To think DH drinks too much?

[Moolin]

DH has always been a drinker, we would often get through a bottle of wine a night pre DC but since having DC I've cut down a lot and he hasn't.

His favourite thing to do on the weekend is drink at home. He usually drinks thurs, fri sat & sun and would have a bottle of wine and a couple of beers, to himself each night.

We had strong words and he agreed he had a problem and has cut back but it seems to be creeping up. He had 4 pints on Thurs, 5 on Fri, 6 on Sat and has just bought himself 4 cans to drink today.

AIBU?

Have you worked out how much it costs you a week in drink?

You can get four cans of quite low alcohol lager from supermarkets for £1.75.

He has 13 units each night thurs, Friday, sat, sun. So a grand total of 52 units a week. That's 31 units too many each week.

All the alcohol might cost you about 30 for those 4 days. Over the term if a year or even a month, that's a lot

One of my friends was drinking a lot of strong/premium beer and has cut down to Carlsberg which is 3.8% (1.9 units a can iirc) and about £2 for 4 cans. Just that change made a real difference to him (his level of drunkeness and the amount he was spending).

Yeah right, because people generally know how much a unit is, how many units is 'ok' and how many units what they drink is.

No one ever shades that one. There's a guideline. Not a law.

Forgot one - or care how much their drinking is by units.

Guidelines say from a health point of view that it is excessive drinking that is being described.I have a very similar situation at home and it is hard.I find myself frustrated because I wish I could make it change but I cant.The person who is drinking is the only person who can do that unfortunately.We have argued but it doesnt change anything.I have explained the health and money side and although its made sense to him its stopped for a while but it creeps back.Im glad for your oh that he does have days he doesnt drink at all because that is very positive,it shows that he can take a break from it.I have found that if you try to take control away it just worsens the situation,you have to let him choose because thats all you can do and hope its the right choice.

I told him I was concerned his intake was creeping up again and I said I didn't think he should drink the cans he bought today. He thought about it and didn't drink them.

He was quite grumpy for a few hours as he really wanted a drink but now it's 9 o-clock he's quite pleased he didn't give in.

Thanks for all the advice