To get irrationally irritated by adults referring to themselves as 'mummy'

[Stuckonthebaby]

Now I don't mean to their kids - my kids call me mummy and I refer to myself as mummy to them when relevant.

BUT it really grinds my gears when adult women refer to themselves as 'mummies' to other adult women. Try and arrange a night out with the girls; it's a 'mummies' night out; introducing yourself to another woman at playgroup; 'Hi I'm X, Y's mummy; talking to about parenting on social media; 'becoming a mummy is the most amazing thing ever' - blah, blah, blah.

It drives me crazy. I don't know why. Maybe it's just so childish and twee. I can't stand it. Can't say I've ever heard dads referring to themselves in this way. AIBU?

[RedRoom]

Very irritating, but not as irritating as fully grown adults who still call their mothers 'mummy'. That's a whole new AIBU...

[PrincessBabyCat]

Calling your husband Daddy?

I wonder why daddy has sexy overtones but mommy doesn't.

[MissMarianHalcombe]

My SIL does this, she doesn't even have any children

Just a dog...

Need I say more?

[slightlyconfused85]

I think I only wrote that op coz the word mummy is being used so much on this thread. Is it just the word mummy you hate then? Not mum? I don't think I overuse it but tbh I don't really care if other people do. People can define themselves However they want.

[zeezeek]

OP YANBU. I HATE IT!!! There are two people in the world who are entitled to call me mummy and they are my DDs. To everyone else I am Zeezeek, Mrs Zeekeek or, my preferred title, Professor Zeezeek.

[frames]

Hate it. Can you do this 'mum'? If faced with this I point out that my DC is aware I have a name, which can be used. I am not friendly about explaining this!

[merce]

I think there must be some new policy in the caring/medical professions that tells them to address people like this. My father is quite elderly and I have had to sort a carer for him - take him to hospital appts etc. Everyone refers to him as 'dad'. So, for instance, when I call one of them to discuss him, they say things like 'what does dad like to do in the evenings?'. It's insane - he isn't THEIR dad - he's mine. Why on earth can't they just ask 'what does your father like to do…' blah blah. Have had it from loads of quarters so can only assume it's some new dictate from on high. Have to bite my tongue not to say 'sorry - why are you telling me about your father?' in facetious fashion…...

[browneyedgirl86]

I hate it! To me it's right up there with people who put their occupation on Facebook as "yummy mummy"

[bubblegun]

Yanbu it makes my skin crawl. I would only say mummy if I was speaking to an under 5.

DH is a medical professional and refers to patients as 'mum' even when recounting a story to me later . I can't make him stop. He says that's normal and everyone at work does it

[FryOneFatManic]

bubblegun

Can you tell your DH, that just because everyone in his profession does it, that doesn't make it right.

I find this dehumanising. Being a mum is only part of who I am. I have a name in my own right and expect people to use it.

And yes, I have been known to correct someone on occasion.

[resipsa]

'Fraid that 'night out with the girls' sets my teeth on edge much more. If you're a 'mummy' posting on MN, you're probably not a girl but you are a mummy.

Horses for courses etc.

[IDugUpADiamond]

I knew this married couple with 2 kids, they called each other 'mummy' and 'daddy' in front of everyone. It was beyond cringing. They also dressed in matching Ralph Lauren clothing - all four of them. They were truly nauseating.

[sittinginthemorningsun]

Oh God. Yummie mummies, Mummy chums, night out with the Mums,

Oh and could I give a special shout out to my cousin's wife who once, as a new mum, handed a cup of tea to another cousin who was also a new mum, in front of me remarking 'us mums need to look after each other' (I was not a mum at the time). What is wrong with people like that?

[nickelbabe]

thing is, although it is totally reasonable to be pissed off at it, sadly it happens to us all.
we get so used to having to refer to ourselves as mummy so the child knows our name, that it sticks.


although, when dd wants something, she stands stock still and shouts at the top of her voice "Ian! Ian! Ian!"
she might have got that from me (well, I can't move when I'm being pinned to the settee by the toddler!)

[WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid]

missmarian I have friends that call themselves mummies because they have a dog. Drives me batshit crazy.

[enormouse]

nickelbabe DS1 does that. When he's about to do something he shouldn't he stops and yells 'Tom'.

Well it is DPs name and he is the one that should be stopping DS1 from doing whatever he shouldn't be doing whilst I'm feeding DS2.

[Kaluki]

Ugh yummy mummy is the worst expression ever! My SIL has a necklace saying yummy mummy which her DH bought her as a 'push present'. Twat!!!
I used to know a woman who used 'we' to talk about her baby all the time "we need a nappy change" "we are a bit tired today". It used to make me a bit stabby tbh!!!

[everythinghippie29]

Oh god, I do this! I hear myself do this but I just can't help myself!

I'm using the terms mummy and daddy lots trying to help DS differentiate between us as he learns his name and starts to speak but it is so deeply ingrained now I can't seem to stop.

I referred to my DP as Daddy whilst talking to friends the other day.

I need an intervention!

[everythinghippie29]

Disclaimer I have never and will never refer to myself as a yummy mummy- there may be hope for me yet!

[Vintagejazz]

There is something unbelievably smug about people referring to themselves as 'a mum'. I dunno, I imagine they're the kind of people who buy changing bags with 'Yummy Mummy' slogans on the pocket, and get outraged when someone without kids parks in P&T spaces, and assume they get first choice of holidays in works because they're 'a mum'.

[RaspberryRuffle]

YAsoNBU OP! Makes me cringe. My MIL does it. Some colleagues do it,"oh I'm a mummy, I need to sit down" etc. I really don't like the talking in third person or "we". "We want some booby wooby milk don't we". I just about made it out of there!

[FidelineandFumblin]

Vet called me mummy, presumably meaning the cat's

[calmet]

I was nodding along agreeing with this thread, until it struck me that I talk about being their mummy to our two pets

I'll get my coat...

[Gennz]

I imagine a "mummies' night out" to look like this:

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Calmet I am exactly the same! I asked our dog if "daddy" had given him breakfast this morning punches self in the face

[Minesril]

Yep, I'm due in a few weeks and I can already see this irritating the shit out of me. I already get furious when the word 'baby' is used as a proper noun rather than 'the baby'. Incredibly patronising.

Although we too refer to ourselves as mummy and daddy with regards the guinea pig!