We had our first 'mum's night out' last night. 8 of us went - all parents of children in the same class at school. I'm reasonably friendly with them, friendlier with some then others depending on if we've had play dates etc.
I don't drink ever due to health issues which has always made me stand out like a sore thumb particularly through university but given all these women are in their late 20s / early 30s and 40s I thought perhaps it wouldn't matter. But it seems nothing has changed! 5 of them were drinking heavily and basically tried to put pressure me and the other 2 women who although we're drinking were not drinking shots etc to get as drunk as them. By 10.30 the drinking mums were singing loudly and behaving like teenagers. Making crude remarks and shouting stupid things at people.
The three of us that were sober tried to make a break for it but ended up being coerced into another bar which was vile. Think feet sticking to the floor, smells like wee and vomit. Someone was sick all over the floor and the bar people just put a chair over it. Ive been to some dives over the years but this was a whole new level. It was rough in there. Particularly when sober I suspect. By 11.30 me and the other two sober mums decided to go home. Drunk mums told us we were 'boring' and 'snobs' and I think two of them have fallen out with us. On FB there are now some petty statuses about 'had a great night shame some people aren't any fun'
Anyway, at the age of 32 Aibu to not get pissed and want to spend my evening in a dark smelly pub? And to rather go out for a meal? I don't think that makes me boring! It's just a different choice I suppose. We didn't say to them not to get drunk and go home - we said to have a nice evening and we would see them on Monday. Why is there such pressure on people to drink?