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To Think My Neighbours Calling The Police Re. Their 50p BBQ Cover Is Harrasment?

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JoffreyBaratheon · 13/06/2014 02:05

New neighbours called the police at xmas, claiming some solar powered lights had been stolen from their garden. TBH, I never saw any lights in their garden so assumed insurance fraud. Police were polite, friendly, stood at the door didn't barge in. I said I knew nothing (although it was clear they'd been sent to us and no-one else, deliberately). Forgot about it.

Neighbours are very violent and threatening to their kids - constantly shouting, swearing and saying just unbelievably vile things to the 2 toddlers. I rang SS on them but it seems, after visiting for a couple of months, it was dropped. Now it is back to 'normal' with neighbours once more saying obscene and cruel things to their kids or screaming at eachother. (We call the man Fuck Fuck because we have never heard him say a sentence, even to the 3 year old, without the words fuck or cunt in it). Of course when officials come round, butter wouldn't melt.

This week at 9pm we had coppers at the door this time insisting on coming in. Apparently, this time we were guilty of stealing a BBQ cover (windy day so we assumed it blew away. They have an empty house and garden but because they saw us having BBQs, think they wanted to spend their last £15 and regain a presence in the garden. 3 foot fence which I can't afford to replace. A six foot one would solve my problem.

Anyway, rather than ask if it had blown over to our side their first reaction was to call the cops (and send them to us).

We'd been out but returned to see this cheapo plastic cover on the floor in our garden and despite loathing them, threw it straight back over the wall. It wasn't til after coppers left that I remembered seeing the woman scuttle out and retrieve it, seconds after I threw it over.

Later my teenage son told me he had overheard when we were out the man saying "Some cunt has stole my BBQ cover" (to the 3 year old - who replied that the police would come and get them!)

So if the woman lobbed it over, it is without the man's knowledge.

Took the coppers a good five minutes getting shirty with me before they understood that I was saying yes I saw the damn thing and chucked it back over... He kept insisting that the man said he had velcro'd it on firmly.

Dick. Coppers went to tell them the results of their investigations then returned to us, now laughing as it was so pathetic (5 mins ago had been the crime of the century).

This has unsettled me. We are council tenants. They are new tenants with an Introductory tenancy. In two months that will become a secure tenancy unless we can do something.

Are 'only' 2 incidents of having the cops called on you harrasment?

There is all the fighting and swearing and child abuse (verbal but we suspect physical - we have given up on that as the council and SS don't seem to care).

Oddly, apart from calling their kids cunts and wankers, they are largely silent in the day time. If they left us alone we wouldn't give a flying fuck.

But I am starting to think I may have to pursue harassment/antisocial behaviour as the only way to get them out.

The man left a previous area's social housing, apparently because he couldn't take the noise of living in a normal semi and he has accused us of slamming doors (all we do is normal family stuff. Hell, I have 2 teens and a 21 yr old in the house, as well as a 12 year old, and my kids only have iPods with earphones - hardly playing gangsta rap at midnight).

Anyone else had false accusations from nutjob neighbours? They are unemployed, and apart from the £30,000 car they just bought appear to have no life and no possessions and no interests. So they do seem very obsessed with us and our doings.

I'm freaked out by this. Do I have to expect a lifetime of coppers knocking the door at night? Anyone else had similar and how did you proceed?

We feel vulnerable as they could throw anything over the fence then claim it was stolen... Do I have to fear a knock at the door every time there's a strong wind? Council are (supposedly) ringing tomorrow.

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JoffreyBaratheon · 14/06/2014 11:14

izzysmydog thanks for that about trying to get their probationary period extended. Never thought of that. I had an email a while back from the woman who seems to be the boss of the bloke I have been dealing with, so think I will email her and just cut out the middle man.

The state of the house is remarkably good. They are not chaotic, almost the opposite. He is always screaming at her to do the housework and telling her what a useless mother she is. So I think she spends her life cleaning. My old neighbour had a front garden full of car parts and the garden was so overgrown you couldn't see where the borders were. He has weeded it all but weirdly not bought a single plant so it looks like an army barracks now, everything almost too tidy. The manic car polishing, that we see is probably the tip of the ice berg. I preferred the mess of my old neighbour! We never had to worry about locking every single shed and the outhouse, often leaving everything unlocked for months or end, and everyone round here still leaves cars unlocked in the drive. Now we are all locking everything down which is ironic as they are the reason everyone here has started having to lock their sheds, yet they are the ones running to the police every time there is a high wind!

The reason ii know their house is empty is the housing officer who visited them told me. They lived in furnished private rental before, and have not had anything delivered since they moved in. There was no removal van.. They moved in with a couple of car loads. Which is why the BBQ thing puzzled us so much as we are in the countryside, the houses have big out houses, and if they seem to be possession-less, the outhouse is probably empty. So why not put it in there if it is so precious to them? It's literally a metre away from the empty outhouse!

Today we are buying one screening panel as the cover blew over our side between our two sheds and there is a space of four foot so it won't cost us too much to put up a willow hurdle, on battens, between the sheds.

Problem being below the top utility area we have about eighty foot of garden with only the original three foot high paling from the 1950s. Presumably in all these houses history there has never been anyone move in who was so antisocial it merited anyone else putting up a fence. Council are going to cost doing it but tell me even if they do, it is a two year waiting list as they only buy fencing at the end of the financial year with leftover funds. There is no way I can afford the fence myself as my husband is on minimum wage.

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