Nightmare at the village fete.
I live in a small village with a small primary school of about 100 pupils, feeding into a very large local secondary school (160 in my DD1's year 7 year group).
Today was the village fete, mostly locals. But large groups of secondary children from other villages and some city areas. My DD1's age and year above mostly.
My daughter's best friend (C) has an older sister (O) with severe autism, her mum had brought her and she had been coping well with the noise and people.
Until........apparantly one of the local year 8 girls, started telling the non local year 8 boys, that O was "special" and hated loud noises/hissing.
At which stage a few boys started hissing and clapping near her, her mum (who is very non confrontational) kept moving away, until poor O had a complete melt down and she had massive difficulty getting her out of the field and home At this stage one of said boys (J) was smirking and waving at her.
When they left, the sister C, who I know very well, was very upset crying and distressed. I comforted her and told her to ignore such pathetic behaviour (from J).
I suggested the group of local year 7 girls (including my daughter and C) leave now, and I left with my younger DD2 who is 6.
As we walked down the road, J came running after us, shouting. I turned round to find a group of perhaps 10 children. J said I had called him a "spotty cunt", and it was disgusting a doctor (I am a local GP) had said this, this was told to him by another non local year 8 girl, who apparantly had heard my elder daughter telling someone this!
All in earshot of my 6 year old. To say I was accosted by a gang of teens shouting would not be an understatement!
Luckily I am no shrinking violet, said of course I had said no such thing, told off the girl who had accused me, and the local girl who seemed to have started to whole thing (I know her mother well). I was very cross and told them their behaviour towards O was absolutely disgusting, I did not appreciate being dragged into their childish games, and I had absolutely not said anything of the sort and did not appreciate being accused of it. I then told them all to go home.
My DD1 is adamant she said nothing of the sort.
Do I (1) ignore (2) tell the 2 parents I know (3) email the school
I am a little suspicious that by accusing me of insulting J, they are hoping to take the heat of their own atrocious behaviour.
O is very very distressed, O's mum is upset, and to make it worse, the secondary school is moving to a shiny new build in october where they will be amalgamated with all the special needs schools. I think the school need to be made aware? AIBU?