To want to leave the toddler dance class after poisonous post on Facebook

[OlderMummy1]

I take my 2 year old to a dance class every week. She absolutely loves it and all of the other mums seemed lovely. We have been going for over a year and I have a close friendship with a couple of mums but just know the others to say hello to.

There are 2 new mums in the group who talk all through the session. It is very distracting to the children and can be annoying, particularly when they are more focused on chatting than their children but these things happen from time to time at various groups I go to. The usual dance teacher is quite strict about parents talking but she is on maternity leave, the cover teacher lets it go.

There have been a few incidences over the last few weeks. One of the mums was chatting and didn't notice that her child had had an accident and done a puddle on the floor, another mum had to tell her. This week, again the mum was not paying attention and her child smashed a maraca on the floor causing it to split open and the beads inside to go everywhere. This was dangerous as it caused a safety hazard. Shockingly, the mum didn't notice due to talking, even when her child was sobbing. In the end her child was so upset that they had to leave.

Then yesterday a post appeared on the Facebook wall of the dance group with lots of mums tagged and the content was absolutely shocking! It complained about the talking mums but also made awful personal remarks....honestly if you read it you would be shocked! I was!

Now, the poster had a point as they do disrupt the class but there was absolutely no need for some of the content of the post. It would have been better to just have a quiet word with the teacher.

I now have to decide whether to enrol for another term. It is a lovely class and my daughter loves it. However, I now feel like I am back at school due to the bitchiness surrounding this incident. I am dreading going next week as the atmosphere will be awful and everyone will be suspected of knowing who posted the message. Am I being daft to just want a quiet life and not want to be involved with a group like this??

[TroyMcClure]

I laughed. I love it. Once you don't have to do these classes I think it's funnier

[TroyMcClure]

Or stop using Facebook ?

[springchickennolonger]

Yes, very Jeremy Kyle. I'd re-enrol your dd, rise above it all and stay away from fb!

[lljkk]

I think it's very funny. I would feign ignorance and re-enrol.

[TheFairyCaravan]

It's a nasty way to talk about little children, IMO. However, are the person's friends list open? If it is, can you not just scroll through to see who is the dance mum she is friends with, then avoid?

Don't stop your DD going to an activity she enjoys over this, it's not fair on her!

[HornyHandsofToil]

I imagine both the person who wrote it and the noisy mums will not be returning to the class.

[Joysmum]

I wonder if the 'friend' of this women is mortified or put her friend up to it?

[FunkyBoldRibena]

It's more than likely that it is one of the mums in the first place.

[softlysoftly]

How is it funny?

It's thick, crass and nasty about a child. It's not witty at all.

Facebook should be used as an evolutionary tool to weed out the permanently stupid like mn

op don't be a drama llama though just go and ignore.

[MaidOfStars]

Have I missed a suggestion that the comment could be addressed? I'd not hesitate to request that the user desists from such nastiness.

[OlderMummy1]

The comment has been deleted now so the teacher must have seen it.

[JodieGarberJacob]

If you take out the comment about the child which was cruel and unnecessary, hopefully some good will come out of it. The 'bints' may get the hint and either shut up or go elsewhere. The rest of you can carry on enjoying the class. I would pretend you haven't seen the comment, I prefer to stay under the radar with anything like this!

[DeWee]

It's a nasty comment, but if you take the nasty name calling out, it's basically what you wrote in the OP so it's obviourly been irritating you too. Hopefully those who have been causing the problems may well take the hint and either leave in a huff or sort out the problems, so the class may improve next term.

I think I'd just play ignorance if it's referred to.

[TroyMcClure]

its funny because it sums up what a lot of us ( not the saints on Mumsnet obv) THINK at these things

you can just imagine how horrific the class is

[lljkk]

I found it funny because I didn't read it as about the children at all. I read it as about two people (parents) who were very inconsiderate on multiple levels, oblivious to how others were affected. It's their oblivion that is funny. The kids were normal. The mums were not.

[JonesRipley]

It's funny because the FB woman is nearly as childish in her approach tomdifficult situations as a toddler. She has metaphorically pissed on the floor

[JonesRipley]

Troy

i agree that we often think these things, but saying them on FB is just childish

[OlderMummy1]

Well they're not so oblivious now probably.

[GhoulWithADragonTattoo]

I disagree with most of the others. I think I'd take DD out and find a different class where the ethos is closer to yours. You could consider coming back when original teacher comes back from Mat leave as it will have blown over by then :)

[Rosieotto]

Why are parents even in the class during the session? My dd's dance school do not allow parents in the class, they are welcome to wait outside, this applies to baby class as well where they can start at 18m, it only puts the children off )especially the more clingy ones) and like you say parents talking disrupts the class!

Don't talk your dd out of something she's loves, just stay out of it and refuse to get involved, I'm sure teachers are aware of it now and will hopefully put a stop to it

[OlderMummy1]

It's such a shame, it has always been such a nice class and everyone seemed very nice (unless I've been missing things which is possible as I'm quite oblivious to bitchy undercurrents).

I don't want to miss next week as it's certificate week and it wouldn't be fair on my DD. So maybe I'll go to that and see what happens. :-(

[OlderMummy1]

It's a class for 2 and 3 year olds so parents join in as well. I think the next class up is without parents.

[caruthers]

Every reason why I don't bother with FB is on this thread.

Delete account and get your life back.

[Thenapoleonofcrime]

I don't find it funny. The person who posted that is pathetic, they wouldn't ever dare in real life to speak up- even though saying 'oh, would you mind being a bit quieter' or even asking the teacher to say something general at the start of the class about how the class will be conducted.

As for saying something nasty about a a child and about the 'grandmotherly' looks- nasty, very nasty. That older mum could have a complex for years about that post, all because they didn't toe the line in a toddler's ballet class where the norms weren't made clear and where the teacher said nothing.

[thebodylovesspring]

Bloody hell op of course you should go again!

I would be itching to go and watch the fallout.

Love a drama that I cannot be blamed for.

Lots of 'rising above it' bollocks here. Go enjoy and report back.