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Friend staying over

50 replies

Friendsvhusband · 14/06/2014 12:24

Last night after a few drinks invited my friend over, I have known him since primary school.

He is like a brother to me.

Well we put a film on and both crashed out on the sofas. Him on the 3 seater and me on the 2 seater.

DH went ballistic.

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WallyBantersJunkBox · 14/06/2014 12:25

Why - did you make a mess after he'd cleaned the living room?

Spurtle · 14/06/2014 12:25

Not unreasonable at all.

FuckYouChrisAndThatHorse · 14/06/2014 12:27

I assume you were both naked, oiled and had radishes inserted in various places.

If not your dh is a git.

AgentZigzag · 14/06/2014 12:27

You haven't said why your DH went ballistic, isn't that an important part of it?

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Friendsvhusband · 14/06/2014 12:27

No mess, apart from 2 glasses.

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Friendsvhusband · 14/06/2014 12:28

I think because friend is male, to me it says he doesn't trust me

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hoppingmad · 14/06/2014 12:28

If your dh only went ballistic because it was a male friend he's being massively unreasonable but is there more to why he's unhappy?

mommy2ash · 14/06/2014 12:29

i think you need to give a bit more information

DejaVuAllOverAgain · 14/06/2014 12:29

Why? Did he think your friend is so well endowed he could pentrate you from a different sofa?

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Friendsvhusband · 14/06/2014 12:36

I don't think there is any more info.

Friend stayed over, nothing happened. Even if i wasn't in a relationship nothing would happen with my friend.

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Shockers · 14/06/2014 12:37

I'd feel a bit odd if I found DH and a female friend crashed out after sharing an evening without me. Not because I'd think he'd been up to no good, but (I think) because I'm his best friend and he mine and I'd be a bit jealous. I wouldn't feel the same if it was a male friend. I can't articulate why though...

MostlyMama · 14/06/2014 12:38

Tell your DP to go and fuck himself, the twat.

Zucker · 14/06/2014 12:38

Where was your DH while you two were crashed out on the sofas?

AgentZigzag · 14/06/2014 12:39

'I don't think there is any more info.'

No backstory?

No lead up to him blowing his top?

Does he try and stop you from doing anything else?

Did he do it in front of your friend?

Has he apologised?

How's it likely to play out now going on what you know of him? Will he sulk/carry it on/calm down and feel bad?

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Friendsvhusband · 14/06/2014 12:42

I know he will go on and and on about it.

DH was upstairs asleep.

Normally in the evening I am on my own, he is too wrapped up on his head set to even say 2 words to me.

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AgentZigzag · 14/06/2014 12:48

You don't sound very happy with him.

Why doesn't he talk to you in the evening? What's he wrapped up in his head about?

matildasquared · 14/06/2014 12:53

What a douche.

My husband's EX actually stays with us sometimes if she's travelling through our area on business. They remained friends after the break-up and now she's become one of my friends too. She'll come for dinner and usually they'll stay up late talking while I go to bed.

I can't IMAGINE being an ass about it. Even if we didn't get along or something, I can't dictate who my husband hangs out with.

Your husband is really being a loser here.

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 14/06/2014 12:54

So, your H barely pays you attention, so you have a friend round. Now H is being pissy about it.

Your H is a twat.

whynowblowwind · 14/06/2014 13:11

Yeah... I have to admit I'd feel a bit peculiar about this, if it was someone of the opposite sex. Same sex I wouldn't. I know that makes no obvious sense but Confused I wouldn't like it.

SuburbanRhonda · 14/06/2014 13:14

Why? Did he think your friend is so well endowed he could pentrate you from a different sofa?

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MostWicked · 14/06/2014 13:49

How and why do people end up married to someone who they cannot trust to be left in the same room as a member of the opposite sex?

matildasquared · 14/06/2014 13:53

Why? Did he think your friend is so well endowed he could pentrate you from a different sofa?

Yes, and it would all have to happen very quietly because DH was upstairs.

gamerchick · 14/06/2014 13:57

I wouldn't be happy in that scenario if my husband didn't come to bed. A pal stopping over is fine though.

It sounds there are other issues in your relationship though.

DefiantRage · 14/06/2014 13:58

I'd be a bit Hmm if my partner didn't come to bed but I woudn't be raging about it.

I'm the jealous and insecure sort though and realise it's my problem not his.

Pobblewhohasnotoes · 14/06/2014 14:01

Your H is being a twat.

And maybe he should pay you more attention too

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