Work trying to bully me into cancelling holiday

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worridmum · 07/06/2014 16:47

Sorry if this is the wrong place but this section has the most traffic and hoping for someone to help me.

Long story short is a booked my annaul leave in january in line with company policy and it was approved. After the approval I booked an expesive holiday to the USA for 3 weeks to see my parents as my father is in poor health and would like to see him before he deterates futher (long term problem with no possiblity of a cure sadly).

Now the crux of the problem last week my work colleuge is now wanting to start her metinity leave 2 months early than planned and now because our department is small one of us must be in the building for the department to run (I dont want to give too much details here as its very specislt field of work and dont want to out myself) and the meritity cover cannot start 2 months early than planned so my boss is putting large amounts of pressure to cancel my holiday and treating gross misconduct when I refused to cancel it as my manager blunty said when I asked is the company going to compestate for my finacel loss (non-refundable flights / hotel deposits etc) and she basically said tough luck the company WILL NOT pay for the loss of this money (roughly £3000) and I should just absorb this loss and consider it one of those things, which I replied no I am not willing to lose not only my last possible chance of seeing my Father before he passes away but also that amount of money which is a large amount for me.

Which is the reason she is quoting gross misconduct as I am refusing to cancel my holiday with only 2 weeks notice and that I am expected to eat the fiancal loss as well as prescous time with my father and my question is twofold

I am unreasonable to refuse to NOT cancel my holiday no matter that it will causes massive problems for the company and the second are they legally allowed to breech their own policies relating to booked holidays to be able to say my holiday will be treated as unauthrised absance and thus a gross misconduct offence even though I have all the documents saying it was authorised etc and finally if they are allowed to cancel my holiday at such short notice can force them to pay for my lost money so I am not out of pocket (travel insurnce will not pay out as it is not covered by their terms)

I am sorry for the long post and if it is in the wrong area and for any spelling or grammer mistakes as I have dylexia and no spell checker on this device.

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Fairyfellowsmasterstroke · 19/07/2014 19:29

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Marcelinewhyareyousomean · 19/07/2014 20:36

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nauticant · 19/07/2014 23:29

Some excellent advice above, for example:

The wording of the reference is to be agreed now and they are to be contractually obliged not to deviate from it.

So any gag order that we will sign will be on after the date of the thread so they cannot play any dirty tricks - not quite. The relevant clause must state that confidentiality applies as of the date of the agreement but you are not bound for disclosures before that date.

Get the thread deleted. It's not to do with breaching confidentiality. It's about your (soon to be) ex-employer handing over the agreed reference and, maliciously, including a link to this thread to give the impression that you're willing to bad-mouth your employer on the Web.