To get irrationally irritated by adults referring to themselves as 'mummy'

[Stuckonthebaby]

Now I don't mean to their kids - my kids call me mummy and I refer to myself as mummy to them when relevant.

BUT it really grinds my gears when adult women refer to themselves as 'mummies' to other adult women. Try and arrange a night out with the girls; it's a 'mummies' night out; introducing yourself to another woman at playgroup; 'Hi I'm X, Y's mummy; talking to about parenting on social media; 'becoming a mummy is the most amazing thing ever' - blah, blah, blah.

It drives me crazy. I don't know why. Maybe it's just so childish and twee. I can't stand it. Can't say I've ever heard dads referring to themselves in this way. AIBU?

Oh god yes. Particularly irritating while still pregnant. My no doubt well-meaning boss, during discussions about easing my workload (due to job becoming too much for one person - not pregnancy related) once said to me, "You're a working mummy now". Freaked me out no end!

I do it but I'm lazy. Was at a do the other night and said to one parent, "Hello Chrisopher's dad, I'm Harry's mum". Have to find my roster that I misplaced in September.

My FIL calls MIL mum and dh tried this on me when we first had dc. He only did it once, I just loathe the sound of it!

YANBU. My FiL calls his DW ma rather than her given name, all the time. It creeps me right out. There is something very very wrong when you do that, especially when your kids are in their30s.

Seriously, don't sweat the small stuff. Having endured years of fertility treatment to get our much wanted son it delights me to be called mummy by anyone !!

Urgggggggggghhhhhhh!!!!!!! shudders
HATE it! Yummy mummy on FB as their "job" is just the most revolting thing ever.
Apparently you can be one in your 20s but in your 30s you are then a MILF isnt that just vile?

I have a friend who does this; her child is two and I just dont know where to look. And before he could talk she would do his voice for him "Look Auntylittlegreenlight, arent I clever putting my banana in that box" or whatever. Really fking weird. Slightly off post but it gets my back up as well!

I agree! I hate it when I go to the GP and the doctor says, 'and you must be Mum?

I don't see why this is a problem. How do they know who you are? You could be mum, aunty, a grandparent or a carer.

Or is it because they aren't saying 'her mum'?

Agree. I only refer to myself as 'mummy' when talking to the children (was worried there).

When I worked in a school I worked with someone who had to deal with parents. It was the first time I'd ever heard "mum is nice" for example in reference to a student's mother. I thought she was talking about her mum.

I'm confused....

Since DS1 started school, and has been going to all the birthday parties, I'll introduce myself to other mums (I know that's probably wrong but I'm obviously clueless) saying "Hi I'm nina, DS1's mum".
Geniuine question - whats wrong with that? Surely that's the sort of info they need? "Hi, I'm nina" is fine but the common factor amongst us is our kids, so knowing which is mine is relevant, surely?

Since I had my son I'm forever calling my mum "nanny" cant help it, just habit.

But YANBU - I went to the Drs the other week (small practice, family Dr know since birth) and he called me Ds's Mummy :(

Nina, I think that is normal. That isn't what is being talked about here. If you introduced yourself as - "Hi I am DS mummy" that is what being talked about. In that example, the woman doesn't give her name, because all she is seeing herself as is a mummy.

i bloooody hate it too. someone i know on FB always refers to her and her friends as the "yummy mummy's" which is grammatically wrong and you aren't that gorgeous remotely (unless red rum is the new heidi klum).

if i'm going out i hope people would presume i'm going out with friends rather than strangers, and so i don't feel the need to share with AA Sundry what sort of people i'm with.

if you weren't going out with someone who's a mutha would you say "I'm going out with my childless friend"?

it makes me rant.

(but i call dh "daddy altman" sometimes like darla (?) does on that suburgatory thing. it drives DH mad but i love the whole "daddy altman" thing and i pmsl when i say it. (dh is phoning the locksmith as i type ....)

See, I know I should find it infuriating, but I had infertility problems so thought it would be something I'd never ever get to say. So I do let myself say it just sometimes, and honestly don't mind if drs, teachers etc call me 'mummy' - in that particular context, it is who I am.

My undergraduate genetics lecturer insisted on saying "Now, if mummy passes down a recessive allele ... " ARGH.

Never said "If Daddy ... " - the male parent was always just that: the male parent.

Anyway, YANBU.

YES. merce, Chronically & FryOne the medical profession use of it and other familiar family names is the most rage-inducing. For me it's up there with 'baby' without the prefix of your (which I know is a real marmite crowd-splitter on here). AllTheUsernames horrendous woman. Truly horrendous. Have strength in any future dealings with her

My one and only encounter with the medical profession/world at large in this context so far was my booking in appointment, and it already started to grate in that short time. I'm doomed.

This is annoying. Another one I can't stand is when women refer to boyfriends or husbands as 'my man'. Women on Facebook are terrible for this.

'Simon cleaned the kitchen today. Love my man so much.'
'Simon passed a test today. So proud of my man.'

It's so odd and unnatural.

Anyone that describes themselves on fb as a 'full time mummy' irritates me.

Oh dear ... I refer to myself as 'mummy' - but only when I'm talking to the cat

Pobble, that's true.

But, DS's medical record has parental details on there. If the Dr can't figure out if I am 'Mum' or Aunty, wtf is wrong with just saying 'and you must be Nutella?'

What's annoying is that your name seems to be automatically deleted in favour of Mum/Mummy.

I might be misreading but if i was to say to my DC "go ask Daddy" or DH to say to DC "go ask mummy" that pisses u off?? Or do u mean calling each other mummy/daddy when your children aren't there is wrong?? I'm not sure which one u mean

and if we were at grandparents house and i said to DC "why don't u tell grandma what u did at school today?" is that cringe worthy? Coz surely that's how DC know who family members are etc

or is it just the fact i am incredibly tired means I'm not understanding this thread

when dd wants something, she stands stock still and shouts at the top of her voice "Ian! Ian! Ian!"
she might have got that from me

DS1 does that. When he's about to do something he shouldn't he stops and yells 'Tom'. Well it is DPs name and he is the one that should be stopping DS1 from doing whatever he shouldn't be doing whilst I'm feeding DS2.

oh nickelbabe and enormouse these are hilarious!

He he he! I do this all the time. Especially with the dog.

Wrt adults calling their own parents mummy/daddy rather than mum/dad, that is a class thing. The upper and upper-middle classes tend to continue using mummy and daddy throughout adulthood. If it annoys you, you are probably not part of the landed gentry.

To all those who are a bit confused, what we are objecting to is when other adults refer to you as 'Mummy' on occasions whereby you would generally be called 'Vivi' or 'Mrs. Pru' were you not with-child. Likewise women who refer to themselves as 'Mummy' to other adults.

NB - 'Vivi, So-and-so's Mum' is acceptable in situations whereby identifying onrself as paret of So-and-so is relevant.

Bloody typos bah

I don't do the "We're mummies" thing, but I do refer to my girlfriends as girls. We have girls nights. That is what they are, I am hardly going to call them 'grown up women out without their husband nights' . Ladies night sounds like what they have at the strip club on Mondays.
We refer to our husbands as the boys, as in, "Are the boys going to be back in time for dinner?"
I am sure when they are 60 we will still be calling them the boys!