football.
she had given him a fiver to spend and of course he spent the lot at the overpriced shop there.

Your DM is a spiteful, toxic bitch. Is there nowhere else you can go to get away from her?