To be pissed off about this? DP applying for same job as me

[CiderLover]

We have just moved in together, I work in a town an hours bus ride, she works a 20 min car drive away, has been working there for 3 years.

As I have moved to her home town I am looking for jobs closer to home.

We were sat having a meal the other night and I told her about this job which is ideal as it is my dream job, something that I have always wanted to do and it's local. She was happy for me.

Today she has emailed asking if it would be ok if she aopplies for the same job.

I said yes (who am I to say no) but now I am regretting it and thinking it's a pretty shitty thing to do given how enthused I was over it.

AIBU? Should I leave it or say something?

She's shown me her application and it's bloody good which makes me even angrier, now I feel guilty for being angry because I said it was fine if she wanted to apply. Arghhhhh

My sister dumped her university boyfriend when he did this.

Ask her, not us, and see if she thinks she was being unreasonable.

Her answer should clarify the strength of your relationship.

I think you need to talk to her about it, rather then letting it stew.

BTW, I understand why you said it was OK, you were caught off foot.

I don't think neither of you are BU to be honest. Maybe she should have spoken to you properly first about it though. Try not to see it as a direct competition between you both - there will be many applicants for the position so neither of you may end up getting it. It would make me be private about other jobs I wanted to apply for.
Still talk to her about how you feel, you do need to sort it out rather than let it fester.
Good luck.

Well, definitely don't tell her about any future jobs you apply for!

Well - she did ask you if she could apply, and you said yes. So YABU to be pissed off. You should have said no.

It sounds like she's a bit immature and thoughtless. She hears you talking about a good job and just says 'me too' like a kid without really thinking through the implications.

I don't think you are being unreasonable. You do need to talk to her about it though. What happens if she's successful and gets the job? I would be eaten up with resentment.

Ummm that is totally weird behaviour on her part! Why would you even think of doing something like that?? Of course she is bu, it is bound to cause strife if one of you gets it and the other doesn't.