To expect my Nanny to....

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.... give up her room/bed to visitors for the weekend?

Is it a reverse? How many is that lately? Boring.

I detest reverse threads and there seems to be an abundance of them at the moment
Any way, tell them that they are there guests, not yours so they should be making a sacrifice of personal space, not you.

their guests

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You're right, they' are wrong.

(though if they're a generally nice family, and you get on well with them, I might say yes in your position. Depends on how you feel about someone else using your bed.)

I was thinking, "exactly how OLD is your poor grandmama??"

But no, it's that age old problem - the idle rich with not enough bedrooms to go around.

Shame on you for the reverse though. I say go and sleep in the coal scuttle for that alone.

I don't mind reverses!

They ABVVU

Oops! Sorry. I didn't realise how much everyone hates a reverse. Won't do it again.

Glad the general consensus is that I'm right to say "No." to this 'request' (it was presented to me as a done deal).

Wow! Poor you! That's crazy! I have many reasons why I never want to do live-in but I'd have never considered this being something which could happen!

Reverse: no yanbu

Flippin' heck, I certainly wouldn't have given up my room for randoms to sleep in when I was an au pair, the cheeky feckers! Tell them 'no' and stick to it!

Do they have form for this kind of thing?

They have form for treating me disrespectfully, yes.

Unfortunately, I started this job just a few weeks after leaving my (I now realise, thanks mostly to Mumsnet), abusive husband and in many ways, they treat me the way he used to, so sometimes I'm aware of the WTF?!? moments, other times I doubt my own judgement, and sometimes I don't realise at all that they're overstepping the mark until I mention an incident in passing to a friend and see the look on their face

I have given my notice, and can't wait to get back to the UK. I certainly won't be doing live-in again that's for sure!

Wow! Good for you! You don't deserve to be treated so poorly like that, by anyone!

You could suggest that if they want to use your room they can simply let you go sooner and get you an earlier flight back to the UK - then they can do what they want with the room!

Of course you are NBU.
Well done on getting away.
Hope you have a fabulous new life back over here!

What twats you work for.

Glad you are leaving. Where are they proposing that you sleep - if they were willing to put you up in a hotel then that might be different .

Hahaha! I do like that suggestion mistlethrush. It's very tempting, but I have to hold out and work through the summer as they have demanded requested. References are so crucial in this line of work.

Daydreaming about and planning my new single, carefree life in London is what's getting me through...

rookie In my charge's room. There's a spare kid-size bed in there.

I think that if they were pushed for space, they were right to ask you - just in case you said yes and made it an option for you.

They would have been better putting their child in with them and the visitor in their bedroom - or indeed, asking visitor to sleep on the sofa!

Sad to hear that you're not enjoying your work - and good luck job hunting, there are lots of people wanting nannies here!

Yes, YABU. It's her room.

I suggested that very thing seza, and was gobsmacked with the reply that the child-size bed "wouldn't be comfortable enough" for her (the guest being a potential candidate for my job). But hey, who gives a shit about whether I have a good night's sleep right?

The more I think about this, the angrier I'm getting. People must see me as such a bloody pushover

Have they accepted that you're not able to do it?

Too confusing

Yes YANBU don't kick the nanny out of her room

Oh sorry after reading your are the nanny wanting to know if you employers BY.

No you are NBU for not wanting to give up your room.

Now you are going to get a load of YANBU or YABU without knowing if people have read your post saying your the nanny

pointless really. Just post the actual situation and get the right feedback.

And that's now even more confusing due to bloody autocorrect