I don't know if it's my DP's culture (he's from the Southeast Asia) or his family education, but the way he likes to save money all the time is driving me crazy. What I now call his 'mad saving schemes' have become our number one source of argument.
This morning I explained that in order to get DD to go back to sleep I had to use a hairdryer. He asked me whether I realised how much this habit was costing us (apparently a lot). He also said that it was useless trying to replace normal light bulbs with LEDs if on the other hand we were using the hairdryer to put DD to sleep.
I was annoyed and short fused (DD didn't sleep very long this morning, I didn't get to do half the things I would have wanted, had visits coming for lunch etc), and things escalated very quickly into a full-blown argument.
He wanted me to find solutions such as putting a rubber band on the cold button of the hairdryer. I explained that I'd tried a white noise app but DD much preferred the hairdryer.
I should say that DP has otherwise spent a bomb on refurbishing our house (with mostly his money) and that generally for big projects he never questions the need for spend. It's the little things he minds (eg paying for delivery costs, buying milk at the local convenience store instead of the big Tesco's, using a hairdryer to put a baby to sleep, etc).
I think he was being unreasonable to ask about the hairdryer cost this morning, knowing how difficult everything already is with an 8-week old baby and a boisterous 2 year old toddler. I said that my sanity was worth far more than the cost of running a hairdryer, but that didn't seem to do anything.
I'm still angry at him. Am I the one being unreasonable?