I'm an "arrive with seconds to spare" kind of person now I have kids. If I think I am going to be late for something I will do my best to let someone know. I prefer to make arrangement that are a bit flexible-"between 10 and half past" type of thing. If I have something really important to get too and there is a chance of bad traffic or similar I will set off ridiculously early and if I arrive way before the time expected I will wait in the car or get a drink etc. But I have had 2 occasions this week (and more in the past) where people have arranged to come to me for things then arrive up to an hour before the agreed time (and a definite time, not an in between thing). First occasion I was in the bath, second occasion this morning I was having a cheeky lie in when a neighbour popped in (actually in the house as is his way 
) way before arranged and before 8 am! I have in the past had people disgruntled because I am not in an agreed place 30 minutes before an agreed time. AIBU or should I be ready for arranged things way before they are meant to happen?!
AIBU?
To think people being really early for things are as inconvenient as people being really late?
Freckletoes · 07/06/2014 15:58
got a cob on
Love it 
haven't heard that phrase for ages!
No it's just predictable that some of us will come in and post genuine apologetic explanations for why being on time is a struggle (not just late, I've turned up an hour early for things in the past :( ), and people will respond with "that's bullshit, you just value your time more than you value others, how selfish".
I used to have this at work - events manager. People would turn up as I was setting up an event, often on my own, and refuse to go and have a coffee/amuse themselves whilst I set up the room, put out chairs, saw to speakers, sorted out catering etc. The worst was two ladies who'd travelled from Scotland to London and were THREE HOURS early (conference, takes ages to set up). They arrived as I did. Apparently having traveled so far, they weren't 'paying for some stupid London coffee at ten quid a pop' so I made them sit on chairs at the edge of the room, and being mean did teas and coffees last so they had to wait two hours with no refreshments. They could have got a later train, so I was entirely unsympathetic to their sighs at how thirsty they were buy a bottle of water FFS.
I used to get apoplectic, frankly. It's unnecessary, rude and inconsiderate. I had a proper fight (in a terribly polite, professional manner ) with a chap over it once. I had to keep an eye on two cash boxes until staff arrived, and he wouldn't budge, meaning I'd have been unable to set up and deal with the speaker (two rooms).
I threatened to cancel the day if he didn't leave and come back in an hour. He did. 
I've also switched off the lights and locked the venue door and hidden to discourage stupidly early birds. It makes me 
just remembering!
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