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To be massively proud of my sister......

29 replies

Charlie97 · 11/06/2014 13:29

I can't link my original thread (can't find it, perhaps someone could advise, its around 17 months old).

My sister in January(ish) last year had to to be sectioned, I was designated her "closest relative" therefore having to arrange for her mental health assessment, resulting in her being sectioned. My family were fairly unsupportive and quite ignorant of the danger that my sister was in at that time.

However, once my sister had forgiven me (she was angry at first), she accepted me visiting and things went from strength to strength. We got her flat sorted, we got her some new clothes, sorted her bills, sorted her payments etc etc.

Since January (and a bit before, as she was unwell and had been dismissed from her job), she had not been working and had been claiming benefits, it has taken a long time to get her medication right.

Well................. she's only gone and got herself a full time job!!

I was a little worried at first, as nothing to full time seemed a huge jump, but it is for someone she previously worked for and hearing the joy in her voice is heartwarming.

She has struggled so much and achieved so much, she is an inspiration.

Thanks to all those back then, who told me I had done the right thing and supported me.

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Mamab33 · 11/06/2014 13:30

Well done to you both!

TheOneWithTheHair · 11/06/2014 13:32

YANBU. That is brilliant news.

Well done to your sister and well done to you for being such a massive supporter and helper for her.

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iamamug · 11/06/2014 13:38

That's actually brought a tear to my eye - well done to your sister and to you for sticking with her through a difficult time.
What a terrific sister you are.
Thanks

WeirdCatLady · 11/06/2014 14:17

Well done to you both. I hope you are both very very proud of what you have accomplished. You obviously make a brilliant team. :)

lowcarbforthewin · 11/06/2014 14:48

That is absolutely fantastic.
Fingers crossed it all goes well.

Isthiscorrect · 11/06/2014 14:50

What brilliant news and how wonderful you are. Thanks A very special sister.

movingtoourwillow · 11/06/2014 15:48

Fabulous news! Well done to your sister, and to you for sticking by her. I hope the rest of your family will now be supportive and recognise how far she has come.

wobblyweebles · 11/06/2014 15:52

Well done to both of you :-)

weegiemum · 11/06/2014 15:54

That's utterly brilliant!

Congratulations to your sister, and a HUGE well done to you for being there for her! You're a fantastic sister and should be proud of yourself as well as her Grin

TheIronGnome · 11/06/2014 17:15

Wonderful!! Well done!

Toooldtobearsed · 11/06/2014 17:17

Congratulations to you both Charlie, fantastic to read something so positive, and well done you!

ThePinkOcelot · 11/06/2014 17:22

Ahh Charlie, that's lovely. Your post really made me smile. Congratulations to you and your sister. I really hope everything goes well for her from now on. Xx

TheScottishPlay · 11/06/2014 17:23

Brilliant, both of you.

superstarheartbreaker · 11/06/2014 18:25

I wish I had a sister like you. Fantastic news!

MintyChops · 11/06/2014 18:26

That is lovely news. You should both be very proud of yourselves. Heartwarming stuff....

imip · 11/06/2014 18:31

That's lovely!

I do understand your happiness. After almost 20 years of schizophrenia, which set in at 18 years old, my brother, who had been sectioned a number of times, began working stacking shelves in a supermarket. I couldn't have been more proud.

Unfortunately, my parents, who we probably the ones holding back his progress (dysfunctional family, I live o/s to be away from them) stopped him having the job because they wouldn't drive him here (rural area). Very sad...

Congrats to you and your sister, may she move onwards and upwards Thanks

pinkyredrose · 11/06/2014 18:35

Great post OP really lovely to read. Well done to your dsis and well done to you for being there.

imip sorry to hear your brother couldn't take the job, hope he's doing ok.

WestEast · 11/06/2014 18:41

Awesome. Siblings rock xx

HappyAgainOneDay · 11/06/2014 18:49

How lovely for you. I hope the unsupportive family now realise how much their support could have helped.

Nocomet · 11/06/2014 18:53

Absolutely brilliant, I know what it took my DF to get back to work and how many catches there are in the be benifit system.

x2boys · 11/06/2014 19:11

Oh well done to both yourself and your sister and its brilliant she has got a job I,m a mental health nurse it must have been a tough time for you both.

neverthebride · 11/06/2014 19:16

Well done to her!. I work in MH and know just how hard it can be for the person and their family.

So congratulations to you both!.

imip · 11/06/2014 19:53

Thanks pink, he did the job for a year, but parents said they couldn't keep driving him. A huge shame....

Charlie97 · 11/06/2014 21:33

Thanks all, your lovely.

But ...... It was not just me and Dsis, our GP, our MH team and the hospital were amazing, they are totally wonderful. Sadly through all this our DM passed away in May last year. Dsis was having another time being hospitalised. She did not want to attend DM funeral, but the wonderful staff at her hospital said it was best she did.

Do you know how wonderful they were, they took her with a one to one nurse to the funeral, they said all of the rest of us had to grieve, so they would attend to help.

The NHS, especially the mental health unit are just amazing.

I'm sorry imip, that's tough, Dsis needs to work for the need to do something as I am sure your Brother does. I have to say my DM was not too good with Dsis as she was too 'soft' or 'sympathetic' if that makes sense.

I'm so happy, I'm so proud of my Dsis.

She's been employed three weeks now.

She is struggling a bit with meals when she comes home, but I've bought her a slow cooker, she can do two meals in one evening in that. That maybe seem simple to others, but she does worry.

Thank you all again.

Wine Tonight! I'm so happy for her.

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Charlie97 · 11/06/2014 21:48

And to the MH professionals on this thread. Thank you, you do a tough job and often thankless. MH wards (the secure ones anyway) are hard to deal with, I was scared at times.

But, you are wonderful dedicated people

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